Why victims of narcissistic abuse struggle to make friends

[nunyabeewax]

Venting about little things but never telling anyone the truth, making such an effort to hide the abuse because your embarrassed or confused. I'm only half way though your video but feels like you might as well be speaking about my life, thank you for this video.

[Roethles]

The anxiety attacks and starting to feel like you may mentally breakdown…I definitely experienced that. I would sit and shake and be so unable to think straight. And he witnessed this and absolutely showed zero concern. If anything, he seemed to relish in it. So I had zero peace of mind 24/7. I escaped the narc in 2019 (I was with him for 3 years and he did not start treating me really terrible until I moved in with him, 2 years into dating, (though about a year into the relationshit is when I really started sensing the shadiness/lying/being secretive/never communicating) … after I moved in, it took me about a year to get a plan together and have something in place to go to after I left (that year was pure hell mentally)) and I still (3 years later) struggle with isolating and have issues with getting completely drained when I try to be social in any capacity. Somehow while I was with the narc I did very well in my job and still took good care of my tween son, because I learned to compartmentalize at a very young age due to some things that happened to me as a child. Had I not had that coping mechanism honed, and a good job and options, as well as support from a loving aunt and close girlfriend, I am not sure how things would have turned out, but I am guessing not good at all. I feel bad for anyone that doesn’t have the resources and support to escape these soulless robots.