5 Biggest Mistakes That KILLS Attraction

We all want attraction to last as long as possible. But, sometimes we get carried away and don’t realize we’re making some mistakes when it comes to attraction. Those mistakes can hurt that relationship and diminish the attraction someone feels towards us. Or maybe, it can affect the attraction we feel towards someone else. So what kills attraction? Watch this video to find out.

Writer: Stela Kosic
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Angela Yena Kim
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[MalandrosNyclo]

I wish you had existed while I was growing. I had to learn all of these myself through experience. Sometimes I made some mistakes that hurt people feelings and I was never able to salvage the friendship. Thank you Psych2Go for helping people of this generation become more emotionally concious and, as a result, healthier.

[isisjanineoliveira]

1. Insecurity
2. Jealousy and possessive behavior
3. Being overly critical
4. Spending too much time on technology
5. Negativity

[BaBu-lbxi]

I didn't realize how negative and insecure I've acted lately, not even on purpose. This was an amazing reminder. I hope I can do better for my special someone and myself.

[oraoraora]

I feel like people don’t understand that it’s okay to have these flaws in us but we don’t acknowledge that it is okay that we have them and we don’t even point out that we’ll work on them. Just as it is your partners job to support you, your job is to work on improving them too.

[maajamohan]

Happy to be learning with Anya's help ❤️

[masterbitzback]

Depression is a curse given by life, we can't be shiny happy people everytime, smiling and been seen confident is like telling a lie.

[Bluple_studio_becreative]

1. 0:25 Insecurity
2. 1:14 jealousy and possessive behavior
3. 1:47 being overly critical
4. 2:32 spending too much time with Technology
5. 3:14 negativity

[ChocoParfaitFra]

We all have insecurities, and from my experience there will be people who will accept you regardless
You don’t have to think “I have to be confident in all aspects” cause it’s impossible. What is true is that some insecurities are a true problem in the relationship and they may take the form of manipulation, jealousy, anger, bad communication, giving up on different things and so on

[nekomaige]

Thanks to my depression, I had developed all 5 of these at one point and that’s never left me. Even after finally being okay it takes a lot of work to resist but I do my best by thinking positively to try to negate the effects.

[DerPinkie]

As someone who's cursed by depression it's hard to not fulfill those mistakes.
Even though I'm improving my self-consciousness it seems impossible to keep it up constantly

[emilykam]

the first one is definitely my partner. he always criticizes himself and says negative things about himself, so I always try to cheer him up and make him feel better. it gets pretty exhausting at times but i don’t know what else to do but to keep helping.

[fore]

So yeah, we broke up today. It was mainly my fault at the end. I guess I was very insecure, not showing my face because I always feel like it would change something about the relationship. I was a bit jealous because she sent screenshots of her flirting with people. I was the opposite of overly critical so I guess it's even worse. It was an online relationship tho, but I was probably too clingy. I was pretty negative at the end because I thought she didn't like me anymore, but I was positive before.
Stay with the people you love before it's gone. Trust me, life isn't that fair.

[anthonyp]

1) Insecurity
2) Jealously/possessive
3) overly critical
4) Too much time on technology
5) negativity

[DB-jcns]

I’ve been in the talking stage with an amazing young woman recently. I made several comments about how she’s out of my league and shorting herself by being interested in me. It lead to her starting to lose interest until she checked me on it. Once I started hyping myself up and relying less on her validation for my confidence, she started appreciating my change in energy. Don’t let a good one go because you can’t let your own negative thoughts go.

[BCSchmerker]

+Psych2go *Thanks for a list of to-avoids for relationships, especially significant:*

0:24 Insecurity
1:13 Jealousy and/or possessive behavior
1:46 Overcritical behavior
2:31 Too much time with technology
3:12 Negativity

[Raickei]

I'm the insecure guy, one day I just stopped trying and caring what people thought about me. Now I am in my 30's without any friends or close family. I don't see a future of having any social life and maybe it is just meant to be.

[nightrider]

Those who like you can see through your insecurities and like you even more. Love is a strange thing: you just see a person and already know whether you will love them. Together with all their insecurities, depressions and who knows what else.

[i_sekai]

2 months ago i've been invited by my crush to her place, said i could bring me pc and we could play so i did (we both are fellow "gamers") but i definitely ended falling into n°4 and that killed the flirty vibes that was going on. We talked about it later on and she said she moved on. I know i'm still deeply inside hoping for another chance and until it comes i work on myself to deserve that chance, hopefully won't be foolish again, wether it is with my crush or another person i can resonate with, i hope to give the best of me and bring the best of them, good day y'all hope no one mind me venting here, pursue your dreams and let's appreciate life and this channel!

[andris]

Recently I realized that I shouldn't be too insecure and self criticizing in front of others, because it pushes away people. And when someone says me for example, that my voice is cute, it's hard to not respond "no, it's terrible, how can you like it?", but instead I just try and respond with "Thank you :)"
Still I'm always feeling that people are just being too nice when they say something good about me, but.. even if they're mistaken, it's still nice when someone compliments you

[trevise]

for number 4, a more generally applicable thing is spending too much time on your interests or hobbies when trying to spend time with them. like if you went to a mueseum and went off on your own and ignored them, or constantly read or knit in front of them while they are wanting your attention. not saying stop doing what you enjoy, but time with a person is time with a person