50. Advice for queer late bloomers with Eva Bloom

Queer late bloomers, there's no need to feel awkward! Queer sex educator and speaker Eva Bloom joins the podcast to validate all of the confusing baby gay feelings! Eva explains comphet, answers your questions about navigating your evolving queerness, and Eva and Erika LOL about the queer signs they missed over the years (no offense to men in beards, we promise!)

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Host, creator and executive producer: Erika Casupanan
Brand strategy by Natalie Cunningham
Music by Dylan Mackenzie
Podcast visual design by Amanda McCusker
Photography by Clarence Creates

TIMESTAMPS

0:00 intro
2:03 interview with Eva Bloom
4:51 What does a queer sex educator do
9:16 What factors prevent someone from realizing their sexuality until adulthood
11:46 Having limited queer representation growing up
14:24 What is comphet
18:07 Feeling like you’re queer enough
19:47 Choosing arbitrary crushes growing up
21:28 Confusing emotions after coming out
25:50 Common late bloomer insecurities
29:35 Advice for coming out to family
32:57 Advice for feeling queer enough
35:19 Advice for changing your queer labels
37:28 Advice for making room for queerness in a straight presenting relationship
40:15 Erika’s advice for her past self

[DolceSuono]

I remember watching Will and Grace and there being a joke about how lesbians were angry and off-putting. I knew that my father's negative comments about Ellen DeGeneres when she first came out were wrong, and I always felt like an ally when I gained awareness, but when, even the gay community (e.g., a television show, because I was coming from an isolated, religious setting) seemed to be negative about such things, then it just seemed that liking women wasn't ideal. Also taking into consideration the fact that I liked boys, too, I just assumed that I didn't fit into that box, so I didn't have to worry about it. I didn't know Bi was a thing or an option, and it took me decades to accept it.