Your Attachment Style Test

In this video we'll discuss the attachment style test. I'll give you some critical information for analyzing your results, and determining what the test means for you! Enjoy :)

[trampersad]

This really makes me want to cry . Most people don’t even have a clue what is wrong with them .

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True story: yesterday I was thinking "oh I wish Thais could just make a constructive overview of all the attachment styles so I can send this to people as an introduction"
.... et voila! ✨💫❤️ :)

[Lady_de_Lis]

My parents were absolutely amazing. I felt and still feel complete openness and trust with them. No fear of abandonment at all. They are happily married still, and their relationship is rock solid. They are best friends. The closest thing to a problem I had from my parents was my mother being severely depressed and medicated during one segment of my childhood. I remember at around 8 or 9 years old worrying that she would commit suicide. Thankfully, she got better, so that was only for a short time.

I think what destroyed my ability to form attachments was bullying. I was relentlessly bullied between 3rd-8th grades. The worst years were 4th and 5th. During those two years, I had zero friends. The only "friends" I had were girls who only pretended to be nice to me in order to make fun of me in more unique ways and to get me to break school rules. I was so desperate for any kind of acceptance that I made myself think they were my friends.

Now in the current day, I have a difficulty with being overly clingy / jealous / insecure when it comes to friends and loves ones I already have (which I have to force myself to suppress most of the time). And I have another issue where I keep people at arms length when trying to make new relationships. I haven't made new friends or meaningful relationships of any kind in 15 years.

I used to think I'd overcome my trauma from my school bullying, but clearly I haven't. I just don't really know what to do about it...

[catherinemorgan]

Secure!!!! Thanks to years of work with your videos and those of many other amazing people. I spent years being anxious then fearful avoidant . I thank you so much!🥰

[StevenLeMieux]

Figuring out I'm a fa was the single most important part of my adult life. Before all this I looked into mental health disorders and obsessively studied psychology never understand why. I didn't realize research to be prepared to predict to feel safe was the actual reason. People misunderstand and believe at time I'm coming across as co descending when in reality I'm more understanding than even I wanna be. It was me myself I didn't understand now I do.

[McGeeJ]

I accidentally triggered an FA last month, not even knowing what the heck I did. I have now put myself through full time Attachment Theory School and it's been having such a profound effect on my life. I wish I'd known this information years ago, but I sincerely believe better late than never. Thanks so much for all you do.

[RedBroski]

I've learned from the test that I am dismissive -avoidant. I can say with complete confidence that it is the single most accurate thing I have ever read about myself, ever. It's great to have some kind of closure!

[natalie]

Worked with the leading twin psychologists in the country for years, Dr. Barbara Klein. Learned so much about attachment, amongst a plethora of other life changing realization and understanding. Will leave it at that. Will always battle XYZ (no details here), but it’s all about acceptance.

[rimjhimsingh]

64% Secure
27% Dismissive avoidant
0% Anxious preoccupied
9% Fearful avoidant

Coming from someone who was predominantly FA.

Thanks Thais! Love your work and dedication.

[TheVibeMindset]

Absolutely LOVE how you covered the inner child patterns many of us say attached to! You are amazing!

[karensarlo]

I refer my clients to your school, book and videos all the time. Thank you for making this information so accessible and understandable to the average person...and cost effective for those who struggle financially as well. You and your team are making a huge difference in many lives. Please continue sharing your knowledge with such kindness and compassion.

[Badmomsclub]

Thank you so much for your videos! I have been doing a lot of internal work on myself and finding out that as a fearful, avoidant disorganized attachment person. I’m really good at destroying my relationships. I’m currently in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant, which is what led me to finding out more about attachment style. Not only is it helping me but it’s also helping my boyfriend.❤

[knackforknickers]

Thais, thank you. I've been watching some of your videos over the last few days and I'm beginning to feel my progress exponentiate. This information, in tandem with your own experience, is helping me grow beyond the cocoon I've been hiding in throughout my 26 years. I know I have a long way to go, but what you've provided on your channel alone is serving as a next-level launch pad for me and my words in a YT comment could never capture the expanse of what that means to me. From the bottom of my heart and the (now-forming) top of my mind, thank you.

[Nomadic_psyche_]

On Your test I got 24% on dismissive, fearful avoidant, secure and 29% anxious preoccupied. Does that make me disorganised because it’s basically the same for all of them??
I’d think I’d found the one I related to the most with each one you described...I will say, this video has made me Realise I feel like I’m dismissive with my father, fearful avoidant with my mum and anxious with my friendships and romantic partners. Is that also normal??

Getting my head around attachment theory has been revolutionary for my mental health. And Your videos have been THE most relatable and easiest to understand. You describe everything so well. So thank you for your clear articulation, I’m finally learning to understand myself in a way I never knew I could.

[kitti]

My mom has mental illnesses. And I seen how she is with other kids and what she was like with me and how she is with her "step daughter" and its awful. Whenever I had an emotion she would scream at me and tell me she will make something real go cry about. If I was mad i wasn't allowed to me. She would come home angry and yell at me and my dad and she thought her excuse of having a bad work day was a fine to act that way. I would wake up in the morning each morning to her rushing and slamming doors n yelling at me. Or rushing at the store dragging me around n telling me to hurry. She usually would have her fists in a bunch and a tight jaw. She would scream at me "WHATS WRONG WITH YOU!!?" All the time. But then other times when she needed love she would let me have my emotions and cuddle with me and laugh n play with me.

[itchythescratchygirl]

Your content is super helpful, and you are a good teacher with great passion for this topic. Thank you.

[niceprincesslucky]

Secure: 17%
Dismissive Avoidant: 33%
Fearful Avoidant: 39%
Anxious Preoccupied: 11%
I’ll come back in a year to see my progress 😌✨

[BexnRN]

I first tested equal thirds in each attachment style with 5% secure. So Twister 🤣
As I do the work and try to honestly retest, I found that anxious preoccupied fell away first and most easily. I have done the most work in the fearful avoidant area, as it edged out my other scores. I recently retested, and it has gone way down. I’m finding my dismissive avoidant tendencies the most tenacious and difficult to overcome, due to my childhood. It has opened up a lot of sub/unconscious wounds leading to more self- awareness. It’s an exhausting process, and I’ve put dating on hold for now. I can’t remember where or how I found Thais and PDS (here on YT somehow), but it will shape the rest of my life. It’s the most worthwhile thing I will have ever done for myself. I’m eternally grateful.

[viewerabundzu]

your eyelashes have a very secure attachment style!

[inarizic]

I’ve learnt so much from not only this one but many more of your videos. Thank you 🙏🏻