He Says He's Not Ready For A Relationship, KNOW THIS!

#jonathonaslay #datingadvice #ishereadyforarelationship

[reneef]

When they say they're not ready, listen, your efforts to "flip" the situation will be wasted. Most likely, they are keeping their options open to find the Unicorn they seek - which may be you but that is the risk they take when you move along! It will save you a lot of time! Wish them well and stay on your path/plan. Good Luck out there!

[Linda-eotc]

My experience has been that people are feeling such deprivation. Emotional and social deprivation. A lot of men are so forward right now. It's weird. Total directionless lust. Feels desperate. And the flipside is they are afraid to get close. So it's an intimacy impasse of the strangest kind.

[juliefarin]

I had a man tell me this after 6 months dating. Truth is, he wasn't ready for a relationship WITH ME. He moved on quickly to someone else.

[desireez]

I relate to this video more than any video that I've seen of yours. As matter of fact, I've taken all of my online dating profiles down because of pure exhaustion. I've decided I want to meet someone organically, period. It'll delay things, but I'm okay with that. I've also rid of most social meeting and feeling great about it.
If you're a Beta male, you seem pretty balanced! Definitely a go-getter with this channel and writing a book.

[katlovedreamingpeach]

I've been single for 7 years and still haven't gotten into the 'dating pool'. I am not interested in 'internet dating' at all, I did try years ago and I hated it. I have many issues with it that make it not a good fit for me, but one specific problem I have is the inherent expectation upon meeting someone that the 'connection' is SUPPOSED to be 'romantic' from the get go. I find that aspect of meeting people with the pressure of 'liking them' and of being 'romantically' and even 'sexually' attracted to them before having even seen them in real life to be one of the biggest turn offs for me. That just makes me cringe!

Yes, I am in theory 'cutting my options off' but that is exactly what I want to do. Not everyone is an option. I don't have a car, I don't plan now or ever to have to drive far for a date. If I don't meet them in real life, and feel a reason to want to get together, I am not wasting a second of my time. I love my life. I have many interests. I believe the love story I will create will include meeting someone naturally 'the old fashioned way' in real life, seeing them, feeling their energy, and experiencing an actual connection with a real person who is feeling the connection too.

[patty]

He is not ready, because he knows he can have you. Start dating other guys and enjoy your life. He will be running back to you, if not move on and say next.

[hamptongal]

This segment definitely resonates with me. I believe it's a combination of covid, the responsibilities of work and family and expectations in the dating process. Sometimes it's good to take a break from dating to recharge and take time for yourself...

[Barbara-zopq]

I've had dating fatigue for years. I just don't want to date but I do enjoy getting together with friends and doing shared activities. I think I could be content being single for the rest of my life but if I met somebody I'm open to that. Content.

[karathomas]

This really resonated with me as well. I have been dating someone for 4 months and within a week of us getting together, he obtained full custody of his 10 year old daughter. He is also the type that works a lot and loves his job. So a few months in he told me that he is just not ready to "go all in" for a commitment and he realized there was just too much on his plate. We still talk everyday (we are long distance), and honestly, it feels like we are still in a relationship, lol. However, he mentioned some of the same things from the letter you read. Most people would say, "Oh he probably has someone else, " or something similar. However, I do believe he is not ready and I think he did not realize how much work needed to put into a long distance relationship until he got in one! Plus, I have so much respect and admiration for a man who is willing to step up and raise a 10 year old girl on his own. I can't be mad at him for that one! We do have something very unique and special, but I do believe sometimes it's not just time. I appreciate your videos and your candid and honest feedback!

[pychow]

This vid seems tailored for me. I recently paused all my dating apps profiles as I'm just feeling exhausted from all the dating rituals, the expectations, disappointments etc., and just focus on myself, being alone with myself, and I'm feeling so much better and peaceful from within.

[janereinhardt]

I have met all 3 of the men I have dated long term in my life organically. One of which is my now ex-husband. My 1st was my next door neighbor starting at age 6, and the 2nd two I met in church singles groups where we all go out for pizza, dancing, etc after our weekly meetings in groups of 5 to 20 people. We are always friends 1st.

[paige]

Love the T! Yes, this really resonated w/ me as I’m turning 53 next weekend and been dating since my divorce 5 years ago. BEYOND exhausted! But in these 5 years I’ve had a lover and there’s so much compatibility, attraction and passion yet we both don’t want the pressure of commitment. But I wonder if it’s possible to go on this way until we’re both ready to take it to the next level. I think we both fear things not working out if we go all in. His kids are grown I’m still raising mine. It’s complicated! But I do see a future with him and I just get so confused 😵‍💫

[karlaroman]

This has resonated so much. I feel emotionally exhausted. I am currently taking a break and working on loving myself more before I try again

[Suecampbellaz]

This explanation made clear to me how I feel about dating. I have met someone organically and we have met several times to do fun things (work out together, drive several hours to see the fall colors, music venues) and we have lots in common and enjoy each other’s company. We’re both early 60’s and live in a very small town. That’s the background. There has been no hand holding or kissing - just nice hugs hello and goodbye. I was wondering why he isn’t more assertive in this. Thank you for this video. It is one of your best. Now I know we are still getting to know each other and neither of us may be ready for the responsibilities real dating involves.

[Zenlife-]

I wish more men were that honest. Then we could get an idea where their heads is at and decide if we want to meet at all! I probably would just have a coffee as friends with you. This seems like you aren't ready at this time and timing is everything sometimes!

[valentinanocross]

I like that you shared honestly to her and asked a question.. The question part of letting her have say in it is what feels authentic to me as a. Woman who would trust you. . A month or so ago someone wrote me that he needed time and said we. Could talk about it, but didn't follow through in connectling timely in text, nor any other option I wrote to him that i moved on and I understand and that I believe until a man knows what he wants the sex isn't going to be any good because I'm not going to trust him, and this imo felt best for me not attacking him and also holding boundaries so that someone isn't just trying to weasel, out of just wanting sex. If I made him feel bad with my response, he should have like you used more care and response to show authenticity. When someone says it can be discussed and doesn't bring it up for discussion, then I see this as someone not my equal. I've done a lot of work like you. Jonathan, I think you need to dive in. I think you're beyond ready and it seems when we are about to give up is the one worth the effort. . there isn't a one... There is you being loving and trusting love is given, but wanting that repeat of romance we had in 20s and 30s is very different when we are healthy. I say jump in. Resistance is what I have learned is what exhausts us. .

[womenwhodate]

I can't believe you did literally answer all the questions I was looking answers for haha 😃🥰

Very relatable and honest video, thanks!

[Carr]

Jonathan, thank you! Right on!!! I was trying to figure out what was going on with my self and you nailed it on the head.

[LisaGemini]

I'm in dating fatigue, for sure. I'm exhausted from trying to make good conversations with men who seem incapable of doing so. COVID has made people leery of others and the social skills are really lacking. I wish organic dating would come back! I have no more patience for talking to strangers and I don't seem to inspire instant lust. Which just makes me feel bad about myself, and I sure as hell don't need that. I'm focusing on my spiritual life instead.

[viviennev-thesassyone]

I used to feel very excited about the dating game and was looking forward to taking part once I was where I wanted to be with my personal development work.I view it differently now having been on this channel for a couple of months and certainly, the video today has really resonated with me.Hearing people's dating experience, I feel I have lived the dating experiences vicariously.I truly understand now when people on here( and elsewhere)have said that they are happier on their own.I hope to change my mind in the future but for now, I'll stay happily single like many on here 😊.I'll focus on my personal development work and the reciprocated love from family and friends ❤ 💕