I'm not lazy

[Danka]

"I stopped comming to you for comfort, which should have been a red flag for you."
my childhood in a nutshell

[kiriath]

Each one of these vids shock me, in an empowering and sorrowful way.

[toni]

And it just seems to get worse in adulthood when you must work, must care for yourself, when you're already exhausted from constantly performing in childhood.

[JonFlores]

My parents constantly called me lazy as a kid despite being overloaded with activities and school/work. It affect me to this day.

[angry-lucky-catty]

I’m 33 and still working on reframing my thoughts from “I’m too lazy to ___” to “I’m not prioritizing ____ right now.”

[roche]

One of my father's favourite lines was shouting, "You can't be stressed! I am the only one who is stressed."

[Inugmi]

And when you’re an adult and you try try to bring this up you get immediately shut down. Thank you for the validation. 👍

[susangrande]

Ah, so THIS is why my gut has been tight ever since I can remember! And I’m almost 65! My childhood home was stressful and abusive, and my parents’ marriage was bad. I certainly absorbed their stress.

[jameswood]

Me randomly watching cat videos and laughing, swipe up and I watch this and I randomly start crying. How can a 20second clip explain my life after 50 years of living it without having a clue.

[spacegirl]

The truth nuke just exploded. I wish I could show this to all the people who called me lazy, but it wouldn't matter. It matters to me, though. It matters to a lot of us -- now we know the concept and the words for what happened to us. And we know we weren't lazy.

Thank you, Nicole.

[lordfreerealestate]

I developed an autoimmune disorder, perhaps in response to trauma. "You're not sick, you're lazy" is a common ableist trope we hear from both parents and society.

[marijabu]

I'm learning so much from you. I was constantly called lazy in my parent's war zone of a home. Now I understand. Thank you.

[jesslucas]

This one caused flashbacks. Scary accurate

[evilbarbie]

thank you for this. I wish these shorts would pop up on everyone's feeds and force people to listen.

[confettiify]

Oof... yeah, feels like I get stuck in freeze mode so much even still.

[nom_nom]

Yup.
Still feeling like not doing enough even though I fought my way out of that toxic childhood

[suedoenim]

Thank you so much for this one. It's heinous how many abusive parents call their kids lazy because of this and then this pattern continues when many never find a self place to live so this can turn off so it looks like the kid is stuck in a constant state of self sabotage when they literally just can't turn this off to function. Can you make a video on how to get out of this state when you never find safe people in your life if that is even possible? Thanks

[winterqueenkel]

Mom called me lazy and liar everyday for 18yrs. I was frozen and terrified. I never lied but I said whatever to try and keep from being mocked or screamed at.

[purrrrrrrple]

Yes, except I did amazingly well at school because all I could do was read random books that were in the house (like Nietzche and Sheakeaspeare). So now it sounds like I had a cultured infance when I had a very lonely one. I was ✨️perfect✨️ tho, so, invisible.

[TheDavveponken]

This all day at home and bullied at school. My entire adult life I've been seeking a parent and often misidentify malignant authority as safe because I learned from a young age to not trust my gut feelings.