The 5 Biggest Mistakes That KILL Attraction...

This video, I'm gonna show you the five biggest mistakes that kill attraction. These are things that literally will dissipate all of the attraction. The magnetic energy that would be going towards you, it literally repels people from you.

And a lot of people don't even know they are doing these things. So, awareness is key to transformation. Awareness is the key to transforming the energy, so that you are magnetic
from the inside out.

And the first one of this is actually one of the most powerful ones. It's understanding magnetic energy. And that the key is to kill the neediness. Neediness kills magnetic energy and attractive energy.

Neediness is when we energetically need someone else to either validate us, approve us,or give us affection. And what happens is, when we are seeking this on the outside, we are looking for it outside of ourselves, and we are putting such a big demand on other people, so that they can then help us to get our needs met.

And what ends up happening with this too is it ends up making the other person, it turns them into our metaphorical mom or dad. Because one of the reasons this neediness is active on the inside is because when we were kids, we felt like our needs weren't being met, so then what happens is, we tend to attract people into our life to then reflect back the same unmet childhood needs.

This is why, if you felt maybe physically or emotionally abandoned growing up, you felt like mom or dad physically or emotionally left somehow, you may then attract people that also abandon you in that way, because there's something about it that feels safe.

So what happens is, you attract somebody that may not be choosing you, somebody that is energetically or emotionally not there, because it feels safe from childhood.

So then in a way, if I could get this person to meet my needs then I'll be closing the loop from childhood. I'll then have my needs met. And then I'll know that I'm worthy. I'll know that I'm good enough.

And this is why one of the most powerful things you could do is to kill the neediness. Now, how do you do that? Well, what you realize first off is that a lot of times what happens is, you've internalized a degree of something that says, there's something wrong with me.

Because in childhood, maybe mom or dad left, your parents divorced, something like that where then internalized and said, there's something wrong with me. I'm broken. And what then happens is, in order to compensate for that there's a level of energy that's activated within that then is trying to be different to then get approval and validation.

So remember, the things you craved growing up and the things that you crave in other people, you must provide for yourself and realize that the story and the belief is that they have the approval and the validation that I'm seeking, realizing that that's something that already exists inside of you.

The emotions are already there. If I told you right now that maybe your like celebrity crush or your high school crush or whatever, somebody that you are very attracted to, that you think about and imagine that this person, what if I told you this person has a thing for you?

They're talking about you. They hope that you're gonna date with them or something like that? If you believed it, you would probably start to feel, "Oh my God, this is amazing. I feel so great, I feel so validated, I feel so approved," for a period of time and then you'd probably get in your head about it and be like, "Oh, I hope they val, I hope they like me.

I hope they take me back. I hope all this stuff happens." But the funny thing is, the emotions already exist inside you where you'd be like, "Oh, I am validated. I am good enough." But then if I told you, "Oh, actually, it's a joke. And they didn't say that." Then you'd be like, "Oh." You'd feel, the emotions would leave.

So the energy is already inside of you to feel magnetic, to feel good enough. It's simply about giving yourself permission and letting go of the old belief that says that you have to wait for the external to change before you change on the inside.

So the key to this is realizing and letting go of the belief that says, I'm broken and there's something wrong with me. And realizing that the neediness you're craving in someone else, you can meet your own needs by validating and approving of yourself in a powerful way.

Neediness is what repels love and non-neediness is what magnetizes love. And one of the other ways you get rid of neediness, that I thought in my life, is I focus more on being present to the moment than trying to get something out of someone else.

Now, that's the second thing that kills neediness is manipulation. And many of us don't know it, but we are master manipulators. Now think about it.

[FrancisTrach]

I've found personally that the only way to become ATTRACTIVE is to stop being REACTIVE. If you're REACTIVE to something, then automatically you LOSE yourself in the external world, DRAINING your true power, THINKING that you NEED thinks outside of YOU to complete you . The key is to always return back to your SOURCE and know your intentions, and you'll ALWAYS end up at the perfect place at the perfect time and manifest what your heart truly wants. Great video Aaron ! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos and follow my Life Purpose ! Much Love 🙏

[knowitintobeing]

Always observe your thoughts and reflect before you act. When you have needy thoughts, make sure to let them go and come back to knowing how amazing you are. 😊 You are the prize! 💖

[ElliottPiano]

Thank you so much Aaron, i went through a hearbreak that is really painful, but i was authentic, honest vulnerable and really expressed my emotions for the first time and it gives me great comfort no matter the pain . You have changed the way I connect with the world and i'm in a lifetime dept .
Thank you

[nathaliegrammer]

Being vulnerable with my crush mostly means being nervous af.. and I fear he would be repelled by my nervousness. But as Aaron said I should value authenticity more than how I migt be perceived. That's what I'm actually doing. And I think that the right person would not judge someone because of their true emotions being exposed.

[rubin-healmysocialanxiety]

“What you seek is seeking you.”

-Rumi


Y'all are attractive AF! Have a nice day ❤️

[elana]

This opens up so many amazing perspectives! Thank you Aaron! Every time i feel like i open something new in an idea that i thought I already fully knew

[graceypooh]

Thank you Aaron. The fifth point is what I struggle with the most. In the las week I dedicated time to really listen to what you have to say and let me tell you there was transformation that took place. You were able to do in a week what I failed to do in 6 years. Thank you again. It has now become a daily thing to watch your videos and then go on about my day. The amazing turn of events that take place in the 24 hours are amazing. I used to dread getting up in the morning after losing all I had, money, friends, home, job car.... I hated my life. After listening to one of your videos it changed... THANK YOU.

[jenninemclaughlin]

Thank you Aaron for making these valuable points. You're speaking right to me with the boundaries and abandonment and all. Thank you!

[jacksoncox]

You helped me realize I was the one being manipulative without even realizing it and I was just going back to another situation that felt familiar that was keeping me trapped in old habits. Thank you so much for your info, it’s really helped me grow as a person

[tai]

This is awesome advise thank you Aaron. Exactly what I needed to hear today.

[TeamCadenceStamper]

I clicked on that link but it didn't work 😩, thx for the great video, I actually played it for my teenage kids because I'm always saying my son tunes into everyone else and abandons himself. They've had a rough childhood unfortunately but it's made my son super empathic but I want it to empower him, not the other way around.

[JustinTimeTo]

Great video, another solid information bomb!

[NathalieLazo]

Remarkable person reading this.. It’s going to get better; all it is a season of opportunity to grow and be better than before. Challenging times are meant to strengthen us, not to break us. Success doesn’t define to what happened to us; it is how we choose to deal with our circumstances. The more you grow and develop as an incredible person as you are, the more things will change for the better. Forgive more (for you), be grateful for even the smallest things (we have it way better than someone else), choose love over ego, choose humility over ego (humility is strength), and finally, invest into new skills so that your future self will thank you. Our lives will change forever the more we grow. Be thankful for the challenges for we know something greater is coming. Love you always - Nathalie ✨❤️

[user_abcxyzz]

You really push this notion of childhood abandonment wounds as the source of neediness. That was your experience I get it. What other reasons could there be for someone having anxious attachment. I'm just not convinced that the absence or neglect of a parent can be the only reason. I want to consider all possibilities but so far you only preach about childhood abandonment wounds. I think your view is biased and should educate if and what other ways a person became this way

[joelklevnas]

Hey Aaron any videos coming up soon for us who are not dating? 🙂

[jacksoncox]

Thanks for the video Aaron! I hope you have a great rest of your day

[elh]

Aaron why do I always attract addicted people into my life ? Cause my Uncel Was an alcohoilic and Father a gambling addict?

[YesWeGranCan]

Thanks…you explained me…she knows…sorry I haven’t heard this before…😢

[pjayram]

I like your shirt, where did u get it from Aaron ?

[PARLAYSDREAM]

Learning a lot from your knowledge. Unfortunately your meditation link isn’t working 🙏🏻