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When You Don't Want a Divorce: My partner wants a divorce but I don't.
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When you don’t want a divorce but your partner does, you are left feeling powerless and helpless. It seems like everything you do just drives them further away. There are things you can do when your partner wants a divorce and you don’t. In this video I share four powerful actions you can take when you don’t want a divorce.
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Your divorce can either be the nail in your coffin, or it can be the catalyst you use to finally confront and heal your emotional wounds so they don't kneecap your relationships.
You can become the best version of yourself and take control of your future. And now you can get access to the same step by step, proven system that has already helped hundreds of men do just that, inside the Better Beyond Divorce App.
GET ACCESS TO THE BETTER BEYOND DIVORCE APP NOW:
*Additional Resources*
Free Masterclass: HOW TO TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AFTER DIVORCE
Guide: Emotional Stages of Divorce for Men & How to Heal within Each Stage
Dating After Divorce Checklist: Are you ready to date after your divorce?
*Work with Me*
*Helpful Books for Divorced Men* (affiliate links)
I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.
How do you get through a divorce you don't want?
When my clients tell me, “my partner wants a divorce but I don’t”, they are usually focused on how to save the marriage. When you’re focus is on how to save a marriage or how to stop a divorce, you end up doing things that push your partner further from you.
The best way to fight for your marriage is to fight for yourself. When you don’t want a divorce but your spouse does, use the space created by separation to do the deep work of self love on yourself. Start exploring who you are in the marriage, who you are now, who you want to become.
If you focus on stopping a divorce or saving a marriage you end up fixated on things you cannot control. This produces anxiety and despair, which are not resourceful states.
You are allowed to fight for your marriage
This doesn’t mean you can’t fight to save your marriage. Do it. Let your partner know you are doing it. Be clear on what you want. Let them know when you don’t want a divorce.
Let them know you are getting help if you are seeing a therapist or a coach.
But mostly, fight for your marriage by fighting for yourself. You cannot fully and unconditionally love another person until you learn to love yourself.
You must do that work, the self love work, first.
When you do, your partner might respond and come back to you.
Or they may not.
But self love work is never wasted.
You can create a joyful, loving fulfilled life for yourself by learning to accept yourself, take ownership of your emotions and intentionally create your future.
That work is always worth doing.
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Your divorce can either be the nail in your coffin, or it can be the catalyst you use to finally confront and heal your emotional wounds so they don't kneecap your relationships.
You can become the best version of yourself and take control of your future. And now you can get access to the same step by step, proven system that has already helped hundreds of men do just that, inside the Better Beyond Divorce App.
GET ACCESS TO THE BETTER BEYOND DIVORCE APP NOW:
*Additional Resources*
Free Masterclass: HOW TO TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AFTER DIVORCE
Guide: Emotional Stages of Divorce for Men & How to Heal within Each Stage
Dating After Divorce Checklist: Are you ready to date after your divorce?
*Work with Me*
*Helpful Books for Divorced Men* (affiliate links)
I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.
How do you get through a divorce you don't want?
When my clients tell me, “my partner wants a divorce but I don’t”, they are usually focused on how to save the marriage. When you’re focus is on how to save a marriage or how to stop a divorce, you end up doing things that push your partner further from you.
The best way to fight for your marriage is to fight for yourself. When you don’t want a divorce but your spouse does, use the space created by separation to do the deep work of self love on yourself. Start exploring who you are in the marriage, who you are now, who you want to become.
If you focus on stopping a divorce or saving a marriage you end up fixated on things you cannot control. This produces anxiety and despair, which are not resourceful states.
You are allowed to fight for your marriage
This doesn’t mean you can’t fight to save your marriage. Do it. Let your partner know you are doing it. Be clear on what you want. Let them know when you don’t want a divorce.
Let them know you are getting help if you are seeing a therapist or a coach.
But mostly, fight for your marriage by fighting for yourself. You cannot fully and unconditionally love another person until you learn to love yourself.
You must do that work, the self love work, first.
When you do, your partner might respond and come back to you.
Or they may not.
But self love work is never wasted.
You can create a joyful, loving fulfilled life for yourself by learning to accept yourself, take ownership of your emotions and intentionally create your future.
That work is always worth doing.
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