Overcoming Family of Origin Issues

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[dustinneathery]

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[Eric-tjtg]

There are good YT videos, doc, that discuss, biblically, how honoring our parents, does not meani a denial of "our" embodied experiences, with verse that places responsibilities on parents.
I hear and understand your struggle.
In order to forgive a hurt, one has to feel it. Feelings occur in the body, not the mind. If you say something which brings a physiological reaction, I can name anger, when it passes, I can . It is either discharged, sublimated, or stored. As you discussed, most patterns eminate from early childhood. This means, and I've had this experience, it's often implicit memories- overwhelming sensations, without words, if early enough; trauma. I'd urge you to look into Interpersonal Neurobiology (Dr. Dan Siegal), Polyvagal theory (Dr. Bruce Perry), and, therapeutically at body-based modalities, the most prominent being : "Somatic Release", Dr. Peter Levine, but Sensorimotor, Dr Pat Ogden, and Hakomi (cannot recall name) are also aware that body and mind are one. Culturally, for many, this is not experienced. The "ME", seems to be riding on the body. I have experienced, on an encounter, the rage of preverbal trauma. Shocking, and difficult to integrate. Recall Dr. Spock's smash hit book advising one not attend to the crying infant at bedtime. Infant in fight/flight which it cannot resolve (for 1st 6 months, nervous system cannot, without external help, regulate itself), until the parent looks in at a child now in a parasympathetic freeze, since fightflight failed. Trauma underlies this, and developmental at that. It's in the body ("The body keeps the score", Van der Kolk).

Thanks for the video, and best of luck.