Hidden Trauma | You Have To See This!!

Do you see yourself as overly sensitive? Do have intense emotional reactions that seem extreme and disproportionate to the event that triggered it? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) we often use the analogy of a burn or wound to help us understand how past trauma can increase sensitivity years later. When a wound is psychological the people around us often have no idea that they have touched on old wounds. So they can feel confused, fearful or angry when they witness the intense emotional reaction that appears to come out of nowhere.

If we have no idea how to heal those old wounds, it is understandable that we get to work hiding them or trying to numb the pain that they can trigger. And there are plenty of things that do just that. But none of them come without a cost. The price we pay is often in our relationships, mental and physical health, and ability to be at peace when all is still and silent.

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[pallavisharma]

It hurts the most when you show your wounds and yet people think its overreacting.

[AlyssasRandomASMR]

It’s the worst when you share your trauma with those closest, and they disregard you.

[leahc]

My dad always said “don’t feel ashamed to tell us. We will not judge you. We don’t care what you’ve done, we want you to talk about it.” He always said that keeping trauma bottled up is not helpful. I was blessed with a healthy and happy childhood and I’m so great full for that, to this day I don’t have trouble communicating my feelings. Love you dad ❤️

[arunprakash]

Also we need people who recognises these as painful as bodily wounds.. typically inability of understanding surrounding is what makes this more painful because we need to hide and act strong even in times of a mental breakdown..

[eczotiic]

Reminds of the saying: you’re not reacting to what’s in front of you, but what’s behind you.

[Ari_was_here_]

“Your just overreacting! Your just a dramatic person who can’t see life like others”

-Famous words of my elementary counselor.Thank you for “helping” me get past my dad’s absence and my moms verbal abuse.

[IAmHuMaN]

Idk why but I was about to cry cuz this woman just explained my whole life in under a minute 💀💀💀

[ladylovely]

I love how she explains things… I’m so tired of hearing “Just snap out of it”…. “Just move on and let it go”… “You are so strong, you got this”. NO I DON’T GOT THIS. I NEED HELP.

[YusikaKiaya]

The phrase 'She's just overreacting' is one that's brought me a lot of pain over time, especially as it's something those close have said

[victorial]

This made me cry and also gave me hope. My first appt with a trauma therapist is Friday. Pray for me all. I want to heal. ❤ and may you all find love and healing too.

[jenniferolson]

This brought tears to my eyes because you speak about what so many of us experience. Therapy was one of the best investments in myself, and it's never too late to start healing.

[emmav]

Normally I don’t react to videos, but I just wanted to say thank you. Your videos help me better understand myself, and make me feel seen because you explain things without judgement. It makes me feel less alone, so thank you ❤

[Butterfly_]

'It's not a fault in your personality.' That hits home!

[robingoodfellow]

I love how you explain abstract concepts so clearly and visualy. This really helps to understand and I sometimes use this pictures when trying to console people.

[Hannah-fxsw]

i lost my mum in 2018 when i was 5 and this makes me cry its real its true and its just perfect a perfect explination to tell and show people how i actually feel inside! Thank you!

[riaschutte]

Just be careful who you share your inner wounds with. Some will take advantage of that pain for their own gain....

[Newmanidentity]

Extraordinary psychologist.. This is a gift beyond professional training

[rachel]

It took so long to get it in my head that I’m allowed to ask for help, and not worry that I’m “being a bother or annoying”, but I got there, I found someone who was willing to listen, stand by me, and teach me that Im not a bother for asking for help, or annoying if I need to talk. And finding that point lifted the whole world off my shoulders and Im now so much more happier physically and mentally. No more thoughts of hurting myself, a lot less talking myself down and hiding who I really am, and I now see that I have a bright and hopeful outlook on life and the future.

So for those who are hiding or feel like they can’t or shouldn’t talk about something that is mentally making you suffocate, don’t hide anymore. Find/speak to someone you trust and someone who is willing to stop and listen to you. It’s a whole new world when you finally let yourself free from a war. You got this, and you are worthy of life. Never hide who you really are, and never be afraid to speak up about your struggles. People who walk away after you open up are not true friends and don’t deserve the time with you.

The future is bright for everyone, don’t let a mental war take that from you.

[dahyunbunny]

And sometimes people even laugh at it. Thinking we're also gonna look from their perspective too. But though you show them your wound, they can only guess how much it hurts. But they can never know how deep it actually is.