How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch | TED

We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.

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[dani]

-Take action when feeling lonely
-Change response to failures
-Protect your self esteem
-Battle negative thinking

[isahjade]

"It makes us really afraid to reach out because why setup yourself for heartache and rejection when your heart is already aching more than you can stand"
this really cuts me deep..

[aashishbhongade]

I appreciate how Ted Talks named this video "How to practice emotional aid" and not "How to practice emotional aid on yourself "
Because we all came thinking how we could help others...and returned learning how we could help ourselves firt

[liamc]

This video is a perfect example of the good the internet can do. Imagine how many lives this man has touched with his words. How many lives he has saved. All thanks to the world wide web.

[yongironi]

I really love how he addresses the issue of emotional health without shoving his expertise in psychology to the audience, while still able to get everyone to hear what he says thanks to his narrative-ish speech—which I must say is really easy to understand. We really need more humble professionals like him.

[Manu-ywnu]

He has such a calming, gentle voice. Makes you feel like everything will work out

[kristinet.]

I would watch this over and over again to remind myself about the harms of rumination. That I need to do something about this chronic anxiety and loneliness.

[Olivia-pevf]

No doubt. You are a "REAL"Doctor. Your speech brought tears to my eyes. We tend to be so hard on ourselves. Thank you so much

[haruhi_dayo]

I clicked on this video for the purpose of helping my friends who have mental health problems but this guy made me realise that it was me who needed help. I really appreciate this video

[downtoawhisper]

12:44 This is something I have never considered. He's so right that we would never make a physical injury worse. We would protect it and care for it so it can heal. Yet, we don't do that with emotional injuries. We often make them worse with negative thinking. What a revolutionary concept to treat our minds the same way we do our physical body. I only wish we were all taught how to do this. It makes me want to learn more about it.

[jwh]

5:40 Loneliness
7:32 Pay attention to emotional pain
7:42 Failure (toy-activation example)
10:58 Stop emotional bleeding
11:46 Rejection (divorcee example)
13:34 Protect your self-esteem
13:45 Rumination
15:40 Battle negative thinking

[camandresjl]

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”

― Henry Ford

[poshko]

Listening to the guy's voice, he could have a successful second career narrating kids' shows on the BBC.

[a.m.arteaga]

My sister sent me this because I've been struggling with depression for a couple of years and, to be honest, I really needed this. I really like the way he presents this issue, he seems so natural and passionate.

[PerfumeCognac]

Loneliness being purely subjective was such an eye opening statement. I feel like often when someone says they’re lonely someone else will point out all the “tangible” ways that they aren’t. But at the end of the day it doesn’t matter, you can be in a see of people but if you don’t have the specific connection you NEED then you will be lonely and it’s not for anyone else to perceive but you. That’s so powerful

[moragmacgregor]

I found myself close to tears a few times. That tells me that I have some emotional hygiene issues to work on. I'd like to watch this again with my whole family. I hope it would stimulate a positive, healing conversation.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights, Dr Winch.

[ilikecats]

"loneliness affects immune system"
Me- *cough*

[puppibanana]

It's so difficult being compassionate to yourself...

[juanandresagostoconrad]

Hi Ted! I am a nurse. In my life I have to deal with many situations that mainly consists in loneliness and rejection even from my own family. It has been very sad that I barely had emotional support from my parents. This lack of happiness and a constant search for it corrupted by my surroundings has made me struggle all my life till today in my last semester for my Bachalor's. One thing that distinguishes me is that no matter what my situation is I will succeed. It has been extremely hard to deal with my father's and mother's divorce along with their rejection and cruelty to me. I know everything I just wrote is very personal but most people are scared of speaking about it, I am not because I know that the sun will rise again and I will be able to breathe and treat my patients with the love I never had. I am more than thankful for your studies, your effort and your determination to help people. Thank you!

[takashiymatcha]

I have never related to a WHOLE video about what I have been struggling to since the pandemic and this video made me feel safe and that I am valid wherein a lot of times I do not feel that way in my life. In the past month, I worked as an intern here in our place and I started it with a whole different and new environment in my home/neighborhood and even all of the people I worked with were all complete strangers to me. I never let my guard down in that short amount of time I've been an intern so that the people there won't really know who I am, that I am a very vulnerable person and also have depression and anxiety. I couldn't even believe myself that whole time there, I was the strong person that I wish I could be in everyday, but I guess I really just have episodes in my life. Getting better everyday!