Why your Partner Lies to you...

Lying always breaks trust in any Relationship. We simply cannot expect any closeness or intimacy when one partner continually unrepentantly lies to the other. Lying creates an unsafe relationship.

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[edenjennings]

If this resinates for you as something you have been on the receiving end of, know your not alone and your not crazy. You have been subjected to crazy making behavior. You dont have "trust issues" the trust has been systematically removed from your relationship. You dont "take things personal" you have been subjected to personal attacks on your mental health. And maybe they didnt "try to hurt you" but they sure didnt try to protect you either. Own whats yours, but dont take on the burden of what is theirs to carry.

[terichastain]

If I'm getting lied to, trust is gone and I withdraw all that I can possibly withdraw. My presence will be the next thing I withdraw.

[calimaree]

Exactly and please don’t say” I didn’t lie. I just didn’t tell you” lol that’s the worst one!!

[halloweendancing]

I started to cry when you said, "They were right! You were hiding something." My ex lied to me, cheated on me, and did things behind my back that hurt me for our 5 year relationship, and yet when I got upset and became super anxious, he would break up with me. He'd say I was acting controlling or was too emotional and it was too hard for him. So I'd try to be the best girlfriend I could be and prove that I deserved a real partnership. I am a very honest person and tried to communicate and be understanding. I told him so many times that the lying hurt me more, that we could work through other things but trust is essential. In the end, he cheated again and he broke up with me when my mental health had been deteriorated. He ghosted me. That relationship took so much away from me, but it is so validating to hear that my anxious behavior was justified. It was so out of character for me to be that way.

[etherealenergy]

When I get lied to I take that as an insult to my intelligence.

[amyclay]

The way you explain these things is just perfect

[lexhappinessisyou]

If they lie about the small things, what else are they lying about?

[tahiyamarome]

When you withhold full information or twist information out of shape in order to get someone to make choices that benefit you because you know the full information would make them choose differently, you literally take away their right to self determination. One serious lie should be more than enough reason for your victim to walk away. It means you are willing to harm others to benefit yourself. It means you are a person of low character. Full stop.

[JIF]

You need to post more about lying and how damaging it is because this is a big issue in a lot of marriages. A little lie is the same as a big lie as you said. The betrayal is the same. I equate this to cheating one time or cheating 10 times. It's still the betrayal and it still hurts.

[dvkiwi]

I wouldnt have trust issues if he didnt have lying issues... and I'm the one with the problem? Please!!

[TrishaLynnDYI]

You pretty much covered all my husband’s excuses. Wish he would watch your videos but he is too insecure to have another man tell him his short comings. Great videos!! 🎉your wife is blessed!

[codiethompson]

I did all the small lies for all the "justified reasons", so then when something big happened I was untrustworthy and my partner of 13 years ended our relationship. I messed up. I have regrets now, which is too little too late.
Listen to Jimmy: He is saying all the things I thought my partner was "hinting" at, but I as just being too defensive and selfish to hear the meaning behind her words.

[joyyu]

I genuinely don't understand why people choose to lie in a relationship and stay in them. Just break up with them when you feel like you have to start hiding things from your partner. Save both some time.

[dianalynn]

I've always been a truth-teller...at 75years old I've learned a few things: sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. And, still, I'm a truth-teller and I often pay the price.

[TheBurlyIrishman]

This is also a great thing to tell your children. Especially ones that lie unconsciously.

[amycaldwell]

Thank you for this. I was labeled as “crazy” “controlling” and “had trust issues”. All of which are gaslighting to manipulate you into believing it is you that is the problem. When an issue is brought up to your spouses attention and it gets turned around on you, you can guarantee that there’s truth to it. I was married for 20 years full of lies and it never got better. I finally left that marriage and have been married to my now husband for almost 3 years. I’m sad to say that I’m in almost the same situation with this man. As a Christian, I want to know where the Godly men are.

[confusedwhynot]

What sucks is telling them the truth and they don't trust you. My husband came from situations of not being able to trust. I have come to learn that he never trusted me from the beginning. Not because of who I am, but because of his past. Until he learns to heal he will never have a relationship with trust.

[emetee]

Him: I didn't tell you I did because I knew you would blow up. (I did when I found out, because what he did hurt me emotionally.)
Him apologizing 3 days later: I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. I didn't realize would hurt you.
Me: Um, what? Then why did you think I would blow up?
Him: *blink* *blink* Have you been taking your antidepressant medication?
Crazy. Crazier that I've bought the same situation for years.

[JoyFay]

They lie because they don’t respect you

[ntildesley]

Loving someone and lying to them can't exist at the same time.