Narcissistic Upbringing: Why You Don't Remember Your Childhood

In this video, I discuss the reasons behind memory gaps in those raised in narcissistic families. Some might have many vague memories, while others may only have a distinct few.

Learning about this will help you understand your childhood better, stop self-gaslighting, and overcome self-doubt caused by your upbringing.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[ericb]

I remember all the abuse. Everything else I forgot.

[leslie]

My mother was narcissistic and I was strong willed. The two didn’t match. Narcissistic mother’s see their daughters as a threat.

[Sheyshel]

I was living full time in my imaginary world, and these are my childhood memories. With some glimpses of reality here and there.

[smustipher]

I remember a friend remarking "you never talk about your childhood". My reply: "there's nothing to talk about". 😢😢😢

[detritivre]

My childhood memories have mostly been filed under "not worth remembering".

[YogaNidra_]

I’ve always wondered about my lack of memories, save a handful. Not having a solid sense of self rings true.

[onlyjlee]

Boy, does this hit home. I have absolutely no memory of childhood before the age of ten. My adoptive mother was and still is a very cold woman (towards me); she even admitted that she wanted to return me to the adoption agency at four months of age, said there was "something wrong with me". And I've been the target of her disdain for 53 years and counting. Your YT videos have been such a blessing. And I'm now beginning to see myself through a more positive lens. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

[dafloridaman]

Thank you confirming this Jerry! The only thing I remember from my childhood are looking outside of windows at school and the house of chaos wanting to run away and find a new life.

[Ebeling]

My childhood memories are very sparse. Spent a lot of time in my room where it was fairly safe or out of the house if I was allowed out. My wonderful aunt (my guardian angel) used to take my brother, my cousins, and me to her family cabin. Those memories are the strongest and happiest. Other childhood memories are when I was always afraid or in 'trouble' with my narc father. Struggling with demons now at 72!

[lockedintogod]

This is the "Jerry is reading our minds again, helping us to make sense of it all and helping us heal” Button

[elgorp]

I have memories. But they're shadowed by the violence, embarrassment, feelings of being alone and shame. Every good memory had a catch. If I bring up something I perceived as okay to my brother, he'll tell me something bad that I forgot and vice versa

[FreedomAboveAll]

Omg, word "family" become so triggering to me lately. And word parent causing nausea and pain in stomach.

[taniafrances]

I have almost no memory of my early years, everyone I told this to found it hard to believe me. It's amazing to get some clarification

[rachc]

My only memories are flashbulb memories (rarely happy, mostly traumatic). Don’t remember much of daily life, I can “feel” childhood, mostly nervous feelings and shame. I must have lived my childhood feeling nervous and anxious most of the time.

[elizakontra]

The problem started when I started dating.
My mum and my sister gona crazy.
I am 40 now.
Still going.
I had to step out from the family.
For my own peace

[moxymaxx]

My husband does not talk or remember his childhood. Cannot remember going to kindergarten. Only remembers riding his bike. To this day has never had a good friend. Very timid around men. I remember most of everything. It is difficult to share with him as he does not have memories, period. I feel sad for him. He hated his mother when I met him at age 16. She had a "higher" opinion of herself. Difficult to be in her company.

[jennyweyman]

I was hypnotised once and my childhood memory was the comfort of sitting on my grandfather's lap with my head on his chest. I can still smell his clothing.

[SusanKornhauser]

I must tell you that I have complete memory of my narcissistic mother’s awful behavior…almost like I’m watching a video….I’m known in my family for remembering everything….i believe I have this skill as a reaction to being gaslighted by my mother….i refused to forget what was happening…I remember it all!

[GiancarloGiannantonio]

My fiancé has all these stories about her childhood… memories, birthdays, trips. I had very few… to the point where I was concerned I had the beginnings of Alzheimer’s (I’m 30 🤦🏻). Why couldn’t I remember anything? I remember certain trips yeah but almost nothing pops out at me (at least positively).

This right here though? This makes sense… thank you