How to LET GO of Attachment In 10 Minutes (No B.S)

The Buddha said that all suffering comes from attachment and desire. These two things cause more suffering than anything else. And the challenge I've had in my own life is that there's a lot of attachment that I've had to many different aspects of my life. Whether that's caring what other people think about me.

Whether that's an attachment to a past relationship or past friendships. Whether that's attachment to beliefs about who I am. Maybe even a nine to five job at one point,
I felt very attached to, and it was very hard to let go of some of these things.

And I've learned some things about letting go that have completely transformed my life, that have made this process so much easier, that I'm excited to share with you in this video because letting go is actually extraordinarily simple when we let it be.

So what we're really attached to when we think that letting go is hard, is we are attached to the meaning that we give to something. So for example, if we're attached to a past person, what it is, maybe it's a past relationship or even a friendship, it's not even that person or what we think of as that, but what we're really attached to is the meaning we give to that person and the meaning we have to maybe even losing that person.

The interesting thing though, is that it if that meaning were to change, it would be easier to let go. What I mean by this is, imagine you have a friend that it's hard for you to let go of, maybe hanging out with them or whatever it is, but imagine they do something crazy, they light your house on fire or something.

And you then draw the line and you say, "Okay, you did this crazy thing," so now, it's much easier for you to let that go. At first, it's probably hard, but it would eventually be easier because in your mind, you would give that person a different meaning. So the reason I'm sharing this with you is because the key to this transformation of letting go is letting go of old meaning.

Everything in life is meaningless, it has no built-in meaning other than the meaning we give it. And with letting go, what we're really having trouble letting go of is the past meaning we've given to different people, to different things that has us feeling blocked, that has us feeling stuck, that has us feeling really attached.

So when it comes to letting go, realize letting go is extraordinarily easy, it's just a matter of choice. But making that choice is normally what people beat themselves up about. Because they say, "Well I've been in this relationship for 10 years." So I'm letting go of that, what else are you letting go of with that meaning maybe?

Maybe you're letting go of a 10-year friendship and maybe what that means is, you're letting go of an aspect of yourself that you felt identified with this person. When it comes to this, what you wanna become aware of is the reasons you may be holding onto whatever this attachment is.

There's always reasons there. And the thing with reasons is that it's normally past meaning we've given to things that has us keep staying attached to those things. Anything we do, it's because there's a payoff to doing it.

The payoff is some emotional charge we get. I know that one of the reasons it was hard for me to let go, for example, back in 2012 when I went through my awakening of the pain that I experienced in childhood from 7 to 16, 15-ish years old, was because there was a level of anger that I think I, that I know I felt towards my ex stepmom.

And by letting that go, it was invalidating my childhood. I felt like growing up, I didn't really have much of a childhood because I wasn't allowed to have friends or do normal kid stuff. So I felt like when I was like 18 to 20, that's when I started having friends, that's when I started going to parties, that's when I started being able to even watch TV, for example.

Sometimes I think now, even now, the way I eat food, is I eat food very quickly and I love food. But I think one of those reasons is is because from 7 to 15 years old, I was deprived food. I was only given a TV dinner at night sometimes and a bowl of cereal in the morning, and one gallon of milk had to last my brother and I a whole week with one box of cereal.

So we actually had to measure it out and make it last, and now, because I don't have that dynamic,I love food so much that I find myself overeating or eating very quickly.

But what I've had to learn to do is to change the meaning I give to different things in my life. Even food, for example. The meaning of food used to be, it's like this thing that I emotionally love because I was deprived it as a kid, but now, I see food as fuel. Also, something I could just appreciate, I can enjoy it. 'Cause I think there there may have also been some guilt around that.

[Dray.TheChosen]

Everything in life evolves with time. When we hang on to the past, we cannot move forward.💫🇨🇦

[AryaStark]

I see you are making a lot of attachment videos because it is just too important. I watched one of them a few days ago and when I made the choice that I am detached I felt so free! Like there was the whole worlds burden on my shoulders and then it lifted like it was nothing. Thank you I will always remember this💙

[thechancellor-]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.

[Shts-nh]

Thanks brother. You helped me a lot. I watch your videos and I improved myself a lot. I'm an empath and I understood you better ❤

[augustaalecsa]

Thank you, Mr. Doughty, thank you so much! I did have my part of miserable childhood myself and I live the consequences (a head full of doctrines I need to let go). I can silently hear yours from far away.

[gailrosenberg]

Aaron, what I find so refreshing is your level of awareness of even the most mundane thing as eating and how it is affected by old paradigms. I don't know of too many men who are courageousness enough to dig this deep let alone share it with the entire planet. We are such layered and complex beings and living on the surface of life, most humans miss out on the adventure of moving from existence to life. My spiritual life involves following Jesus and what the Bible says about the immensity of God's love, yet I cherish learning and integrating what I learn here with what my faith has taught me.

[corinnecords]

This is good stuff!! Thank u much Aaron Doughty! U have changed my life with your videos!! 💖

[Blehdawg]

When I left a friendship of 15 years.. I wasn’t even upset cus I really didn’t give it a meaning anymore, I wasn’t obsessed with it or thought about it all the time. The person gave me a lot of negative vibes and I just had to get out of there. But when my neighbors cat passed away, I was so upset even tho I knew that cat for maybe 2 years. I cried for days idk I gave her the title she was my first friendly cat friend. And I couldn’t accept it, but I knew it would happen (that she would die soon cus she was very sick) but later on I had to accept it and I tried to move on and now I gave it a better place and now I don’t think about the cat in a sad way anymore. But it’s indeed how we give people or things a meaning!

[TheMediumChannel]

TRUTH..thank you Aaron, and absolutely it's the MEANING we attach to it..letting go easy in theory hard in practice because when we work to change our patterns we come up against our own subconscious survival instincts which sees changes in our patterns as a danger to survival and we wind up subconsciously blocking ourselves.

The way to get past thagt and to make everything work in this video is practice presence which is part of meditation and learn to get so present you begin to lose your sense of earthly identities and in that moment you are simply Spirit and ENERGY in the now, which is your true identity anyway...this human life is very temporary and then you become much more fluid to change. This approach worked for me, it will work for you too. Namaste

[lunamaria]

Aaron is so authentic, if everyone was that brave, the world would be a much better place 🙏💕

[Noob-eecy]

It’s crazy cause I had this pull with acting. I had such drive to act and was successful though the pull was from the payoff. An audience showing their appreciation for me. The pull was so strong that I thought that was a normal way of showing up. Now I’ve claimed my own validation I’m not sure I even want to continue with acting and at the same time it’s made me a better actor cause I’m not doing it for a payoff and you’re right I feel so much more lighter and come from more purified place of being in service to other. Great video

[pinkypie]

I have a hard time letting go of things and people esp people who are not good for my soul. I Am starting to let go, not easy but I'm trying. Plus knowing things are not good for my soul and keeping me back in my life is not letting me be my true authentic self. I really appreciate your videos cuz it makes me think and some wake me tf up.

[baezagreg]

With PTSD it was essential to care what people think about how I was presenting to them. It is so difficult to change the meaning. I'm aware of my bad habit but I don't know how to change the meaning. I'll keep trying. Thank you for all your help so far !!

[AikiraBeats]

This is a video that I really needed to hear. I find myself questioning my attachment to people and events. It’s blocking the energy that I could have, but I’m so consumed by my desires that I can’t seem to focus on what’s happening right in front of me.

[blissfulbaboon]

it's liberating to detach and reclaim yourself

[ShipmentClips]

Damn man it’s like you are speaking right into my life.

[kymkraljevic]

Ho'oponopono is amazing. It has gotten me through so much.

[zruuuking]

thank you for sharing this Aaron! I appreciate you bro 🙏🏿

[tiffanycordova]

It is so important to release all the emotions baggage we carry with ourselves to grow as a person!
Aaron thank you 🙏 love this! 💗

[darrellmcknight]

Thank you my life has been a parallel of what I have heard you speak of in your videos. I just found you yesterday on YouTube and I have been binge watching your videos since I wish I had your knowledge long ago. I have done ok but I see how everything has been in circles like couldn’t stop anything I just accepted it was my quirks and I have learned to be a lone and been unhappy most my life. My father was my villein, my mother was the one I listened to and she was a lot of the reasoning felt like I was going in circles. I see now I needed to let go of security, I also was abused by my father, remember feeling I was lost at how to help myself, it was easier to be by myself. I was a pleaser to survive, yet with my dad it was still the same no matter how good or pleasing I was. It’s all made me stronger but when pulled away I was prodded to go back to being’s pleaser to everyone to get along. I’m finally letting going some of the pressure I felt to please was gone after my dad died five years ago, I help mom take care of him through his alzheimer’s. I am still somewhat a pleaser with my mom. I see it have awhile. I have pulled away recently and it was like my mom had withdraw when I did. I’m just feel like I’m being me. I see take care of mom but it’s on my terms. I try to go by what I’m morally expected. The last 36 years I was sick supposed to die 26 years ago. I’m not used being my own man. It’s scary at times but I’m doing ok. I actually feel a huge relief like I’m not carrying the world on my shoulders now and not have to care if someone likes me. I have played this by ear all my life. After the first video of yours last yesterday I don’t feel the pressure. I have taken steps a few years ago to stop what I was doing even if I had confront my mom, she was pressuring me the keep up appearances o did stop, like I said it was a battle I’m 60 years old now. You have helped already to drop all that I was shouldering. I see my way clear now. Thanks for your insight it like give me water when I have thirsty. God bless you greatly. I’m going watch all your videos that’s going to be awhile. It’s quite a list. Lol. Thanks I’m actually smiling I have done much of that.