The Difference Between Being Honest and Being Rude

Real fam, what do you think is the difference between keeping it real with your friends and crossing a line?

[Dragonqueen]

Pet peeve: unsolicited opinions/ advice. If I ain’t ask, keep it to yourself.

[AngelFriend]

Being honest is telling people what u think when they ask. Being rude is giving ur two cents when noone asked.

[breebb]

The trick to not being rude is to know who you’re talking to, that’s it. It’s different for everyone, if you’re not sure go with the nicest way possible.

[missright]

I agree with Adrienne. I think we have a serious problem with throwing our "wisdom" onto others. If all you're getting out of it is making yourself feel better and your "friend" smaller, that's not keeping it 💯, it's being selfish.

[loveystarcloud]

Adrienne is right, if nobody asked for your opinion, keep it to yourself. And if you don't be prepared for the backlash.

[milesjohnson]

It's the intent. Honesty is out of love and consideration. The intent of being rude is just to upset someone in some way.

[ccassielynnn]

I heard this quote once and it has stuck with me since, "Honesty without tact is cruelty."

[ohhthatemma]

Being African I’ve built a thick skin cause it seems like unsolicited advise and commentary comes at you from every angle 🤷‍♀️ personally I lead with kindness.

[justSymiah]

Being honest in itself is just telling the truth, being genuine & sincere/authentic ; being rude is when someone is telling the truth but demeaning someone & destroying the person’s confidence & feelings in the name of honesty . There is a way to be honest without being derogatory, call it sugar coating or whatever you want but tough love isn’t for everyone 🤷🏽‍♀️

[MajesticMyronn]

In my opinion... like Tam said “ It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it “ so as long as the delivery is said without being sugarcoated or being harsh and just being 100% honest and coming from a place of love then there shouldn’t be a problem !

[GabriellaLascano]

Adrienne !!! aint no one care what you think unless I ask sis !!!!

[mangosandtea]

I think it depends on who you are talking to.. I could tell my sister “oh girl, ur breath smells like poison” and she won’t get offended but i wouldn’t say that to a person I’m not close to..

[rosepena]

I grew up with too many girls that always thought they were being "honest" when really they were rude. As the way Adrienne described.

[saeidkh]

"is not what you say, is how say it" this is something that you should ALWAYS remember. Thanks Tam!! 💕👏👏

[NocturnalBanshee]

First time getting here when there's zero views. I love the Real. It's refreshing to keep things REAL.

[darlenne]

Adrienne FOR REALS!! people that are walking around telling people “the truth” are the most self conscious people I know...

[MissShootingStar]

LOL! I've definitely had a jealous "friend" that would make rude comments especially about my appearance and then turn around and say, "do you want me to lie? i'm just being honest". I'm a million times prettier and have better style than her but she would take even opportunity to try to put me down.

[heyheyhey]

It’s called being tactful. Learning the difference between rude and real takes some effort as well as being able to be introspective

[Lenalight]

Being honest, tactful, and kind is the way to go. There’s just too much rudeness in the world already. ❤️

[celestematthews]

Tamera is Gorgeous and hair is glowing