Stop Trying To 'Fix' Your Insecurities

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[RLF]

"Couage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to function while terrified."

[nametho]

The best way to deal with insecurities is to accept yourself for who you are. Don’t change because it looks ugly to others or to yourself. Change because you deserve to be in a better body than you’re in now. A change in mindset goes a long way.

[starlitstealer]

i like the idea of becoming “friends” with your insecurities. instead of seeing them as sworn enemies that have to be fought, you simply acknowledge and appreciate their presence despite knowing that they’re harmful. in other words you’re accepting who you are.

[syrioforel]

“The only time a man can be brave is when he is afraid.”

[rejectionisprotection]

A big part of the problem is treating ourselves like machinery which can be "fixed". Human beings are always changing. To be "fixed" is very static and human beings aren't like that.

[malithsamaradivakara]

Anything we use externally like drugs, alcohol, video games, junk food, mindlessly scrolling through our phones etc. are all ”distractions” we use in order to cope with our insecurities. That is our way to cover the bandage instead of just facing it and going head on. It’s all internal. Start there.

[GotMyTowel]

Face your fears people, you'll be better for it

[dudewhatthewhat]

This is a big reason I don’t personally agree with a lot of “love yourself” messages. Like, obviously I agree people should do their best to love who they are and what not, but often the approach is along the lines of “you think this bad thing about yourself? HOW COULD YOU SAY THAT?!?!?! YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF?!?!” And that just misses the point. People don’t love themselves cause they think they’re flawless or because they wouldn’t change anything about themselves. (The people who do see themselves that way, usually needs a really big reality check.) they love themselves, cause they recognize those flaws does not make them unworthy of love. As well as recognizing that they have strengths as well as flaws. Recognizing those things, makes it so much easier to manage and over come insecurities, because it lets you see yourself in more perspective and from more angles, then if it was all about what insecurities you do and don’t have.

[danielclv]

So, these are basically like debuffs in games. If you have a debuff you don't act like you don't have it, you play around it, like if you get blind on an ADC you don't continue to attack the enemy and take free damage, you kite back and use your abilities until the blind wears off. Same with insecurities in RL, you play around them until they disappear.

[Jayjaychavez]

Thank you! That part about the difference between fearlessness and courage is how I personally teach my kid. I've always said being brave is doing something that scares you in order to accomplish something important to you and being a hero is doing that but for someone else. Fear is important! It keeps us safe! Another tip for anyone scared of animals for example, I found that learning more about them helps ease the fear. So is you're afraid of dogs but your new gf/bf really loves having their Pitbull around, learn about them. You'll feel better prepared and that will ease your fear.

[crstph]

this is so true for losing weight, too. no matter what you look like, it’s so easy to feel like you’re not thin *enough* or thin in the *right way* —the way to overcome that is not to just lose weight (because it could always come back), but to accept all body types and understand that you are fighting a losing battle with a moving finish line. then, goals like “eating healthy” or “working out 3 times a week” can become self care instead of self harm.

[ExoticalT]

Exactly. I don’t “fix” my insecurities, I simply “lean into them”.

…and that works for me. ☺️

[kamielmach]

I was trying to explain this to my friend about my anxiety. My goal was to enjoy my summer and make some travel plans because last summer, I was stuck in my anxiety. She said oh so your goal this summer is to have fun and have less anxiety. I said I couldn't control that. I can learn how to cope. I have to change my relationship with my "negative" emotions and learn how to hold them close, procces them, and let them go.

[aratafreecs]

Thanks for the logical perspective change, it was needed. I've been slowly conquering some of my fears and insecurities over the past couple of months and it's helping me a lot. Fear of heights, admitting mistakes, talking more in group settings, going to the gym.

[abhinavvatsa]

It’s not temporary if you never stop drinking

[SlapDash]

"That’s my secret, Captain. I’m always drunk." - Bruce Banner

[DSteel]

I never tried to get over my fear of spiders. I developed a dislike of them because one scared my nephew. I didn't want to seem like a pathetic adult so I just picked it told him it was silly to be afraid of something so small and not poisonous since we live in Canada and tossed it out the window. Ever since then while I dislike spiders, I'm no longer afraid of them and while I'll freak out if it crawls up my arm, I'm completly fine picking one up with my bear hand. It's easier to change yourself for other people than it is to change for yourself.

[lilystarr]

Insecurity is a security deficiency. Identifying what can be done to improve security is incredibly helpful!

[Locuts]

Love this advise. I have found that my greatest "security" has come from understanding and accepting myself as a very insecure person. Slowly coming to love and accept my insecurity.

[sbs]

This man has such a great head of hair and its making me insecure. Still love you, man ❤