3 Signs Someone is Projecting Their Insecurities Into You

In this video, we're going to talk about the phenomenon called projection. Projection is a defense mechanism used to deal with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. We all have times when we project our own insecurities onto other people. Sometimes, this happens unconsciously, and we don't even realize it. In this video, we're going to explore the different ways in which projection can occur, and how you can overcome it. By understanding projection, you'll be able to stop falling victim to it and start living your life to the fullest!

DISCLAIMER: This article is meant for educational purposes. We are not attacking or diagnosing any individual(s). If you feel you or a loved one is projecting onto others, please contact a mental health professional.

Writer/Researcher: Monique Zizzo
Editor: Brie Villanueva
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Gabriele Garcia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Are you guilty of projecting? If you are, how do you prevent yourself from doing it?

[mr.krinkle]

I think projection happens because the insecure person wants to believe that another person has that same thing that they're insecure about, so they can feel better about themselves.

[khalilahd.]

Unfortunately this is something I’m definitely guilty of. Sometimes I don’t even realize I do it but when I do the main way I prevent it is by being more self aware about how I feel and why I’m acting the way I am. Just being honest with yourself really helps so I hope this helps someone else! ❤

[traskindustries]

I just lost my “best friend” two days ago because they projected their insecurities onto me and I couldn’t be bothered fighting for someone who actively wanted the worst for me. Sucked, but I’ll find better cause I deserve it and I’ll keep moving forward.

[thatguy]

word for word my dad once told me "you'll never succeed in life without me." he really never could've been more wrong.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Repression 0:40
2). Reaction 1:36
3). The blame game 2:33

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[stayhappylittlemermaid]

“Every human walks around with a certain kind of sadness. They may not wear it on their sleeves, but it’s there if you look deep.”

[Khaozdubz]

Actually, the way I stopped projecting my ideas and own worries to other ppl is the same way I stopped worrying about other ppls projection, I simply stoped caring too much about others opinions on me. Yes when someone important like family or friends say something about you it's harder not to worry about it but I started analysing every opinion and if it's suitable for me and my own thoughts and goals in life. And at the same time this helps with my own projections because now I think more if my opinion is worth or not to say it. It's more simple than it looks...

[ArtairMcKinley]

The way people continually project onto me is the reason I’ve become even more selective social than I already am. I don’t have the patience for it 😭

[nickmarch]

I had to change myself for myself.
Let them be wrong about You.
There is nothing for you to prove.

[douglaskaplon]

This seems like something everyone has done a least once in there lives.

[mentalhealthdocumentary]

Projecting insecurities onto others is a common defense mechanism used by people to avoid dealing with their own issues.

[yeddareacts.]

I’m that one person who took people’s comments about me seriously. My insecurities got the best of me and now it’s causing me frequent mood swings and strive to be perfect. I feel the pain but don’t want to admit in front of all the people that I trusted. As a result, i started to hate and look down at myself. I just want to be normal.

[sunburstshredder]

I can definitely relate to the reaction one. My ex had expressed concerns that she would never be able to become a therapist (her dream job), and I told her that my goal was to become a professional musician. When we broke up, she said "I don't see you going anywhere in life, you'll just be sitting in your hole, playing guitar and writing songs that no one listens to."

[hotskaterchic]

Projection is so painful & it can actually mess you up mentally. Seriously, i just found out someone was projecting their insecurities onto me & tbh it’s quite sad. It took a toll on my mind tremendously and made me have thoughts i never have. She also made ppl harass me also.

[johannestynjala]

I find it likely that every single one of us has projected our insecurities at some point. What we NEED to do is embrace our insecurities as an integral part of ourselves. As long as we project them we avoid taking responsibility for actually addressing them. When we don't address these insecurities our inner demons eventually come out and start causing damage. When we embrace our insecurities and then continue to embrace them we ironically begin to slowly improve in those areas, laying the foundation for turning our inner demons into inner angels. So, embrace your insecurities. It's going to be okay, in the end. 😇❤

[ingrid]

I was raised by a mother and a father who had a very difficult childhood and they projected ON ME. My mom told me stuff to me that regarded my appearence such as "you're too fat, no man will like you like that, "I'm thinner than you and I'm older (when she was obviously not thinner than me)", "no man will like a person that behaves like you (talking about my personality and my way of being)" and more and more.. My father always told me I'm dumb. I remember being a kid and doing math homework, and he was teaching me and I couldn't understand, and he would just be soooo mad when I did a question and said I didn't understand, he was like "HOW DID YOU NOT UNDERSTAND????!!!! OMG.." and then I just felt bad cause I really wanted to understand it and I just wanted him to explain me again. I learned English by myself and my father listen to songs in english and he calls me to translate it for him, and if I take A SECOND to process the phrase he says "HA, YOU DON'T KNOW ENGLISH!!!!". Dude, I'm starting to realize much stuff in my life! No wonder I ended up being in a relationship with a BIG NARCISSIST who told me "I ALMOST CHEATED ON YOU AND IT WAS YOUR FAULT" and I STOOD IN THAT RELATIONSHIP EVEN AFTER THAT AND OTHER HARD STUFF FROM HIM. He was really inconsiderate of me and my needs, just like my parents were, and would always put me down when I came to him talking about something that I achieved. Everyone says I'm a good singer, AND I KNOW I AM! I LEARNED IT BY MYSELF AS WELL! My boyfriens would say stuff like "people on the internet are fake and they will tell you good things just to bootlick you", and I would answer "C'MON.... More than a hundred people liked my video that I was singing and once a person from another country found and shared my video out of nowhere!" and he would say nothing. I think I'm adhd and since I was a kid I was treated differently by my family, which led me to think that I'm worthless or just dumber than everyone cause I was very clumsy since I was a child, and being treated differently made me feel like a burden or a shame, and till this day I do EVERYTHING TO SHOW OFF and show my parents and my family that I have good stuff about myself so they can value me. I know I'm very intelligent, creative, kind hearted, but not accomplishing material things make me feel like shit and less valuable. I never have dated someone, like, in a reaaal relationship till last two years ago and I was desperate to be in a relationship with someone that would love me and want to spend time with me and love me for who I am, and I started to think that my mom was actually right, that I was not pretty enough and that I couldn't find any boyfriends because of that and because of my personality, that I'm too outgoing and too outspoken when someone does something wrong to me and "man don't like woman that are like that" (cause they like quiet and submissive woman who can't voice themselves right? Hahaha), and I ended up being with a narcissist that would lie to me ALL THE TIME, not considerate things that were important to me, only what was important to himself. I would accompanied him on whatever he liked to do, and I supported him as well on the things he liked, but I never got that back. He would only make promises and promises and I was there, patiently waiting for him.. he was never wrong.. it's not like I accepted everything and didn't voice my opinions, I FRICKING DID IT, A LOT OF TIMES, but the thing is: I WOULD ALWAYS STAY AND GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE.... I've always found people in my life that would abuse me and project their insecurities in me, cause I'm a good listener, a good friend, I care about people genuinely, and I'm basically a magnet of abusers 😅 I had many "best friends" that would do that to me and I wouldn't say a thing when they made "jokes" about me, always putting me down. I take a long time to cut these people out of my life cause I forgive and forgive and forgive their bad actions... But I'm learning how to protect myself more and after this relationship with the narcissist I'm beginning to realize MUCH STUFF!!!! My parents till this day abuse me and project their insecurities on me, but I'm trying each day to set my boundaries and not let them do bad stuff to me! My mom victimize herself when I call her out but I don't fall for this anymore, cause I know she's trying to make me feel like a horrible person for not accepting her bad behavior and arguing with her... I've had abusive people next to me and I didn't learn how to protect myself but I promise you (I mean, I promise MYSELF hahaha): I WONT LET ANYONE PUT ME DOWN ANYMORE!!!! I know I'm not perfect and that I have lots of stuff to better in myself but I'm not useless, I'm not stupid, I'm not ugly (I'm fucking pretty, to be honest hahaha), I'm a nice and kind person, I'm bubbly and like making people laugh and have a good time, I change people's lives and I want to become a therapist cause I'm a good listener and a I give good advices, I KNOW I'M WORTHY OF TRUE LOVE AND EMPATHY AND RECOGNITION!!!! I'LL TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND I WILL NOT LET PEOPLE RIDICULE ME ME ANYMORE! I'LL BE MY OWN BEST FRIEND AND I'LL BE A PERSON WHO CAN TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND BE INDEPENDENT, EVEN THO I MIGHT STRUGGLE!
Weeew.. I just had to let that out haha thanks if you read all of this 😅

[Chamelionroses]

Gaslighting and projection...what many do online especially trolls online.

[ann.m]

I love your videos and how much I've learnt from watching them, I've successfully been diagnosed with Anxiety and panic disorder from learning my signs, keep it up 😊

[ropafadzochipfiko]

Thank you for these signs ❤ people are always projecting themselves onto others and if you're not careful you can really be negatively affected by these projections