Jordan Peterson - Let Go of What is Hurting You

If people are impeding your development, you sacrifice your relationship with them.

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[leetlargo]

"Let's say you're miserable and unhappy." JBP nailed me in 1 second of this video lol.

[monikageczo]

When my heart feels broken, I watch Jordan Peterson. I clean my room, and I do as he says to the best of my ability. And if I fall short (and I often do), I try again. Thinking of all of you who watch Jordan Peterson for a similar reason. May you find the strength to be a better version of yourself, stand up straight with your shoulders back, and go bravely forward into the unknown. God bless you.

[ThomasFoolery]

I love how passionate he is in expressing the depth of his knowledge. This is probably a class of 20 undergrads and he's pouring his heart into every minute. This man is my hero.

[RamonThomas]

Close the door of your past relationships before you open a new door

[ithepatrick]

I desperately need this kind of advice in my life.

[pedromarymichelparks]

I learned more in a 1:32 minute of this guy then I have learned in a all semester of one university discipline

[AstralFrost]

When he speaks, it's like being pierced in the heart with the sword of truth. Spoken by someone so convicted, the truth has the power to transcend ideological leanings. Inside, you know it. You've been confronted with reality and that's hard to shake.

[EdSuavePerez]

I remember talking to this girl for like a year straight. Everything was fine, i didn't rush, the attraction was there and we had a good time everytime we hung out. Well one day i said its been far too long, im gonna ask her out, assuming she felt the same way after all the things we did but it didnt go as planned. Come to find out i wasnt even the first option ever after everything. I let her know how i felt and she replied with "We'll see what happens". Nope, from watching these kind of videos and learning from my past relationships, i instantly let go. She texted me couple days later but i didnt respond.

Time is something you cant get back, don't waste it.

[jan]

i started to do this at a very young age, be careful of what your threshold is of when you let go. i just disappear out of peoples lives as soon as there is a little bit of pressure. don't do this too often or you will leave people for trivial reasons and end up alone.

[XLpacman]

"Lets say you're miserable and unhappy" Yup thats me.

[TheLightWithoutHeat]

My girlfriend broke up with me after a 4 year relationship to “sow her wild oats” so to speak... and had been with many men and women within the following month... she then contacted me shortly after to hangout and try to just be friends again and perhaps friends with benefits... letting go of that person was hard... but if I were to have done that I would have sacrificed my own well being for her selfish wants... letting go is difficult but it’s better and healthier for you in the long run... people can be like a drug sometimes... and withdrawals happen when you let go at first... but it goes away with time

[ross]

This is also called having boundaries.

Mr. Jordan has experienced a lot of pain throughout his life, that's how he can see what we are paining from and addresses so accurately. I'm glad I got to watch and hear this man speak, he loves us all and really wants us to be better.

[mistadopeyy]

Relationship of 3 years is about to end. Thank you Jordan for the content. These videos are helping me so much.

[Chojekkkk]

I came to this about half a year ago when my first girlfriend broke up with me. I desperately needed to hear it.

Now, I'm here again after a girl I'm not exactly dating but have feelings for is acting distant/different than how we used to be. I guess I desperately need to hear this again.

[Wimpiethe]

Excellent advice. I've broken off contact with my dad some 13 years ago and it was the best choise i've ever made. Some people are just incredibly damaging to you, let them go. Good thing i've got a really good parent left.

[merryarttoonesakamarysusan]

Let go of my toxic family years ago... wow such a healing...came into my own...

[chaseadams]

After watching arguably the shortest clip I’ve seen of dr. Peterson, I’m willing to move on from my 2.5 year relationship that’s has turned sour. It is certainly impeding on my development and I think hers as well.

[basedneeble]

Im not suffering over it, but I cant stop thinking about it in my head.

[veegaanmyooon]

This is a big relief hearing this reassurance for Jordan. I had cut some people out of my life whom I believed to have become destructive as well as seemingly becoming progressively non-congurrant with eachother's life directions. This was after a very long period of internal debate, in which I'm not even sure how many years I'd put on it.

What actually gave me the final push was that I realised by sticking around I'm implicitly approving of their; disrespectful & self-destructive behaviour; their new idealogical friends & (concerning) romantic partners whom have a serious array of pathological beliefs/attitudes; along with their own nihilist, morally relativistic, unprioritized, mysoginistic, hedonistic, intellectually lazy, and idealogically tainted beliefs. This in addition to having not an ounce of selfawareness in pretty much any context while also thinking he's very rational.

So ultimately it took me realizing that I was stunting their(primarily 1 guy, but another guy as well to a lesser degree) development by continuing that relationship.

Which is kind of saying a lot considering how long I've tolerated his constant pot use resulting in him frustratingly forgetting every other damn thing among what else you might expect like being an unmotivated dullard.

(In hindsight it honestly makes perfect sense that concern for others is what ended up being the final motivating factor considering I always seem to score very high in agreeableness additionally to somewhat high in neuroticism.

At the very least it was a certainly powerful lesson in understanding the strengths and weaknesses of my temperaments, making it very obviously where I still need the most work.)

Additionally thanks to this video I think I realised the core message behind this video can be applied to a lot more than just your relationships with others, but also in regards to yourself especially in terms of destructive vices. I can only presume that likely manifests itself stronger in those that are more disagreeable? (Seems intuitively obv to me that the typical case of what Jordan is talking about here would primarily be related to agreeableness although that could just be a result of my frame of reference)