10 Ways to Become Narcissist Resistant

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[carparthero]

10 ways to become narcissist resistant

1-know what narcissism is
2-be resistant to the 3 c's: charm, charisma, confidence
3-radical acceptance of what it is
4-learn the universal tell's of narcissist behavior (reactions when criticized, not listening, lack of empathy, victimhood, hypocrisy, etc)
5-slow down. take time to pay attention to what is happening to you.
6-don't feel that you have to educate everyone else. most people aren't willing or able to understand what narcissism is about.
7-build support around you.
8-have meaning and purpose in your life
9-build self-compassion
10-learn your pressure/trigger points

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[LValley-kzyc]

First: I had to stop complaining and crawl out of my PITY PIT. I dialed down his importance. Then I got busy building my life. The result: FREEDOM.

[sushmayen]

Put yourself first and safeguard your well-being. You owe it to yourself.

[DanteVelasquez]

Not only is empathy a waste on a narcissist, they will use it against you over and over as a weapon.

[erinward]

Last month, in the ICU, in the middle of the night, I felt alone. I'd just come out of a coma; I'd been fighting for my life. I was full of grief, fear, and self-doubt. A nurse began to administer meds without telling me what they were. So, I asked. She was clearly annoyed and beyond unkind. I was hurt and shocked to feel shocked. But I soon realized I wasn't alone. A tech in the room waited until the nurse left and quietly let me know she recognized that what just happened wasn't okay. THANK YOU to all of you brave, beautiful people. Her soft voice, compassion, emotional attunement, and willingness to stand beside me was all it took to put a smile on my face. Thank you to all who break through the darkness with light.❤❤❤

[Rclsllh]

1. Have iron clad boundaries and standards

2. stay emotionally detached until you vet the person minimum 3 months.

3. Trust your gut instincts

4. Keep your life private avoid over sharing especially what makes you happy and upset. Narcissist needs to know these to love bomb and hurt depending on what stage of the relationship

[CodeDusq]

Being authentic and true to yourself and your boundaries can become an armor against narcissists and their manipulative tactics. Be able to trust your gut and recognize some of their manipulative actions. Once you sense red flags, disengage and protect your personal space.

[nastyya]

I strongly believe that no matter how much material is consumed on narcissism, a person would have no real idea what it is, until they have have been immersed in it, experienced it to the most detrimental depths, and bears the scars to show for it.

[henryvanveen]

As soon as a person shouts, snaps, barks, growls at me, thats is it. To me THEY have lost it and there is no good in trying to explain anything to them, but I get labelled as arrogant and stubborn.

[heleenloubser]

If someone wants to control you, step away. This is a sure trait of narcs.

[nowherenothere]

Do NOT tune in to narcissists or narcissistic people. This is especially important for empaths.

[sandibass]

What worked for me and my toxic family was No Contact!

[Muscplayr]

Be happy being alone. This allows you to back away when your instinct tells you that something’s not right with that other person you just met, or you work with, or is a member of your family or church, or your spouse. Knowing that you’re OK being alone can help prevent you from coming up with excuses or justifications for that other person‘s behavior.

[SharonKingston-vf]

“No Contact” 3 years ! I feel so much better ❤ thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[NikkiGRocksEver]

When you meet someone new, test the person. Simply either disagree with their opinion or say no. Watch the reaction.

A person who healthy and well adjusted will respect your point of view.
A toxic controlling person will not.

When I test people, I save myself time and pain.

I wish everyone well on the healing journey.

[ed]

The survivors support group i joined made things worse. Ive been in therapy for 5 years and I now realise the less I talk about narc abuse, the better l feel and I gain better clarity that helps me thrive and keep me calm

[Steveincorp]

They'll count on you being guilty for reacting to their abuse. Remember, they will never feel guilt. There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. Please take care of your own mental health.

[sockpuppet]

Spotting controlling behavior and language and blocking those people out of your life.
Spotting intrusive, boundary violating language/ behavior and blocking those people out of your life.
Basically understanding toxicity and reducing conditioned tolerance for it.
And not being the supporting actor in someone else’s show but being the star of your own show.

[thehappyhound]

When I accidentally stumbled into a hobby during an abusive marriage….and the hobby eventually became my career….that was my first big step away from narcissistic abuse. It helped me begin to see my life very differently. That was 24 years ago this coming March (the 10th!). I’ve still struggled with putting myself in the direct path of other narcissists, but I’m getting wiser and more resistant all the time. Dr. Ramani, you’ve really made a big difference. I wish I’d had you in my life 24 years ago (well, 25, tbh). Thank you for all that you do!

[pinkmeadows]

A point I thought about is build a strong sense of self. Knowing who and what you are I believe can go a long way. You may be less likely to fall for the manipulations when grounded with self identity.