Surviving a Friendship Break-Up: How to Recover from Losing a Friend

Are you grieving the loss of a friendship? Did a friend end things with you and you’re having a hard time getting over it? Are you stuck in depression or anger and not sure how to move back to a place of peace after a friend hurt you? In this honest video (the 3rd of a 3-part series), Shasta Nelson, who typically teaches us how to make new friends or deepen existing friendships, shares with us what she did to help bring personal healing after a friend ended their friendship. Here are some ideas to help you grieve and heal from any friendships that have ended.

For more on why it’s important to practice personal growth in the midst of disappointing friendships and how to best respond to such things as jealousy, judgment, and unhealthy friends, read section 3 of Shasta’s book Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness.

[vanillachocolate]

Isn’t it hard. When someone meant so much to you and their existence played such a big part in your life that you had to look up a video to be able to get over them.

[正直-rp]

Quarantine: Best time to strengthen your friendships
Me: Loses a friend

[theusersam]

It really hurts just as much as a break up from a love-relationship to lose a good friend and companion. Going through it now.

[aubs]

friendship breakups hurt more than other breakups because they knew you so much and you could be yourself with them and losing them feels like losing a part of yourself

[PikaChu...........]

The worst is when I cry, I feel even guilty because I doubt she cries over me too

[Lilnugget_]

I've tried forgiving but it's just so hard. It's hard when the other person puts the blame on me and is not sorry at all.

[patrykburski]

I had just lost a friend. After years he just dumped me like I was nobody in his life and I just cannot handle the pain, disappointment, sadness, feeling of being used, feeling like I was tricked into thinking he cared bout our friendship as much as I did... the worse is seeing how okay he is, everyday. Like nothing is lost, like I really ment nothing.

[Franky_]

Wow a friend broke up our friendship today, I'm watching this while having a mental breakdown

[urmum]

Lost a friend over a argument haven’t slept in 2 days sad as hell

[aliyahrine]

The worst feeling is when you realized they never viewed you the same as you viewed them. It sucks to have a best friend only to find out they never thought of you as their best friend. Also, to be in a friend group with the person you “broke up” with isnt easy since it starts tearing apart other friendships

[helmutrosendal]

what i've learned is that i don't want more "friends" i'm better off alone because they end up leaving me either way

[b.rdeatr]

I was a horrible friend, and I didn’t even realize it. They had every right to leave, they did. I was manipulative, toxic, shitty, even when I thought I was getting better. Please, cherish your friends no matter what, and, don’t pull the dumb bullshit I did. Don’t feel sorry for yourself at the end, either. It’s not good.
Please, cherish the ones you love.

[mohammedzamalkewy]

the worst thing about losing your best friend is that u can't tell ur best friend about it.

[MISSPHOTOGENICBABY]

I was dumped and it was the best thing for me, but damn it still pisses me off lol

[AryanSharma-ioqm]

I knew my friendship was breaking, I was just not ready to let go.

[chocolate]

1:03 1. Grieve the loss.
3:17 2. Forgive anger.
6:13 3. Hold gratitude.
8:03 4. Share carefully.

[juliacalismusic]

I’m too hurt to forgive. I lost so many, I feel like I loose everyone.

[Homoerectus]

I am very unlikely to have this problem, because I don't have any friends at the moment.

[erikaa]

lost my 3 closest friends in the span of a week and it feels like a living nightmare! thank you so much for validating my feelings when nobody else will!!

[corgicompton]

7 years of memories is over... The pain is really unbelievable never knew I could feel this sad