Why Good Men 'Lie' | The Happy Wife School Show Ep. 50

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Timestamps:
0:00 Welcome
3:25 Topic Introduction
19:28 5 Reasons a Good Man Should NOT Be Honest With His Wife
31:35 The Solution for Women
36:03 The Solution for Men
39:47 Questions and Comments

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Video Timestamps:

0:00 Welcome
3:25 Topic Introduction
19:28 5 Reasons a Good Man Should NOT Be Honest With His Wife
31:35 The Solution for Women
36:03 The Solution for Men
39:47 Questions and Comments

[jackfenton]

"Anything you say can & will be used against you"

[smille]

A smile once in awhile goes a long way, since watching you, I've become more confident navigating the wife's minefield of emotions caused by her past relationships, still a work in progress, for me these talks from you help me realize I'm not the reason for her unhappiness in herself. And thank you for the smiles.

[KJ-pudw]

Men need to understand no woman is your best friend where you can share thoughts and feelings.
In a way a man is always alone, even in a marriage.

[bradediger]

Your honest vulnerability is what makes your advice worth listening to...! It is what makes you credible!

[SKBottom]

Thank you for your honesty. Women do personalize everything and see anything other than praise as a personal attack.

[shortsworld]

Thanks Karyn for all you do for men and marriages. You are completely different from all the mainstream 'feel good' messages we get from 'gurus' which almost always places women on a victim stand and a man as someone who always has to appease. My wife has been so inspired by your teachings. She does call you unusual but it's got her digging deep to learn more. We love you and listen to you from the UK. it's a shame your video has not been watched many more times. What a blessing you are. God bless you.

[CWUEOY]

Karen, thank you for being strong enough to be vulnerable with your audience. That is a gift to us and makes your advice and counsel even more authentic and meaningful.

[tempestj]

I struggle with this as well. It has been a hard pill to swallow that sometimes it's better if I just don't know as much as that goes against my instinct to want to know everything my husband is doing/watching/commenting. I've been working on just doing my own thing and he can enjoy his own things. This one is going to take awhile to overcome, but as long as I keep putting in effort and keep awareness to how I respond to things that are hurtful then I think this is an issue that can be overcome. If my husband tells me something that hurts me, I've been just remaining calm, journaling/writing so I can work out why I got so emotional about it, and then I can return feeling better and ready to take responsibility for my own emotions. It's challenging to control volatile emotions, but it's our responsibility to find a way to do it. A husband should never feel like he has to lie to his wife, but I very much understand why he would.

[philkallberg]

It seems to me the simple, easy, and obvious solution is that women who act this way need to grow the hell up.
The rest of us should just stop giving in when they throw tantrums and act this way. It's what I do with my children, and if my wife wants to act like a child, then she will be treated as such.

[DamonvanDerSalm]

It is not safe to be absolutely truthful with your wife...how profound and so sad

[fightingfortruth]

The older I get, I finally understand that Jack Nicholson's character in A Few Good Men was the hero all along.

[frankcharlemagne]

This whole video is solid gold. Don’t waste $150/hr on a marriage counselor, just watch this for free.

[Cougs]

I was gaslit and wanted to save the marriage so badly I apologized for all the things she accused me of even when I didn’t do them. I was pathetic. Glad she and her psychological manipulation is out of my life.

[DrVinceJohnson]

Karen, I pray daily that woman can open there hearts to hear your message. It will save so many lives.
Please DO NOT GIVE
We need you

[naji]

A good man embraces goodness and always surrounds himself with good people who share his values. He will have the power and the conviction to reject evil and remain true to his faith, even if it means having to avoid certain environments and social functions such as parties that may host strippers. A good man is a wise man and his good wife shares his wisdom.

[josephblaylock]

OMG! 😂 this episode is “EXACTLY “ what is going on with me. I’ve been struggling with my own self esteem, and I was lifted up by your show. THANK YOU!

[charlessmarr]

I would love to hear you do a show on Brene Brown's anecdote. "Fall off my horse".

” He pointed toward the back of the room where his wife was standing and said, “My wife and daughters — the ones you signed all of those books for — they’d rather see me die on top of my white horse than watch me fall off. You say you want us to be vulnerable and real, but c’mon. You can’t stand it. It makes you sick to see us like that.”

“Holding my breath, I had this very visceral reaction to what he was saying. It hit me the way only truth can.”

“He let out a long sigh, and as quickly as he had begun, he said, “That’s all I wanted to say. Thanks for listening.” Then he just walked away. I had spent years researching women and hearing their stories of struggle. In that moment, I realized that men have their own stories..."

[oldludwigdrummer]

Another great and helpful video, Karyn. Thank you for taking the time to share these with us.

[EstellaStill]

I’m a woman and this is soooo true.
I have a story to remind myself of him telling the whole truth and 23 years later I finally tell him how it hurt me and how I clung to that in my mind. He had no idea but it was huge to me. Some things don’t need to be said.