How To NOT Be Annoying in School

Do people at your school call you annoying? Does your crush get annoyed when you send them messages or try to talk to them in person? How do you change their minds and get them to start liking you? In this video I share what it takes to not be annoying to your middle school or high school friends and crushes.

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[TheJoshSpeaks]

QUESTION: Have you ever been called annoying by someone in school before? How did it make you feel? Leave your comment below!

[sergiom]

I get called annoying because everyone hates my personality

[mosakoakane]

I generally feel annoying, I'm generally quiet but when I'm around someone literally anyone I get talkative, or keep making stupid jokes. I only feel stupid after the class and I just don't wanna show up the next day

[luigimax]

I get called annoying usually around 5 times a day at school but the reason is because I try to act funny because it makes me feel good making people laugh but I try to hard and make super annoying stuff that messes with the whole class. I also cut into peoples conversations and don't know how to be quite.

3 Year Update:

Yo guys, just an update, im doing a lot better now, I am maturing and getting better at conversation and confidence now. What I did is I try to think about my words more carefully, don't try to yell over people for their attention but be more like "Guys I got something to say, " and if you start talking and somebody cuts you off, just keep talking but don't try to yell over them. A lot of it is also just common sense, so it really depends on the scenario how you talk, just interact with people really. Also, when you speak, speak with total confidence, if you don't people won't take you seriously, whether they mean to or not. I also learned a lot from motivational videos from Dre Drexler, Hamza, and Charisma on command. Also, you don't need to blurt out whatever you think is funny, think about it and think about it carefully, especially with delivering the joke, because I still do this and when I do, I usually just get upset at myself and beat myself up for a bit. And the last thing, don't take life so seriously, don't be afraid of anything, it doesn't help you being afraid all your life of thinking "What if they don't like me?" "What if they think I am annoying?" etc. Because at the end of the day, nobody really cares, you see say stuff and you don't care, why would they care if you say something weird? They will acknowledge it and forget in a few minutes, just learn to get over yourself and stop seeking others' approval. When you are talking to somebody, change it from "I hope I'm good enough, I hope I'm funny, I hope they like me." To "Do I like this person? I am funny, I am good enough." Mindset is key, if you are always telling yourself that you are weak, annoying, and everything else, you will be. If you tell yourself that you are strong, wise, and well-spoken, you will be.

"Call things that are not as though they were, "
Romans 4:17

If you have any questions for me about talking to people, specific videos about stuff, anything, just let me know, because I see that I still get people replying to this often saying "I have this exact same problem, " Or "Most relatable comment, " It's been 3 years since I posted this comment!

And LAST thing, patience and time is key to getting what you want, work up to your goals, you won't get them overnight, keep fighting your flesh (What tells you to eat what you want not what is good), and eat good food (you don't need to do crazy diets and calorie counting, just eat till you feel satisfied, not full, and choose fruit over candy, etc.). Confidence and mindset are key to winning in life.

[ZaysLifestyle]

i get called annoying just cause i ask questions and try to build up conversation but people dont get tht im a curious person

[coasternamegenerator]

I'm never called annoying, but I feel annoying.

[emxx]

Gotta love it when your “best friend “ doesn’t want to be in a dorm with you because you’re”annoying “

[ruixe]

i have never had any real life friends. when i was young (primary school), i was labelled as annoying. now, i am in secondary school, people hate me because i am not impressionable. im just hated my whole life.

[_jellyjam]

I only get called annoying cause I'm loud 😂😂

[xddDracian]

my shorter tip: don't talk to anyone and just stand there and listen
be a loner.
be one of us.
be that one kid who eats on a toilet seat at lunch.

Edit: Its been five years since I commented this lmao and I've gotten over the whole edgy-high-school phase lmao. Ill be keeping this comment and pfp as a memento of the cringier past.

[Ruegiddinsxxx]

I have ADHD and everyone thinks I'm annoying and I'm constantly regreting everything and I can't sleep at night

[thetrombonist]

Now this is a prime example of why I’m always quiet.

[deathstar]

I asked my crush out and she said yes we are dating now!

[bobcloset]

I have high functioning autism and everyone avoids me because I am impulsive and well, simply weird. I am working on it, it’s sort of getting better, but not really. Sometimes I really wish I never had autism.

[YTSylantys]

Then how tf do I enter a convo if she’s always around her barrier of friends

[isabellaciccarelli]

two of my friends in school have recently told me that two different people think im annoying but didnt tell me why. honestly it hurt me and im trying to figure out what i have been doing but tbh i havent noticed anything people might think is annoying. i always try and be friendly and happy but all i get in return is hatred and jelousy...

[nobody-vnfu]

how to not be annoying :














just don’t talk, that’s my suggestion

[randomjg]

Hey josh I'm real quite in school but when I talk I feel like I'm annoying people but some people say I should talk more but I feel embarrassed when I do

[penishead]

I was the annoying kid for a long time. Afterwords, I tried my best not to be awkward or embarrassed by just shutting up, but would start to show a lot of negativity and just started being random. I hated being in school, and wanted to just be invisible. I dread going back to school, but your video has helped put into words most of the things I was guilty of, giving me a clear list to help me work on myself to make sure I can be approachable and a respectable person.

[juuzou]

I dont know why my classmates hate me.
There was one time when i cracked a joke
Nobody laughed
But when somebody else cracked a joke
They all bursted out with laughter