How To Stop Hating Your Partner During Pregnancy

Why you might be thinking your partner is the most irritating person in the world, and how you can process all those emotions.

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[rosierb]

I believe men’s selfish is more noticeable when we’re pregnant. I am now and his obvious childish and selfish behaviour is what makes me angry. Something clicks along with our hormones. For the preservation of our species, males are supposed to protect and provide for women especially while she’s pregnant. When we don’t see these traits, I think it survival instinct that the partner isn’t fully safe. If it wasn’t apart of our evolution, then so many women wouldn’t be feeling like this.

[theignorantgenious]

His body odor, his poor hygiene even after showers, his breath, his logic, his bad childish attitude, his unwillingness to contribute financially.

[Discordia]

Great advice! The only thing I didn't agree with was the 90 seconds part. It takes me 90+ minutes to self soothe if I let emotions flow.

[joanatulo]

He irritates me so much that i feel like leaving the house for him

[zaiyunus]

Unfortunately some men do not understand this is a real life issue and some women are just not wired to handle it . People think you are disengaged, disrespectful . Especially in a new relationship or with first pregnancy. Sigh. I hope everyone dealing with this gets the help and support they deserve

[g.kucharek]

Hate is the word! He expected me to do all the housework when there was finally an evening I didn't feel poorly and gave me a cold face when he saw I didn't do the dishes

[karlenemckie]

Wow! These comments brought me back to sanity this morning!
It is comforting, somehow, to see many people are having the same feelings as I am.
It's like, when I got pregnant I expected him to become nurturing and aware of my needs but when that didn't happen I felt so much sadness and anger.
It sucks that I need to adjust my expectations, but it's the only way we will survive.
(I need a wife to take care of me.) 😭

[Sumo-san]

I do all the housework, I pay all the bills, I take care of our daughter, pick her up and drop her off at school, constantly ask what she needs and how she feels, make her doctor’s appointments and go with her to them, purchase anything she needs or asks for. And she still treats me like shit. Is this normal? She’s 8 weeks pregnant and has been struggling with morning sickness/extreme fatigue. All I’ve done is try to be there for her every minute of every day. She feels she can’t work, and I never guilted her or made her feel less for that. I took the responsibility on myself and stepped up (even though I was already doing these things, but now I’m REALLY doing everything). I’m tired, but I’m not mad at her for this. I’m just upset at the way she treats me.

[Cverage]

7 months in the pregnancy so far, have moved out of the house and we've come to the point where according to her it was better if I just stayed away as to not cause her stress which is bad for the baby. The only times I come is to purchase new things or work on the house. No more cuddling nothing, the fights have ruined our family. And against my better judgement and knowledge I still just want to run away and try again for a family of my own who would love me around. I have no clue what to do anymore my life doesn't feel like it's mine anymore, I have no respect or leverage.

This is how pregnancy feels from the mans side when the woman is unable to cope with the emotional rollercoasters. It's life changing and heartbreaking. All it feels like now is nodding yes and just doing whatever she wants as to not piss her off and cause her to make it more difficult or impossible to see the child later on.

[TwentyThree-]

Someone once told me "pregnancy brings the truth out" and I couldn't agree more. When a baby is in the picture, a women is already in the process of changing in preparation for a baby. Men are an external factor and unless they are literally going through a pregnancy they won't understand. The change isn't there other than the "I'm having a baby" but most men don't make the emotional changes needed to support their pregnant partners.

Women have every right to get upset at the little things because her needs change and a partner needs to learn and change fast just as the women does. More physical affection, more emotional support.

Keep pulling through mommas. You're changes are natural and your partner has a responsibility to change and adjust for you in your times of need. Much love.

[ayeshasiddiqua]

i too have a feeling of getting away from him asap...but he is loving caring...why the hell am hating him

[lizzmg]

I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant, I don't get mad at him I just sometimes I just don't want him to hug me or just being nice to me, he says my actions are pushing him away and last night he slept in the couch because he says felt like I ddnt want him around. But I love him is just that I don't know whats wrong with me, I used to be more happy and more touchy and all those things, I kinda feel like pregnancy was bad for our relationship.

[jjsuavegotyourback]

Yo. I felt the same way. My girl is on her 8weeks. She told me she doesn’t love and need me anymore. But since I’ve done my research, including videos on how to deal with it. It helps me a lot. I’m not the only one experiencing the rage. Haha i find it funny btw 😂

[JM-zzjr]

This is so true, i'm 7 months pregnant now and a few days ago i was really really pissed at my husband for being able to sleep when i am finding it difficult to get comfortable and

[TheQuaBaylaGrace]

Lol I would find myself laughing at how I was feeling because he does nothing for me to be feeling the way I do sometimes 😂😂 almost 9 weeks into our first pregnancy and and it definitely helps to know that this emotional roller coaster is normal 🙌🏽

[Bwoodfam]

I feel this way .. I’ve said some really harsh things to him and I can’t take them back. I just want to solve this issue because I love him so much but everything he does is pissing me off. I hope I can practice this.

[christopherdelgiorno]

My gf broke up with me. She got pregnant in September and in December we broke up. Baby is due in June. Everything was perfect in our relationship. When she got pregnant we were nervous since we are both young but I told her the decision is hers and I support her no matter what. We were delighted to keep it. Anyways next thing I know a month and a half later she is completely someone else. She tells me she doesn’t love me out of nowhere and now she talks about how we can raise the baby as coparents. Wtf?!?!?

[hannabio]

Thank for this video! And thank you for being open and honest! ❤ It's really important when we talking about subjects like this...

[dariana]

I experienced this postpartum until 11months pp. I cried so much after finding an article about postpartum rage.

[sulailfatima]

Thank you so much! I am in my first trimester and I am so angry and irritaed so often so easily. He is my best friend though.