HOW TO KNOW YOURSELF | DR. KIM SAGE

This video explores 22 ways we can come to really know ourselves, especially if we experienced difficult stories/childhoods.

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[Stillpoint]

I read David Goggins book, "Cant Hurt Me", and he includes challenges with each chapter, the first being writing about all the traumatic events that happened in childhood. Then, another is to write down all of your successes. When we get stuck being all poopy pants about how we are screwed up, in other words stuck in the default mode network, pull up the succesess to minimize the identification with trauma and the thought that thats who we are. Anyways, thought id share that... makes wonder if he knows you! 😊

[guitruss]

“It was never enough because I felt never enough” Wow!! That’s me to a high degree!

[sadiaarman]

Do your inner critic work.
Get quiet. Journaling. Meditation
Try to find the adjectives that describe who you think you are. Be loving.
What stories do you tell yourself? Eg. I am loving. So whats the story with that.
What are your dreams. Have some objectivity about it.
How wud you like to know yourself? To see yourself? Who are you when nobody is looking?

[Stillpoint]

Since finding you channel, my journey toward understanding whats under my hood and how the engine of my psyche affects my relationships, has truly accelerated the healing process exponentially! Ive also rekindled my meditation practice lately, knowledge plus introspection equals growth; thank you for making these methods available. Youre making a big difference in my life ❤

[reeyongutube]

I’m in awe of what you’ve achieved! You’re such an inspiration. You should be very proud of yourself for being asked to participate in the Harvard project.

[SchruteFarmsCEO]

I’ve been watching so many of your videos over the past few months. I feel like the information and insights you present have helped me finally who I am, my traumas, why I do what I do because of those traumas, and what I can do to improve myself. I don’t have words to express how thankful I am for you and your work.

[StephSancia]

10:48 "i would trauma dump to strangers" YES !!!! I have done this for 3 years and with hindsight it was TOTALLY wrong and it has given the wrong impression to people who think I'm a narc whereas the truth is that i suffered (as an empath) at the hands of a very dark narcissist and i have no family, few friends and I didn't seek professional help. Today, literally today i have an awareness of what I've done and I'm using that awareness to stop trauma dumping and am striving to be the outgoing positive person i was before i encountered a long period of domestic abuse. Who am I ? Well, I always say "I'm a flower power child, creative virgo with a passion for beaches and travel. Peace and love is the only answer in this tempestuous world" IN REALITY as my ex psychologist said in the 90s I've lived 3 lives in 1 (now 5) but i suffered childhood abuse, always tried to please my parents which has spilled over into my adult life. I SERIOUSLY OVERSHARE (delete this post lol) and I'm desperately trying to cease that to be a better person with society. I'm usually quite outgoing but when my traumas surface it stifles my vibrancy. Changed gender in 1985 of which has seriously affected my social network so i tend NOT to mention it on forums. Major bereavements in the 90s, cancer survivor 2014 and ONLY NOW have a strong desire to rise up again and become successful once again with my fashion design. I sincerely hope I'm blessed with a few more years on this beautiful planet. Life is precious, Music is Life and Your Accent is Pretty Cool !! Have a blessed week

[schannaish]

This is such a helpful and timely video for me. I’m just starting to discover who I am after spending the first 20+ years of my life doing what I thought I “should” be doing and who my parents wanted me to be. I’m starting to take terrifying but small steps in the direction I want to take my life. I’m holding on to hope that taking action, no matter how small or scary, will slowly help me out of the nightmare of childhood. Thanks Dr Kim ❤

[UteNagel]

My goal was to get out! That's it!

[dieresis]

The doing is definitely important. Doing and sharing with even one other person we trust/love, I learned, is even more important. We need another to reflect our goodness and inner beauty back to us to help us diminish the sound of the negative voices we absorbed as our own.

[restlessmosaic]

Congratulations! It's weird that a channel of 60, 000+ subscribers is medium-size in the world of the internet, but I'm really glad you were seen enough to be part of this. Very well done!

[shoveldoggermafia]

Thank you . I don't even know where to start. I have been suffering as long as I remember. You make me cry and I want that. You are talking about me and I hear that.

[charlottedog]

The best thing that ever happened to me was the breakdown of my relationships with both of my older sisters. By my 30s I had figured out that my parents were dysfunctional broken people. Not healed from their form of raising kids but able to recognize it and able to start working through my childhoodtrauma. And just turning a label on them helped me manage my relationships with them. Both of my sister's claim to of recognized this at an early age but are actually still reflecting that childhood trauma. I love that they took me under their wing and tried to protect me. They were life savers for me growing up. But they both have drug and alcohol issues and that unsteady behavior began to affect my relationships with them by my 40s. So for 9 years they've not been a part of my life or each other's. That we fell apart was very sad. Devastating at first. It wasn't my choice to not communicate. And still is sad. I hope we can all be close again someday.

But wow it has been so beneficial to me because I realized they still labeled and decided who I was. They worked to make me dependent on them. They do every thing my parents do they just come at it from a cool loving direction. And I had lived my entire life either under my parents control or theirs. Never knowing who I was but constantly being told who I was.

I'm 49 years old and about a year ago I woke and realized wow I am for the first time in my life my own person. Just me. And I really like me. I had no idea.

Also about the time my family was finally totally melting down I was just coming out of my third long term relationship...with yet another man who just like my family attempted to tell me who I was.

These past 9 or so years have been the best years of my life. I have friends but I don't see myself ever letting anyone in to point where my identity is what someone else needs or expects it to be what they need!!!

And I'm strong about it. If anyone in conversation oh you seem like the type to be like....I give it a moment and consider this description then if I don't agree with I will say actually and politely rephrase it to clear that up. Not just for them but for me.

[raulsanch]

You are an inspiration for sure. It’s been only a couple of years that I realized that my childhood was not healthy. I’m in therapy and now I realize how trauma shapes our life. Your videos are very informative and you sound so soothing and transparent. Great channel !

[karentyndall]

Fantastic you are an inspiration!!! I am 62 and still starting over from PTSD. You give hope thanks so much xxxx🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🤗🤗🤗🤗Enjoy the moment of Celebration xxxx

[LauradeVasconcelos]

Yes, I'm proud of you too, and so grateful for your work! Cheers

[StevenBaker-ls]

Self awareness becomes self awareness of one's self in emotional trauma

[alicruz]

I have BPD and just started therapy. Your videos have helped me so much. Thank you for making them!

[Artemis-goddess]

Thank you! You make the best videos with the best info.

[DrKimSage]

Here’s a list of the incredible creators who have been part of our Harvard Public Health seminars!! Please check them out!❤❤❤