We Need To Talk About Inappropriate Age Gaps.

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Chapters!
0:00 - Intro/The Elvis Argument
6:28 - Lana Del Rey and the glorification of Elvis
7:49 - Scott Pilgrim
8:37 - Care/Of
10:25 - Scott Pilgrim Resumed
18:41 - No Hard Feelings
22:32 - The origin of "I'm dating a teenager" but it's funny!!!
27:49 - Call Me By Your Name
34:26 - Palo Alto and The James Franco Effect
35:39 - The connection between creator and creep
37:17 - Celebrities Who Dated Teenagers
47:19 - Do you want a part 2 or nah?
47:08 - Bye Bye

[zarinapena]

Lil fun fact about Priscilla: Jacob Elordi got casted for his menancing aura and his overpowering height. The purprose was making Elvis visually more predatory.

[greenbeanb]

it's crazy how Harry Styles was involved with so many adult women when he was a teenager and instead of the media talking about how creepy it was HE got framed as a "womanizer" who likes older women

[Martykun]

seeing a creator feel the need to explain who Elvis is has been the biggest reality check in a while for me

[milk]

My mom dated a 25 yr old when she was only 14 in the late 70s. She even ran away with him for months and my grandparents allowed this. She still to this day acts like the whole thing was normal, but she is extremely mentally dysfunctional and suffered with addictions her whole life. Times were different, but there's is a reason times changed. People now understand the long term damage of these types of relationships.

[glitchedphoenix]

if your "soulmate" is 14 theres something very very wrong with you

[sexiest_mfs_alive]

A 14 year old would not be a sophomore, they would be a freshman or a 8th grader. So to put it that into prospective, Elvis was a 24 year old dating a 8th or 9th grader…

[vikkirademacher]

The weird age gap wasn’t even the biggest problem with No Hard Feelings for me. It was the fact that she was constantly pressuring her to engage in sexual acts when he very clearly was uncomfortable. It was so weird.

[its_me_danii]

the fact that the comment section is DIVIDED on this matter is genuinely concerning.

[joshrandolph]

A 10 year age gap is definitely NOT a problem, the problem is the ages they are when they are dating, 14 and 24 is bad and problematic, but 30 and 40 is NOT bad or problematic

[DaileyDoseOfJoseph]

"times were different back then" is just as good as "boys will be boys"

[hayliekendall]

im a teacher and I HATE how the student teacher relationship thing is always fetishistic and romanticized in tv. so yes I would love to see a video about that because people don't talk about it aloot

[hydropipedurmom]

a few months is okay
1 year is okay
2 years is okay
10 years between an adult and a teenager is not okay

[britb]

The author of Call Me By Your Name said he finds 12 y/o girls attractive soooo i think that says everything i need to know about him and his work

[MistySophie]

"Call me by your name" always made me uncomfortable. I remember my friends fangirling over it because it was 2 boys, while I only saw an age gap and a sus relationship

[kayland.]

I *hate* when people are willing to accept predatory behavior when it's someone attractive or when it's an older woman with a younger — boy.

*Edit:* y'all — *sigh* my friends, I'm not talking about lgbtqia+ right now. If I was, I would've said so.

[donotlendbookstome]

There were never any incidents where my dad was grossly sexually inappropriate towards me, but “Roman Polanski did nothing wrong” was the hill he wanted to die on, and when I was 13, his insistence that I was a full fucking adult basically groomed me for predators.

The thing that saved me, ironically, was stealing his battered paperback copy of Lolita; because as fucked as every subsequent adaptation - including those authored by Nabokov himself - were, the original text functioned very, very well as an indictment of any adult who would’ve been interested in me at the age of 13.

(But apparently, that was not a point my dad took away from the novel, or from the experience of literally being my parent.)

TL/dr: My dad fucking sucks and I no longer speak to him, but reading Lolita at 13 served to warn me away from adults who sexualized me.

[hannah-kvbd]

I feel like age gaps are fine most of the time as long as you meet when YOURE BOTH GROWN ADULTS the problem with these is that one person is always a literal child

[doefarris]

Calling Priscilla Elvis' "soulmate" is fucking wild since he was emotionally and physically done with her after she had Lisa Marie because he couldn't see her as a girl and a mother at the same time (according to Priscilla herself), because surprise, surprise, he's just a nonce.

[kyliesmith]

Saying that "times were different" is a bull crap excuse. In the 1950s٫ the family show Leave it to Beaver has an episode where Wally٫ a teenage minor٫ dates an adult woman. This is treated VERY seriously by his family and friends and Wally is played as a victim throughout the episode. People know when things are wrong.

[Reallyroug]

I love Scott Pilgrim vs the world but Scott dating a high schooler to get over envy isn't a pro gamer move