First time foster parent vs. experienced foster parent takes a child placement call

[cierrablue]

I hope that loads of foster parents see this and are inspired by what they see to let this guide them to make emotionally healthy choices for the children and themselves.

[CaptchaNeon]

Sounds like basically “Here’s a kid, we don’t know anything about them, good luck” aaaand that’s how kids end up in bad homes that doesn’t work for their particular trauma

[cheerfulbutterflies]

As a former indigenous child, this woman deserves gold metal. This lady is kind, respectful, and so healing. This may sound strange, but I am healing through her videos. Not only is she teaching how to be a 21st foster parent, she is teaching us foster children ( I am very old now) how to be respected. This woman is fire, water, earth, and air. I have thought hard about her videos, and every time I cry ugly cry. This young lady is wise beyond her years, her heart is kindness, and learned how to be an authentic human living in chaos. However, she gives it all she has, loves unconditionally, and understand that immense pain (in a little person, or teen) is standing in front of her. Young lady, you are healing an old soul. Thank you, you do important work and you are talented. I promise you, as a over 50 year old, I remember the kindness and they impacted me. Their kindness made me the person I have become, I have two degrees. As a former foster child, I crave a forever home with a forever job. A real family, that loves each other, understands each other, and helps each other. Without judging, or ridicule, or having to justify something you do not understand. Why? It is an adult problem and children have no experience in understanding. This young lady understanding is impressive, beautiful, and makes me believe in humanity. Thank you

[paris-lovefromalaska]

I just wanted to say, I absolutely adore your shorts and you. You show a side of fostering that most don't get to see. Fortunately/Unfortunately my children were in foster care for 4 years and we got so lucky to have an amazing foster family. And you show the same warmth, love, understanding, and communication that our family was treated with. With proof of fosters out there like this it makes it easier on the heart. I appreciate you. Thank you...

[telliex]

"4 year old removed for general neglect" hits me in the gut like a freight train...

I was removed for severe neglect (as well as other things that my father was never tried for) and I was 11. Thinking of ANY neglect that gets a 4-year-old removed just makes me feel so helpless for them.

[hannsolotx]

Damn....my foster mom got this call for little me. Miss you, Mom. RIP

[TanekaMiller]

Child Protection don't care about the small details like a real Mom does! This is highly relevant! THANKYOU 😢

[deborahdavidson]

Thank you. You have helped me so much. I am not a foster parent, but caregiver for my 7 year old granddaughter whose mother died suddenly a year ago. I am more mindful of what I say and do with her, thanks to your example.

[anacoanagoldenflower]

I really appreciate these "first time versus experienced" ones, my girlfriend and I are planning to be foster parents to teenagers once we have our own place! And that you're trauma-informed; we both live with the effects of the trauma we've each gone through and plan to be a therapeutic foster home too.

[theevolutionsystem]

As a psychology major, you hit AMAZING points when it comes tonhow trauma and neglect can affect how a child presents. Thank you for educating about these topics.

[amandamelvin]

It's really sad and so traumatizing for the little ones and even teenagers to have to wait such a long time to find a placement when they're just missing their own home and to come to someone's house who has such a big kind and caring heart like you, you're definitely one of the few and I wish there were more people out there like you who were fostering. Unfortunately, a lot of foster homes and a lot of Foster parents, just don't care about the details about the little things that make the children more comfortable and the families more comfortable. I have heard of kids being taken away for General neglect and put into a foster care home that could be an hour away from their home out of the city they lived in they could have mental health issues they could have mental health defects and I have seen those children such with autism, regress on potty training and if they were doing good at home all of a sudden they're back into diapers for a few more months. It's a traumatizing traumatizing situation. Thank you for bringing that to the Forefront of people's eyes. And just because somebody got their child taken temporarily by cps, does not automatically make them a horrible parent. Thank you for doing what you do.

[charitysheppard]

I have such complete respect for GOOD foster parents, and having worked many years in healthcare, I know that good, loving temporary homes are so hard for social services to find. I love how you are giving advice to perspective foster parents. I could never bear to have the children taken away, and I don't know how you do it. So often, birth parents are given chance after chance, which I know reunification is the goal, as it should be. Often, in the hospital I have seen those children after reunification with parents that weren't ready yet, or reunification time after time for the child to be harmed time after time. I cannot imagine how you deal with the anxiety of this child that you have loved, kept safe and protected returning to a parent that might not be ready. You have my respect and admiration for what you do!!!

[rerelux]

I was in the Arizona foster care system and it was terrible. It’s terrific to see dedicated foster parents so I hope people really learn from your videos

[BloomOfLife]

I have my first orientation next week and your videos have inspired me to foster

[Sandra-nrpu]

You are an exceptional example of wonderful foster parent I wish there was more of you in the world

[bananablisss]

I nanny but I love these videos because she’s so insightful about the needs of children. I would try being a foster parent if the time is right for me.

[xXbuggahbooXx]

I love that you give examples of what questions to ask before they come, so new foster parents know how to ask for what they need to make the child more comfortable. I promise, all of those questions would leave my brain as soon as I heard "I have a young child being removed for DV"

[fire_krime]

when i become older and more stable i want to be a foster parent. your account is making this alot easier for me to understand/grapple. thank you

[nessa]

When you have kids that are the ages you say in the videos it just hits so hard 😢God bless you 🙏 ❤

[catholiclife]

Heartbreaking but happy your there for him.