Wife Wants To Separate

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Wife wants to separate. What do I do when my wife wants us to separate? Dr. Joe Beam discusses what to do when a spouse wants to separate from the marriage in this episode of Marriage Helper Live.

Separation is going to work against you, not for you. However, if someone is in jeopardy, then that is a time to separate. The minute that one of you moves out, the tension is automatically decreased, which then improves mood because that tension is not there. That is why separation makes it harder to come back together; when you escape your problems and have time to breathe, you may not want to return to that tension. So generally, separation is not a great idea (unless someone is in jeopardy). In some states, a husband leaving the house can result in losing some of the legal battle if a couple does decide to divorce. It would help greatly to get an attorney involved for the legal steps of a separation if your spouse demands to leave. Ultimately, it would be best to not move out. If you both stay, keep the home environment calm and be careful with your interactions.

If your wife wants to separate, this video should be helpful to you.

[dannyp]

Guys the real advice is don't be with someone that doesn't want to be with you. The end. I'll save you money time and a lot more heartbreak. Trust me I've done it all and this is the best advice you will hear.

[JohnnyRebKy]

My sister wants to separate from husband. I live to far away to help her. She’s pretty much stuck there against her will. Can’t afford to just leave and live somewhere else. He’s a alcoholic and she feels mentally and emotionally abused. I feel so bad for her. How does a woman just up and leave when she can’t afford to live someone else on her own 🤷🏼‍♂️

[donnaallgaier-lamberti]

I find it interesting that you recommend that no one move out. As a woman who is asking for change asking the man to move out (to me way of thinking) is the way for "telling" him I am serious about my request for change. I have asked for marriage counseling, change over and over and his willingness to even talk about it is not there. He just pretends everything is fine. In my experience men tend to think that when the pressure of the spouse stops then men (as a general rule) feel that everything is "just fine" even when it is not. In my first marriage we stayed living together when my then husband talked to his friends for divorce advice, and came up with his plan of who kept what while he continues to disengage emotionally, play softball, baseball, play soccer drink with his buddies and party every night of the week and then take weekend ski trips and canoe outings while I took care of our home, , the yard, our son's needs, the bills, repairs and maintenance, groceries, cooking, laundry ironing and all of the other the standard chores. While he had not made his mind up about wanting to divorce or not. We lived like that for 10 years until our son's past the age of eighteen so that he did not have to pay any child support.

[michellemwilliams]

Makes because when the unhappy mate feels that relief they won't want to work things

[RandomDude_X]

My wife kicked me out. I deal with Chronic pain from three back surgeries and severe depression. I got complacent would come home from work just lay in bed and became a hermit. Then I would get snappy with her and the kids. I love them all so deeply and would do anything for my family back. She adamite on a divorce. I need some help advice anything.

[gustavo]

My wife wants out of our marriage of 1 year because we started fighting a lot.. just the other night she asked to have sex because she needed it, but explained that it wouldn't change anything... Should I put up boundaries and not do it? Because we ended up having sex, which we both enjoyed.. but like she said, It didn't change her demeanor towards me. She is still short with me and won't kiss me or tell me she loves me back. It made me feel used or like a one last time to see if she will miss it or not...

[overcomeego]

If she hates you anything will annoy her. What to do then?

[po]

One of the worst things I ever experienced is this seperation

[brianroling]

My wife decided to move out and that we separate after 25 yrs I still love and am in so much pain of my choices I don’t know what to do. I don’t know to move on or wait for her ?

[hopeseeker]

Do you have a video for when you marry a spouse with a comprehension disability? Learning disability? Mental challenge that you after 23 years realize is extreme and has left you trapped and alone and miserable? Children are teens but you are tired of crisis after crisis (not abuse but poor choices no connection and financial distress over and over again.)

[jesseedelen]

I’m in an odd situation my wife asked for a separation/ divorce two weeks ago i gave her space while I went and did my own thing for the past two weeks. these past couple of days she kept making comments on why I don’t like her or love her anymore I ask her why she don’t tell me please help I’m confused do I continue to let her be or start trying to make things work

[teamserrette]

So what are most odds of a marriage reconciling if the wife moves out. Mine wants out so she can breathe and wants a divorce. We have to separate for 12 months. There was an affair on her part over a year ago.

[SA]

The women in our theyre just SOOOO fucking important to us.
I miss my miss my wife Im seperating such beautiful human beings.
Fucking hell I want to die.