How To Be A Man

The idea of manliness has grown indelibly associated with the idea of being cool. We’d be wiser to shift the masculine ideal towards a new idea: warmth.

FURTHER READING

“For approximately 80 years, the notion of what a man should be like has been heavily influenced by the idea of ‘cool’. The cool man doesn’t try too hard, you don’t see them floundering about in a panic – but they succeed anyway. They are physically confident, they can scale a mountain or saunter down a deserted street in the middle of the night; if they have to kill someone they will do it neatly with minimal fuss; they don’t worry, they are self-contained and sure of themselves; their trousers are always a perfect fit; they express themselves briefly – but their words are always to the point; they’re not meek in the face of authority; but they don’t crave power themselves: they are independent...”

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[randommantweeny]

It's great having a free internet therapist

[Sol_Invictus]

“Being hurt makes you realize the importance of being kind, and being kind is not the same as being weak.” - Joe Rogan

[behroozshahdaftar]

As a Highly Sensitive Man who has often felt condemned for being sensitive and kind, I thank you for the video. Much love and respect.

[philmunda]

A cool man at times, a warm man at times, a stoic man always.

[cadetcrockett]

“The good man is the man who, no matter how morally unworthy he has been, is moving to become better." - John Dewey

[thepeacetimebookclub]

"Temperature's rising babe"

[francescoocchipinti]

How to be a man: just be yourself, respecting others, as every other human being.

[tebellomokgomole]

“The essence of a real man is vulnerable well handled”

[nnamffohsaile]

You're a man if you know when to be cool and when to be warm.

[sarsarouf]

I can't support you financially, but i feel like i have a duty towards humanity to give you a like and a comment every time.
From Syria, thank you

[itsasetup]

Could you imagine if there was a “how to be a woman”?

[TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

Suffering can mold a man to be compassionate for others

[alfredoalfaro]

The trick is to be warm, but know when to act cool.

[OsukaMbalali]

A cool man also doesn't watch YouTube videos on how to be cool.

[chewyfishlegs]

No matter of age, race, religion and etc, this has got to be one of the wholesome youtubers I've ever seen.

[niltomega]

I'm 55 and through the years found that being manly, believe it or not, is never showing anger. When my wife or kids were angry, and ranting at me, I took the punches and showed compassion and interest in their grievances. Over time they saw me as the rock of the family. Unwavering, steadfast and yes a punching bag for their emotions if they need it.
Being angry means you have become emotional. THAT emotion is reserved for physically defending loved ones or yourself. Showing anger means you have lost control because anger is a secondary emotion to fear and frustration.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose control. Be the dependable rock. Be a man.

[nickzero]

"How to be a man" steps
1)Suffer
2)Struggle
3)Repeat 1 and 2

[saseanne]

you must be swift as a coursing river, with all the force of a great typhoon

[sveiki]

this video is outdated, everyone is now trying to be a Chad

[MI_]

"A real man is not necessarily the one who can take down another man physically but rather he is the one who remains calm and collected during hardships and has great patience"

-prophet Muhammad (PBUH)