Do narcissists CARE ABOUT YOU at all

Did the narcissist ever love you or did they ever care about you at all? The answer from a diagnosed narcissist may surprise you.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[rashidarowe]

yes they cared, they cared about wasting your time, pretending to love you and making sure you don't leave til they are ready to discard you.

[cutewiz]

I feel they only pretend to care but don’t truly care because they lack emotional empathy

[angelagomez]

They cared the best they could... it's not very much and not for long. You can't expect your thirst to be quenched from a bucket that has no bottom.

[carolrodriguez]

You are sooo right! You start out like a fairytale!! So it was easy to fall in love with them. At the end, I realized I was the magic. They weren't even real. 😢

[beanp]

Any kindness or caring were displays in public. It is like reveling in playing a role - a great partner. The best of the narcissist is given over to the public audience. In private, the switch is off. A dead boredom takes over, the performance is over. The abuse begins. This is why it was so fake.

[nappyfries]

Years after my first boyfriend & I broke up, we saw each other & caught up. I told him about my son’s dad & told him I didn’t think he ever loved me. He told me this exact thing: that maybe he loved me the best he could. It made a light go off for me. Maybe he was right. Years later after that, I realized he is a narcissist too. I’m sure he was speaking about himself too, not just my son’s dad.

[lynnemarhong]

They only care how others will perceive them once others find out how they’ve been treating you all along! Once the gig is up…they now try and make you look like the bad guy to others! It’s been a show! I agree they cared as much as they could … the bare minimum and they make you feel like they are doing you a favour by them being with you!!

[kiaraharris]

This is literally how I’ve given myself closure; I believe he loved me as much as he could. However it wasn’t okay what I endured because of his sh*tty childhood.

[pamela]

Lee, i agree with everything you said.
I think my narcissistic husband loved me and cared in his own way, to the best of his ability, at the beginning of our relationship.
I fell head over heels for him on our first date. God couldn't have convinced me that he wasn't "the one".
Then once we got married, that's when he changed (or the mask fell off). I told him love wasn't enough (there was no respect, trust, safety, emotional support or communication) and i was NO longer a priority.
It's such a heart breaking ending. I wanted to live happily ever after with him. I loved him so much and still do, no matter how bad he treated me, but Ive finally accepted that our marriage will never get better, because he is a narcissist.
Im 3 months, no contact, but its been painful.
And thank you, Lee for sharing how narcissist think. You're a genuine, sincere soul who puts your life out there for everyone to see with only the goal of helping us win. You are an amazing man. I know you have had to put a lot of effort to change and rethink everything. You are definitely allowing God to work through you. So thank you❤

[JoyHustles-czbn]

They did hurting things behide your understand the word BEHIDE your back ....You know what that's where they belong behide YOU !!!You deserve better Kings and Queens

[scrimes]

"They feel good about loving you..." That's a great way of putting it, at least in my situation. It still isn't love, however, not the kind I want to be involved with.

What you are really saying is that the are incredibly enamored with themselves for the idea that someone like their partner can say "I love you " to them. It seems to make them validate their self worth. They still, however, are not really sharing love. They are stealing validation. As soon as the partner (me, in this case) wishes to have some joy brought back in their direction, usually when they have experienced a major setback in life, the narc spouse is gone from the picture.

They really don't have loving feelings, they have "striking it rich" feelings, and when the gold mine runs dry, they're on to the next vein in a heartbeat. It's very sad.

To a narcissist, you are only good for them if you are shiny enough to fit in their display case. When the shine wears thin, you're tossed in the junk pile.

It makes me wonder if they have it better after all. Maybe life is just more painful when one is capable of love. Narcissists may never know what love is, but they also don't understand the hurt love can cause.

[IsabellaPiesch]

No. I personally learned watch the actions (if it is possible for you) and don´t focus on the words. Their words never match their actions. But what they can is acting and talking great ... (Nothing more). You have to view it as a great show...

[lol.]

No excuses! If you know you have trauma from your childhood upbringing... SEEK HELP!!!! We are old enough to know change needs to be made

[joeb]

Today, I've decided to end it with my gf of almost 2 years. We've had our ups and downs. I treat her well but she's always going back to a game called Fubar. She's very good looking. All the guys love her. But she took to liking to me. I've asked her not to flirt with the other guys. She still talks to one of several years, all the time.
I can't take it. I've helped her out a lot financially. I can't pretend anymore. She claims she loves me more than anything but her actions prove different. I've tried to put it in perspective but it's wrong the way she treast me.
I've 'blocked' her on all social apps. I've avoided her a few times and she's always nice for a while but goes back to her over flirting with men. I've helped her children out too. No more.
I'm done. I like hearing what you have to say. Thank you Lee.

[JoyHustles-czbn]

We shouldn't care whether they care...press on...

[SheilaRose-uoof]

I get very confused about that. Sometimes, I think yes in the past he did. Now after the discard I feel like he never really did. He was so emotionally unavailable and I wonder how could I have really loved him.

[celiajames]

Thank you for sharing that. I think they do care sometimes but in a toxic way, a way that in not healthy and sometimes they can do something very hurtful to you because in that moment they are only thinking about themselves. It's messed up, best to stay away.

[Sub_]

Something Grannon says is that the narcissist can only see someone as one thing- not multi faceted. So, if you break away from what the image they created for you, they’ll work on discard. I look at wedding pictures and think back to the times he admitted he knew he would have a “hot wife”
Well, guess what folks? 20 years later, “semi”-hot mom wife isn’t computing with his idea of you anymore. Be careful!

[livinglife]

My life rn just left my narc husband after 21 years u explained him well i deff out grew him along time ago hes been emotionally checked out and now rhat i am and i moved out he wants to try and care but its just a trap

[ItsSoarTime]

i compiled an ENTIRE playlist from Raw Motivations' videos where Ben Taylor says very RAWly: "THE NARCISSIST NEVER CARED ABOUT YOU!" watching those videos facilitated me moving on and healing. i agree with Taylor.

how can it be GENUINE care IF it's self-serving ...? if the person is all masked-up, future-faking you so that they can get as much supply, as good a supply from you as long as possible ...???? THAT'S NOT "CARE." THAT'S