Christian Dating

[TalkaboutChrist]

Don’t forget, you have to find yourself through God before you go looking for a wife or husband. Be the person you would want to spend your entire life with.

[JoshMitchell]

"If he is unwilling to cross this boundary, that means the boundary of our marriage he will not cross."
💎💎💎

[hakayi]

This gives language to what Holy Spirit has been talking to me about. It seems like both genders see each other as either a dating pool to explore romantically or a stumbling block to stay away from. We need to learn to socialize in church as brothers and sisters in Christ before starting to identify each other as future mates. Not everyone we interact with from the opposite gender is a potential mate. Others God sent our way to purely be our friends. May God help us❤

[r.walker]

A friend is a friend and while a lover is also a friend, it's not the same kind of "friend" as a friend. It's not wise to not have boundaries between the two. If there is actual romantic-level physical attraction between you then you should not be friends at all because it will always be a threat to you actual relationships. People know when they like a person "like that" and it's best to never put them in a friends place, it can create a lot of unnecessary confusion and crossed signals and heartbreak for no reason. Be a man or a woman and just ask the person out and get to know them with intention.

[LifeWithEm]

this is so beautiful. love to see men thinking like this.

[pelotongirl]

There’s something here. . . And I would add a caution that communicating “I want to be your friend” when you know you like someone and are interested in a “friend in a relationship” is very kind. Just telling a woman that you want to be friends with her knowing that you like her in a non-platonic way is confusing and NOT clear. I don’t know who said it, but clarity is kindness. Why not just let a woman know I’m interested in getting to know you. Getting to know you doesn’t mean I want to have sex with you. If you tell me you want to be my friend, I’m like cool. We can be friends but I’m going to keep meeting other people who might want to be more than friends some day. I’m not rushing out to sleep with them, but at least a man who tells me I’m interested in you gets a gold star for being real. “Friends” between two people who meet in a non-platonic context and then get a “let’s be friends” is a nice “I’m not interested in you” message. Just my interpretation . . . And I add for context that I know and 1000% agree that friendship is paramount to a successful long term relationship.

[maddybrown]

*Courting not dating. We are called to a higher standard.

[nappyfries]

Honestly, I don’t want to be friends with men first anymore. I’ve always thought men were my friends & then they hit on me or I’ve ended up liking them..idk there just seems to be a lot of confusion in it. I’d rather a man state his intentions upfront & then we can go from there.

[abrightguy]

Alex always posting something that calls me out right when I need it

[theresarabil]

A friend is a friend, a lover is a friend but more than that. If a person sees you just as a mere friend then what's so special about the relationship you have together? Many people can be our friends but not many can be our lovers. Something has to set the significant other apart from the others in one's heart.

[jorgecastillo]

Loved that part about boundaries and how if we can trust each other and ourselves to set those boundaries before marriage, we can trust each other with the boundaries that come with marriage

[lombechewemukulu]

biggest take away; I WANT NOTHING FROM YOU. I GOTTA DEAL WITH MY SELFISHNESS

[Kevin-jcfx]

You have to be clear about the fact that you are here for marriage. The friend zone or the brozone are not places you can get out of at will. Don't go there in the first place. I have been a born again Christian for 14 years and all this has gotten me into was friendzone after friendzone and they all proceed to go and marry someone who doesn't bother will all this protocol. I guess it's time to radically change my strategy. They say that "nice guys" finish last and I learned the hard way that it isn't different in the Church. If you are there for courtship, do courtship if she aligns with a godly lifestyle, don't waste time being people's friends and hoping to be promoted to a romantic position somewhere down the line, that is a recipe for disaster.

[ashtonlochtefeld]

This was so good to listen to. Wow. Love the fireplace analogy. Boundaries are so good and important. The virtue of Chasity is necessary for authentic love. Highly recommend St. John Paul II’s writings on the Theology of the Body and Love and Responsibility!

[maryanak]

Not always. Some people you will always accept as friends, but if there is no so called "chemistry" - no way that it will be marriage.

[IshayaJuzzy]

There’s always this enforced hunger to serve God more genuinely when I watch your videos Alex, God bless you thank you! 😎

[SReneeAy]

You, your wife and ministry are a gift. Thanks for this video.

[GodHelpMe]

If you haven't heard today...

You are so very loved
and you are so very worthy
of love.

The hardest part
is learning to love yourself
and to know: it's not all your fault,
and to see: that you're beautiful;
wonderfully perfectly
brilliantly created.

You're stronger than most;
a true leader/warrior in the making.

Keep going
and keep thanking.

Remember Jesus was an outcast
and he suffered more
than any human being
could ever endure...

And the most important message here is to forgive them
and to forgive yourself
and to love all.

Keep walking in truth.

AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER:
I am one with the Divine.
I experience, peace, BLISS, love, and joy:
CONSTANTLY AND CONSISTENTLY.
I experience everything as grace AND AS LOVE.
I am at peace. I honor the Divine within me.

[gracekiki]

The kind of boundary I’m looking for hard to find these days

[matefazekas]

Such a counterintuitive view but it makes so much sense!