How Christian Dating Advice Should Change with Your Age (4 Tips)

How should Christian dating advice change the older you get? What different Christian dating advice is there for younger and older adults? Here are 4 ways Christian dating tips should change based upon your age and spiritual maturity.

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[Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere]

I’m almost 35 and still unmarried, please pray for me 💛

[regisnyder]

I agree with the “mature” adult should be more intentional when it comes to dating/courting — being able to discern the intentions.

[tinkerbellrost]

I agree. I’m 61 and have been a widow for 3 1/2 years. I decided I wanted to start dating a year ago. I met someone in the spring of this year and I knew pretty quickly that he was the man I had been praying for. We are now engaged and getting married the end of August. I know that’s pretty quick, but I’m very mature when it comes to love and I know that God is the one who brought us together.

[melindajohnson]

I’m a 19 yr old Christian gal with very lack of knowledge of Christian dating. I truly appreciate your ministry!! Continue on my brother.

[danielduggan]

Thanks, Mark. This is a very relevant video for me right now. As a 36 year old man who is looking to be married, this advice is very helpful. Being more forward and intentional has been something I always struggled with. I've noticed God helping me there with someone I met at church recently, so it's nice to have confirmation from more than one source. Keep up the good work. God bless!

[sheilawroten]

Finally a common sense Christian outlook on dating & marriage for "mature" people. More of these kinds of videos please!!!
I'm a 61 yr old female

[moonfairy]

I wish I had this advice in my youth! It could have saved me so much heartbreak and time. I'm a 48 year old divorced mother of 3 and have been raising my kids alone for the past 18 years. I so deeply wanted the traditional family life, but it just didn't work out that way. If only I knew how to date smarter.

[commandercody]

Hi Mark!

I'm 19 myself and was just about to ask a girl out on a date but decided to watch one of your videos first for some wisdom and BOOM!! Perfect video! I don't need to rush things so I will just instead get to know her through relaxed environments such as church and ministry with my other friends instead!

Thank you Mark and God bless you, all your family and friends!

[susan]

Again I appreciate your thoughts. I'm not going to skip over the friendship and courting process and rush things because I'm "older" lol. I think you'll understand when you're "older" I will continue to watch your videos though! Although I disagree here you do have a lot of videos that are very informative and helpful! Thank you !

[trishg]

Great video...! I believe the guy should be the pursuer...no matter age...I think it shows they are self-confident...😀

[fw]

Oh, you mean I have to get out the house in order to meet him. Lol....Great video. I’ve gotten so much out of this. Thank you Mark!

[EveWilliamsMusic]

Yes! Something that irks me is that guidance aimed at singles is aimed at teenagers and students. A lot of ministers married in their 20s and 30s so when they were single they were young and they confuse those 2 things.

[missweenieboys]

Great video! I consider myself in the middle (30s). How do you be friends first without being in the friend zone? I know I want to be married, but I don't think I am spiritually mature enough.

[mailenereyes]

Exactly pastor, that, s very true, thank you pastor Mark, I m learning a lot from u, Stay blessed

[divinediva_]

Good video. I do believe one should always be direct. I can't agree with all points in the video, but I'll reserve my final thoughts until I watch your courting vs dating video. :D I do find value in taking the time to really discern the heart and motivations of others at ANY age whether dating, courting, etc. Even when acting intentionally, one can end up with someone that is talking a good game and get locked in with someone who is not a true match.

I am just living every day life and have never been on the "hunt." I've only recently decided that I am open to godly dating. I'm in my early 40's trying to understand where the quality men are. It has been somewhat frustrating because I am a confident and strong person in the Lord, but I haven't met many men that are genuine or mature enough to have a healthy friendship or relationship. I don't feel the need to latch on to someone immediately. I spent time with someone recently and he was attempting to move VERY quickly, but I told him I wanted to get to know him before committing to a relationship. The more time I spent with him, the more I knew he was NOT ready to be with ANYONE, including me. He said all the right things, but his behaviors did not add up after a few weeks. His true character was revealed. Had I gone all-in early on, I could possibly be stuck in a situation with an abrasive, emotionally abusive person with no drive or ambition. NO THANK YOU! Nevertheless, I remain optimistic. I believe there is someone that the Lord has for me. I'll keep living everyday life and remain receptive to positive, spiritual men.

[debbiebarnett]

You said older lean more to dating model, younger, courting model. I would've thought it was the other way around.

[livingunashamed]

Another good one but idk even at 27 I still think about courting a girl.

[kellybrown]

What if I'm older than her? I really like this girl, she's a very virtuous young woman, and she likes me, but I'm 13 years older than her. I'm 33 years old. We get along really well, we can talk for hours, we both love the same kind of music, and we love the same sports. I've been praying a lot for guidance, and I've come to the point where I'm just gonna put God first and love Him with all my heart and give my life to Jesus whole heartedly, and if God brings us together, then good, if not, then good. What do u think? Any advice on Christian dating and age gaps?

[rosem.]

Mark, I have a question for you. If you meet someone briefly out of a Christian setting and that person shows interest to want to get to know you and asks for your number, what do you advise? Do you ask if he/she is a Christian right from the beginning before even interacting and getting to know each other, or do you find out the details afterwards? Is it worth taking the risk of realizing you like someone but shouldn't date because you're unequally yoked. What's your say on this one? Oh, when I say "out of a Christian setting", I don't mean a bar or a club or anything like that. I mean just a random place, like a store, bus stop etc.

[rhettmason]

I am 42 never been married or have children what should I fo