How To Devalue a Narcissist

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[selah]

This is why you go no-contact, and keep it that way. You can’t change their behavior. You can only change your behavior. Stay strong. They hate it.

[shavornewilbraham]

He used the words "this is killing me" because I wouldn't have him back.
He only wants me back to recharge his dead battery and then he can get rid when I'm flat again.
Got the t-shirt and I've now graduated from Richard Grannon's school for lost and confused women/men.
I know the games they play now. And I'm so grateful for this channel.

[kingbee]

The pattern I observe is something like “the world is unfair and treated me unfairly, I am entitled to sabotage other people, use whatever means to get my way. If other people let me, they are too stupid and they actually want to be used. They get what they agree to".

[calvthomas]

The mind of the narcissist for me, is such a phenomenon, because they all act exactly the same way, they say the same things, react to taking accountability the same way. It's like they are all reading from the same playbook. It's so scary.
The only thing I don't understand is... most people come from traumatic backgrounds, so why aren't all humans narcissists? Why do only certain people turn out to be narcissist's. Is there any written information anywhere on that?

[YA-and]

I left first because I started to see the signs. It was one of the hardest things I had to do but it's always better to be the one who left than vice versa.
I changed my number, deleted my social media, got rid of anything having to do with him the day I left.
I immediately signed up for therapy.
Best decisions of my life

I feel for anyone still going through it. ❤️ ✌️

[BecauseOfHim]

I PROUDLY devalued my narcissist. Best decision and feeling ever. Was a very difficult thing to do but as an empath, I know my value. Education such as this video is so important.

[marie_]

The narcissists prayer:
That didn't happen.
And if it did, it wasn't that bad.
And if it was, that's not a big deal.
And if it is, that's not my fault.
And if it was, I didn't mean it.
And if I did, *YOU DESERVED IT.*

[richlantz]

Absolutely correct never forget The Narcissist is always looking for new supply, The Empath becomes emotionally trapped, because we want to believe.

[Tomara]

They will try to break you down and destroy you before they move onto the next one.

[nancyselzer]

So true with my narcissistic mother. She would always say, "When are you coming home. You never come home." My reply was always, "Why would I do that? All you do is criticize me, insult me, and accuse me of falsehoods." We had that same conversation several times, but every time I went home she did the same things to me over and over. One time I went home she accused me of being bipolar, because the Internet said so. So I went to a doctor and got tested. He told me I was not bipolar. I asked him what can I do and he told me to just break contact, because some people are just toxic.

[JPGdesigngroup]

My narcissistic ex thought he was going to play games by kicking me out of my house and taking my children then trying to to lure me back into the relationship for more abuse. When I said no thanks and moved on with my life and went through with the divorce that he filed for he couldn’t handle it and he went nuts. It’s been almost 20 years and he’s still obsessed with smearing my name and can’t get over it. The kids have seen his true colors and have nothing to do with him. Sad.

[lovephotography]

When you leave, they attach themselves to your family to continue to devalue you. Scary stuff.

[happyhermit]

Ran from mine after living in a car n washing my clothes in a river before my job interview..
He was screaming at me on the way to the job centre ...
I got out and didn't go back
Left with nothing except my sanity
Spoke to him via cam and he had shrunk !! Lost so much weight in weeks ...
Realised he had been feeding off me ...

[I-Am-Prosperous-I-Am-Grateful]

Say "NO" & close the door on any sort of relationship with them.

[Butterfly_]

I've filed a report against my vulnerable narcissistic dad for sexually abusing me as a child. He is in prison right now. If that doesn't devalue him, I don't know what will 😂
It doesn't heal my pain and he is still setting a lot of people up against me, but it gave me a feeling of justice and a little bit of power back. I hope they will treat him like he treated me (not the sa though, but the narc stuff. Nobody deserves to experience sa).

[kathym]

By always focusing on the narcissist, you are giving away your power. Focus on yourself & what you want. Strengthen yourself so that narcissists want nothing to do with you. Change your view of relationships. Submission is not love Power struggles do not belong in relationships. Maintain your individuality.

[ericdeadmon]

This is so true. My therapist told me stop trying to understand their behavior because you are neurotypical so it will never make sense to you. Once you get to a point of indifference they will avoid you

[marymotherofgod]

Ur so accurate they come in our lives to destroy everything good those scumbags

[meggtokyodelicious]

Friendships too. I had to get rid of many female friends who were fake and we're only using It wasn't easy but I got rid of them one per time, and now I live in peace 🕊️.

[What_do_say_think]

They want to erase everything that you were prior to meeting them. My ex would destroy things, steal things that I had kept from previous jobs or gifts from my family. She did everything she could to try and separate me from my own daughter. Anything that you were before them must go. They will buy things for you to try and replace the things you have. Any trinket you have especially from an ex must go. They will sometimes even say “I got you a new one so you can get rid of that old thing”, or try to discredit it, call things ugly or junk, anything to separate you from your past. Remember, they are insane and not logical. What they do a lot of times makes no sense to a logical person. My ex would do things to destroy our financial stability in order to have more control. They will never admit to being wrong or admit they have done anything wrong. Lie, lie, lie, about everything. The truth is not in them.