This is projecting

Projecting is when someone assigns another person as having done something they themselves have done. It can come in a variety of forms. "You always ____(fill in the blank) " can lead to an argument at worst if the person doesn't always or ever do what has been accused. The person making the charge won't listen and just keeps arguing. The more you profess your innocence the more they go off. This could be projecting. Like an old fashioned movie camera- they are taking their bad behavior and shining it onto you with their comments or accusations. Michelle gives examples in this video of what types of things can be used in projection- and what it means to the person who is doing the projection that you should know.

[steffidas]

it takes one second for a person to twist and twitch their words so that they can sway the other person into doing what they wanted to do

[mothiurNCL]

A clear simple and succinct explanation of projection, thank you.

[jackrickleson]

Not gonna let anyone make me feel attacked and then claim to be my friend. Stay the hell away from me!

[brandonb]

With all the deep diving mental work I've done with myself, understanding projection has been top 3 of my journey. Thank you for helping people, like myself. Your efforts have made a positive difference.

[susansusan]

THEY ARE MORE LIKELY TO PROJECT IF YOU LOOK WEAK. LOOKS ARE BRUTALLY SIGNIFICANT

[dshoec]

I have too much experience with projection as my mom is a narcissist.

[taze]

Their accusations are actually confessions.

[YourFrienjamin]

I see projecting in the same realm as gaslighting. These behaviors can have serious psychological effects long-term.

[tammygist]

🎯 spot on. This happens to me on a 24hr basis but not anymore. That's what they are doing and who they are it has nothing to do with me. I just let them go on their way. And focus on me.

[raspberriessummer]

Very, very helpful!!! Thanks for being so CLEAR!

[daphnietudor]

This happens to me all the time. To f think with all the mental abuse the world would be different

[brownie]

What's the term in psychology where someone wrongfully assumes others' experience things the same way they personally experience things? I originally thought that is what projection meant.

[shepherdbella]

Well, how to best deal with someone like that?? Do you call them on it outright which they'll mostly deny I imagine or???
I have mostly found they don't let up and just keep on arguing which gets 0 accomplished.
Thank you!

[Layarion]

holly shit that lip sync issue. gonna have to not look at the video while listening to this.

[msve]

Why is a projector a projector? 🤔
When u set up a projector in school what is on the projector will show or illuminate what ever it shines on.

[spacecowboy]

Thank you very much. God bless you. Amen.

[reflux]

Is there a word for someone who after love bombing you, then dumps you out the blue because her best friend was in an abusive relationship and dumps her boyfriend?

[grettalemabouchou]

I get screamed at then in several hours later....he kisses my hand. WTF??

[tabathaterry]

Uhm somethings do happen to your friends. How do you tell if your the one projecting?

[FreethemGuyz]

Guy at my job always lying... says his buddies this and his buddies that... never going into details... new guy.... like u say.... i think he wants exceptance... we tell him all the time... u have the job u dont have to lie anymore