10 Ways to Deal With Gaslighting

Find out 3 reasons why you shouldn’t call someone out as a narcissist or gaslighter, as well as 10 ways to deal with gaslighting.

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Introduction (0:00)
Why You Shouldn’t Label Someone (0:30)
Approach it With Caution (2:14)
10 Ways to Deal with Gaslighting (3:47)
Outro (9:34)

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[jcnlaw]

Experienced divorce lawyer here. I can’t tell you how many times opposing counsel gets gaslit by their narcissistic client and then tries to sell me on their client’s lies. I call them out and strongly suggest they go back and closely examine their own client because I’m not buying their crap.
When they do go back to their client to substantiate their story, the client almost always tries to deflect and change their earlier narrative. Get educated about personality disorders. If you are being gaslit in a relationship, walk away. Do NOT marry. The divorce will be long and expensive. Stay strong!

[mikehess]

A narcissists favorite keyboard buttons are Ctrl+U

[edmoran]

I believe that the best way to deal with a narcissist is to remove them from your life.
They can't hold or use anything against you if they have no access to you anymore. It's quite simple, because if you confront them with their behavior you are helping them create new methods to use that aren't as easy to detect.

[jamesrebbechi]

No. 6 “Realise the narc has stunted personality and emotional development”. Understanding and fully accepting this is the key to it all. It is the key to recovery.

[Eliasc]

1. Identify and acknowledge what's going on. Examine and document the overall patterns
2. Get an outside perspective
3. Take a step back, create space, and observe their methods
4. Remain calm
5. Don't buy into the gaslighting, but also don't defend, or attack the person who is gaslighting you. The narcissist will just double down. In their mind, their survival depends on upholding their illusions
6. Recognize that the gaslighter has stunted personality and emotional development. They are unwell
7. Don't gaslight them back
8. Identify your needs, values, and the vision you have for your own life. Restore your sense of self and self-worth
9. Self-care
10. Be realistic about how much you can change, and how much they can change

[benkanobe]

I have not been gaslit. I have been gas incinerated! Your videos really helped. I thought I had lost my mind. Example: 5 years ago I went to and joined a gym with my daughter (I was 61 years old then). I paid for a personal trainer as I know nothing about "The gym". About a year later after constantly complaining about the cost of my membership (and lying about what was being billed), she said one day: "You look ridiculous! Your friends and your daughter think you are an old fool! Why do you keep wasting our money?". (I hadn't felt that good or felt I looked that good in my life and I was a triathlete before if was fashionable back in 1975!). Well, she convinced me and I quit the gym. I later learned I was correct as it was only $31.00/month and not the "...over and hundred dollars a month!" she claimed we were being billed. I look back now and remember friends telling me how great I looked and wonderful it felt to slip on a pair of jeans with the same waist size I had in High School. That is my example.

[jonnibegood]

So accurate...😬👌🏼

Don't engage... ✖️✋🏼⛔

[xio]

Thanks for all your help. I just came out a relationship with a cover woman that cheated and discarded me. It's rough but im also glad the abuse is over. It's hard to accept the "perfect woman" act she put up for so long was fake.

[wolfgodfenrir]

S-Tier advice! This is exactly what I did in my relationship with my covert narcissist ex. Just don't engage with the negativity! I used to beat myself up all the time over this, I stopped because my friends started to speak up to me about him when they saw how it was affecting me. I was a mess of confusion and sadness, always asking them what I was doing wrong, what could I do better for him? His delusions fell apart for them too. Positivity BEATS negativity!

Another great video, you've helped me through one of the most difficult times in my life understanding who he was and is, and being able to accept it has allowed me to recover enough to keep going. I can't change that I love who I thought he was, and part of me always will, but it can't and doesn't hold me back.

[zenoofcaledonia]

Recognise, grey rock and boundaries are the only way to keep stoic. Don't let people control your emotions

[harperlewis]

The one time you *don't* want to share the possible diagnosis so the person can get the proper treatment, because they turn everything around you: call you the narcissist, play the victim, start smearing you to anyone who will listen, accuse you of gaslighting, though they don't even know what it means...etc Wish I had this advice 5 years ago. She discarded me, kept threatening divorce, then when I said OK, let's do it... has been fighting it, blocking, stalling, doing everything to avoid the inevitable facing the destroyed 12 year old who she really is (father was a narcissist and mentally abused and scapegoated her) and have to "adult" in the real world.

[DP-nejv]

Hi Lise thank you for giving such great insights into how narcissists operate. Im a guy whose been stuck in a relationship with a narcissist on and off for like 7 yrs. Its a complicated situation but your videos are helping me see things more clearly. I just wanted to give a little feedback for what its worth, I’ve watched many different videos by many different coaches and therapists and I have to say that your knowledge and the way you express yourself so succinctly is better than most. You are obviously very educated and your understanding of mental illness and disorders of the personality is impressive. You come across as extremely credible. Dont worry so much about getting everything perfect. I can see you do a lot of editing I would recommend that you just be yourself and don’t worry about it so much. As a viewer I personally like when people show that they are human and little mistakes here and there can show your personality and make it more relatable and charming. I hope this comes across okay, you obviously have a wealth of talent. Thanks so much and wishing you great success.

[licmir]

My ex-girlfriend would acuse me of doing something by changing the cause and effect. When I pointed out the correct chronology and showed that I merely reacted to something egregious that she had done, she’d reply: “Well, I’m not a historian, I lose track of when certain events happened.”

However, instead of apologizing or discussing the real issue, she’d change subjects or make other complaints. Since I thought that she loved me and that I could trust her (spoiler alert: I actually couldn’t), I naively believed that she had just made a mistake about the facts, I had no idea that a person could do that on purpose to someone she claimed to love and care.

P.S.: She’d often accuse me of being unfaithful or of not being trustworthy regarding women, and how that made her feel terrible, but I later found out that she was the one cheating on me. She was gaslighting and projecting her behavior on me.

[dennisjohnson]

Thanks for outlining that so eloquently. Hearing the last part about truly realizing their deluded state and not getting sucked in was really helpful. I haven't hear that explained so well before.

[chxwv]

Lisa if I had any boundaries before I met her I don’t think I would have been in the shape I’m today or had not removed her from my life asap after seeing the first red flag

[zorro]

Your videos have been very helpful to me and make me feel a lot better about a toxic relationship I’m in. Thank you for making this advice free and helping me navigate through it

[gregoryritchie]

Well done! Dealing with narcissist without getting sucked in necessary to survival! I know!

[dayveda]

Regimented daily breathing exercises saves lives. Go for it!

[nellahermes]

I made the mistake and told my highly narcissistic Ex that he's a Narcissist and he said " Why are you saying something like that? We had a nice night and why are you ruin it now? Good job". Got angry and super defensive. Days later he sent me a message "If you think that I am a Narcissist then YOU don't know my real me as I am such a caring person". And this guy is opposite of a caring person.

[deepblue]

I stopped contact after the last email full of lies and gas-lighting. Email filter -> straight to trash. Phone numbers blocked (for landline and mobile phones). Social media modified.