Jordan Peterson - The Psychology behind getting cheated on

Psychology Professor Dr. Jordan Peterson explains the 'unknown Unknown' - the chaos that emerges from a place you don't expect.

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[TimothyRyanFisher]

Getting cheated on sucks, it happened to me and all my so called friends knew and no one told me. I dumped all of those friends and started over.

[mochammadhusnirizal]

It has been months since I've found out that my fiancée cheated on me. I was overwhelmed, then okay for a while, and today I can't stop crying. You really can't be the same person anymore after being cheated on.

[ceev.f]

I think the hardest part is how to avoid becoming a jaded douchebag and remain smarter but still authentic to yourself. My mother used to tell me that resentment and anger weighed more than all the cement in the world.

[avimae]

Narcissists find replacements before the relationship is over. My ex was test driving multiples....

[eveshec]

I have been cheated twice ..I literally felt like someone was stabbing me . I am unable to cheat because I cannot cause that level of pain to someone else

[TurboSol]

Rule to live by: If you are unhappy in a relationship or marriage and you realize it can't be resolved, then give the freaking respect of divorcing them or breaking up before starting a new relationship. To stay in a relationship while starting another one is the height of selfishness and dishonor of character.

[beepboop]

cheaters don't love you, they're weak for putting such a temporary physical thing over an emotional bond.

[kleec]

Basically you can't depend on anyone all the time, only yourself. You will visit chaos several times, that is true.

[marinaa]

That’s precisely the emotions and experience I went through after discovering my husband was cheating. My past, present and future were gone in an instant. It’s a horrific experience

[MGTOWPsyche]

Cheating is a weapon of abuse if the abuser can hold onto their partner they cheated on.
A man who accepts being cheated on and a woman who tolerates a man who cheats on her are selling themselves out and accepting being not worth basic respect. The saddest couples are those who think this is love.

[marilynlamont]

There's a real shortage of good people these days.

[sairen]

Getting cheated on actually made me feel less dependent on people, less need to make people happy on my expense and being able to focus more about my work and passions. I don't even feel like seeking a new partner cos I enjoy doing things myself now. It's one of the liberating feeling of never having to do things I don't want to, offending people because of the truth I speak and of course no more arguments. I have a fwb on and off for sexual needs. I dunno if I want another relationship again but I'm definitely not gonna be a pushover anymore if I happen to be in one.

[gameaddictgonewild]

Im a gamer.
I dont respect cheating.

[Nif]

EDIT: Since a lot of people have been asking how I've been doing since this, I've recently (April 2019) posted an update to clear that up. Thanks for the concern, everyone.

Me and my girlfriend of 5 years loved watching Peterson videos together, and using his words as a framework to build a stable relationship. A month ago she simply decided she didn't love me anymore, and in less than 20 days found herself a new partner. I'm lonely, scared, rejected, panicked, but worst of all, is knowing that the person who you've devoted your whole future to has discarded you entirely in less than a month for another person, and you're gonna be miserable and sad, while they get to enjoy a happy and fulfilling life.

[dzzydreamer]

I trusted my partner completely and he had been cheating on me for our whole 5 year relationship with multiple different people.

[gungigangigaga]

what better way to weaponize someone’s insecurities than to cheat on them?

[FranzTurtlemanHubert]

".... That's Chaos!"
*Something shatters in the Background*
....nice

[xnukeairz]

The worst thing is realising you are not secure when your security is threatened. Financial, emotional and relationship wise. The best thing is realising you need to make sure you are secure in your own right because someone or something WILL threaten your security.

[Xander]

5 year relationship, 8 months engaged. To be married in 4 months. Found out she cheated for months with some guy she just met. Called him the "love of her life" and left me. We'll see how they do. She told him that she dumped me long ago and was basically cheating on HIM with ME as well so I doubt that relationship's gonna last. You don't do that to the love of your life.

[TopHatKitty]

When I found out my boyfriend cheated on me by going on a date with a couple, I felt so disgusted by the lovely love we made after he did it and before he told me. It changed the whole thing and I was amazed by that. It was love one minute, a repulsive lie the next.