The Big Secret to Finding Lasting Love | Bela Gandhi | TEDxChicago

[conationenterprises]

It's been said that men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears.
However with age comes wisdom.
Men learn everything that "glitters" is not gold and women learn that actions speak louder than words.
If you want something different you have to do something different.

"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary." - Oscar Wilde

[madinakusman]

I think we should focus not only to find elevator people, but and to be elevator person for someone ❤️

[DayanaDeHabana]

Dream man
1. It's positive, calm, patient
2. Loyal and honest
3. Uplifting, about growth
4. Hard working, values family
5. Supportive and loving

[zero]

like I always say, if you fall in love with other people's character you will find happiness in yourself for a lifetime

[maxliong]

Fake friends are easy to find & easy to lose
But good friends hardest to find & hardest to lose.

[RonRuble]

This is one of the best and most useful TED talks I have ever heard.
I knew a lot of this, but I have never heard it said so clearly, so understandably, and so effectively.
Many thanks.

[cecilechau]

My grandfather: he always there for me, supportive, trust me even when myself don’t, witty, humorous, I feel safe around him,

[yoqiu_]

If only we could teach emotional awareness, empathy and kindness and values in our education system...

[hamryalasad]

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Put yourself first, and then you’ll attract someone similar.

[roccomegofna]

I’m 52years old widow and business owner and ain’t giving up on love yet.💕☝️❤️

[lylemccomber]

Never really had a successful relationship and I am 44. My dream girl would be kind/sweet into the arts and beautiful in my own eyes. Someone who loves to be silly and ok with that

[ZeniferJenZ]

This is the sign you are looking for ❤️

[jihyelee]

TLDR; being shallow will find you "shallow" love. Look for "deeper" traits in people and you'll find deep love.

[amberle]

I cried when she talked about Anna and how Anna took a minute to start dating people who made her happiest. I just was disappointed by a guy who wasn't ready for a relationship. and I did pick him based on the list of being cute and ultimately being a caring good person even though he wasn't tall and he was a little socially awkward. and I'm proud of myself for following the correct list looking for how happy I felt. even though he wasn't at the point in his life yet to commit, and open up yet, I do feel like he was an elevator person.

[brucemarmy]

I raised my hand when you asked who here has fallen in love with the wrong person. The wrong person doesn't reciprocate. I am alone. There is no we against all. The object of my attention and affection not only did not feel the same, but now does not dwell among the living, but in memorial. Now, my late, lost love. It is about finding one you feel good about devoting your time to; everything else is half-stepping. You can 'mark time' only so long, then you are seen for who you are- a pretender in the relationship.

[benjamindover]

Many people just want to be alone and accomplish that by claiming the other person isn't up to their standards.

[RoysPL]

We all have our attractions and our check lists and that largely determines who we consider dating, but most sensible people don't stay with their partners for a longer term unless these people stirr something inside them. We can't choose dating "elevator people" because it takes TIME to build such meaningful relationships..

[ksandknives]

Listening to these at 2x is a game changer, lots of speakers talking too slowly

[joan]

kindness, if a person isnt kind nothing else will substitute

[mysia]

I’ve been trying to apply this to my dating life but even when I stay open to meeting new people, even the ones that don’t initially conjure any particular feelings in me, I still don’t connect to the right guys. Not even for friendship. It makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong. I’ve done the deep inner work and am committed to continuing with it. This is a sensitive part of my life as I truly want to be with someone I can share my life with and grow and learn and experience all sides of love with. It gets tough.