Attachment Theory Quiz: Which of the 4 Styles Are You?

Attachment theory is a branch of psychology explaining the purpose of human emotional attachment. Emotional attachment enables us to form our most important relationships. Have you ever noticed you are dating the same kind of person over and over again? This might not be your imagination or coincidence. It could be your attachment style.

Attachment Style: Our tendencies and patterns of how we connect to the people in our lives.

We connect to the people around us. We attach to parents, partners, kids, and friends. Research has found we typically have an attachment style–we connect with people in the same pattern over and over again.

Our attachment style can be a scary predictor of our relationship success. Our patterns of attachment typically are set in childhood and tend to follow us around wherever we go.

Want more details on the attachment styles?

00:00 Intro
00:33 What is an attachment style?
01:18 the 4 Attachment Styles
01:22 Anxious Attachment
02:14 Avoidant Attachment
02:52 Secure Attachment
03:15 Fearful Attachment
04:01 Quiz
04:29 Treat your relationship as a secure base
04:47 Seek secure partneres
05:02 Avoid Rocking Relationships
05:14 Believe in Growth
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[esthergambrell]

Interesting. I think I was a Fearful who married a Secure which explains why I confused some of my past relationships. Now, I'm so happy and at ease with my husband. We share everything without being overwhelmed by the other person. :)

[XaviOvf]

Why when it comes to attachment do we always talk about romantic partners and not friendships? :) Just wondering: I think advice regarding friendships would be very useful too! Thanks for your video. 🙏🏼

[GearReviewDepot]

I'm actually a little of all 4. I guess I need serious help. Lol

[reinapatricia]

I love to hard and get hurt, so therefore I'm not worrying about relationships, just want to continue to love myself and live a fulfilling life by myself.

[qays]

I haven't seen your videos in awhile. Good to see you're still amazing as ever Vanessa!

[CristianaCatólica]

Great video. I recommend you Personal development school channel for all of this info.

[helensid]

This information was very useful, and the quiz! The answer "surprised" me at first but I've realized is really accurate. Thank you so much

[Earthsky]

Think i'm definitely Anxious Attachment...When i fall in love it's like finding a unicorn that farts glitter and shits rainbows....No wonder i'm always so terrified to lose them...Inevitably out of paranoia and sheer doubt of her sincerity, i'll do or say something that irretreavably shatters everything, successfully sabotaging so I can tell myself I was right all along...She didn't really love and accept me...she was just another fantasist....Now i'm realizing it's me that's the fantasist.

[danaconnolly]

I wish everyone would stop saying fearful avoidants are so rare…we exist and it’s hell being us. Hearing that it’s so rare makes us feel even more alone and also dismissed because “it’s rare so it’s unlikely you’re one of them” how the hell would you know? Have you monitored and surveyed the entire population? No. You haven’t

[msmventures]

Ohh it’s her! I am reading her book yesss Captivate!

[RohaanCchauhan]

I Anxious Attached Person with a Avoidant Attached Fiancee how can i change my style to Securely attached style, can you please guide me on that?? Thank you 😊

[KimDsmom]

Avoidant here, who has grown more secure through introspection, education, spiritual growth, wisdom and a relationship with Christ. Currently in a relationship with another, less self aware and improved, Avoidant, who is eight years older than I. It’s not easy; I actually thought I might be an Anxious, but believe it is only due to being with an Avoidant who is so much more of an Avoidant than I am! Lol. I get him though, because, in addition to being the same attachment type, we have very similar personality types. I like my space, so don’t mind that he gives me so much by default… and, it’s easier to give him the space that he needs, because I need it too, so I understand it. Our struggle is how to advance our relationship when we are both happy to be by ourselves! Lol

[threespoplacks]

Idk why but I may have the fearful attachment lol although I thought I may have the avoidant one instead

Edit: turns out I have a secure attachment style lol what 😮🤔

[littlepanda]

is it possible for someone to be avoidant at the beginning of the relationship and transition to an anxious one later in the relationship?

[ApisBull]

Surely there must be a reason why you didn't post the link in the description area.

[andreaceleste]

I’m secure in my friendships, avoidant with my family, and anxious in love. Is that normal?

[MsArtaUSA]

Secure style attachment!
I guess i am normal after all!

[Taebooty-yk]

I guess I have fearful attachment. But I will take the test to confirm the result.

[Skylardietsche]

Damn. Thought I was anxious, but now I think I'm fearful