Are Your Parents Manipulating You? | Three Signs They Are!

Why are my parents saying things that make me feel guilty or ashamed? What is emotional manipulation? Dealing with manipulative parents can result in unbearable pain, especially if you don't know how to handle them. Why is my mental health deteriorating over this? These are common questions someone who is being emotionally manipulated asks themselves when trying to figure out what's going on. You love your parents, and thinking about your mother or father being emotionally manipulative can be difficult to navigate. In this video, I highlight three different ways your parents might be emotionally manipulating you.

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Please Note: These videos are not to replace or take place of any advice from a licensed professional. "

Timestamps:
00:00 Dealing with Manipulative Parents
00:50 1. They always pull the Victim's Card
01:26 2. The Guilt Trap to Cross Your Boundaries
02:29 3. They make you feel guilty for expressing how you feel
03:20 You are not the Problem

[Luna_Christine]

Growing up, my parents were very emotionally manipulative(in addition to other manipulation).

One major thing for this manipulation is that; when I was younger, I had some “peculiarities” that weren’t exactly “for boys”. My father did not like these “peculiarities” and as such, I was made to do “manly” tasks like yard work(1/2 acre lot: pulling weeds(no gloves allowed), mowing the lawn(with a reel mower that was purposely not sharpened after purchase). I was also forced to go to Scouts, because my father did it when he was my age and assumed I would enjoy it. I never did, not even once. I only did it for him, to appease his bruised and broken ego(his parents are very narcissistic, which they passed on to him, and he tried to pass on to me).

Being forced to take care of a dog that at the visit at the kennel, I clearly exhibited an aversion to. Yeah, that was a fun one. “To teach you responsibility” my father would tell me. The only thing that having to take care of that monster taught me was that my feelings don’t fucking matter and I should just “suck it up”. (This was a hard one to unlearn, but I learned that, no my feelings are ducking valid, and anyone who tries to say they aren’t doesn’t have my best interests at heart.)

Then there were other aspects of me, which were really only able to come to fruition in the past few years. They do stem to some of the other manipulation. In fact, these aspects of me were the entire cause of the majority of the manipulation I experienced as a child. Going back to Scouts, shortly after I was forced into a troop, I realised it wasn’t for me. I had said how I didn’t want to go, but couldn’t exactly put into words as to why, “I’m not a boy, not even a young man. I’m a young woman.” I wanted to say, but I feared what would happen had I put those words out into the universe when I was young. I was worried that I would be sent away to a camp, or worse, a “boys school”. Because of the emotional manipulation I experienced, I was forced to go through male puberty(it started when I was 17, very late bloomer). And what’s worse, the only therapists my father would trust was a faith based one, so I didn’t exactly feel safe in saying what I needed to say.

There are a lot more things, but I don’t want to bore you…

[drrocketman]

Yes, they were. My mom beat my son, then changed the story. I talked about it with my brother (who didn't witness the event) and the story changed again.
I'm no-contact now. My mom is dead to me.

[prestonsaysheckno]

He says that just because I'm afraid of a lot of things, that makes me a sissy.