2 Goals Narcissists Seek and One Goal They Cannot Achieve

Narcissists chase after power or pleasure. Their life is all about promoting Self's cravings. The means they miss out on a pattern of life anchored in meaning. Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter outlines these three life goals, focusing on ways to live with true meaning leading the way.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 39 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.

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[enigma.records]

My Grandfather told me 'you can always tell how decent a person is by how they treat their pets'.
And he was right.

[karenlowes]

Have you heard the saying: I hope to become the wonderful person that my dog believes me to be! Hugs to Gus!💕

[Linda-egyq]

Gus is such a sweetie! Yes, I believe our Lord gave us pets to teach us unconditional love. 💞

[janiceweed]

Dr. C, you are a voice of reason and stability in my life! God bless you!

[brynnleapierce]

If more individuals would replicate the unconditional love, loyalty & companionship of dogs, what a better place it would be indeed. I Love Gus❤️

[neiljohnson]

I’m 54 years old Doc, but you’re the kind of human being I would like to be when I grow up ! God bless you and yours 🙏🏼

[RoxieEE]

"But when we talk about the narcissist and their pursuit of power, it's of an entirely different nature [than a normal person's wish for power].... They want to have it in such a way that... somebody has to be in the power*less* position... so, that's where you come into the equation." Talk about nailing it.

[kesmarn]

Wish I could give this more than one thumbs up. It came at a moment when it was really needed. A "friend" has been scolding me for how I have "mismanaged" my life. Proof that I have "mismanaged"? I am far from wealthy, to put it mildly. Part of the reason for that is that I have almost always worked part-time so that I could really be there for my children and grandchild (and aging parent) when they needed me. Also, instead of hoarding money for retirement, I spent it on education and assistance for those same kids. They're all doing great -- especially as human beings. In the current materialistic age, those decisions are regarded as having been really "stupid." And I'm being reminded of that frequently. To the point where I was starting to buy the "stupid" label myself. Dr. C, when you said: "I prefer to invest in people, " a tear came to my eye. That was the first time in a long while that my instincts to help rather than hoard were validated. Thank you. And a hug to Gus. Love the Victor Frankel quotation too.

[zephyrblue]

Dogs are here to teach us about love, compassion, and acceptance. They are certainly more emotionally intelligent than many humans I have known.

[danbaron]

Who wouldn't love Gus? And, Gus is a great name for him.

[patience]

I always believed that life without meaningful purpose is empty even though I wasn't raised to think that way.
Thanks for affirming Dr. 👍

[Leo]

Hey Gus ... you’re a beautiful boy 😌 Got quite the fan club here on your human Dads channel 🥰

[thephoenix]

They have chronic cravings, for constant shallow pleasure and to always stay at the center of attention!

[wisdomfromgeorge]

this was such a beautiful loving meaningful message...
Gus makes me smile!!
Dr. Carter you have such a beautiful face.. when someone has a beautiful kind soul you can see it in their face and dr. Carter you have one of those beautiful kind Souls.
Thank you for helping me and so many others

[sherriflemming]

They can dish it out however cannot take it!

[Victorialands]

Knowledge and affirmation is the power to help gain yourself back. With that and no contact, for me at least, you find you start believing in yourself again and the fog, self doubt and confusion begins to lift. Things become clearer. Happiness and peace starts to trickle in. When you’re out of it and you find yourself looking at it from a healthy objective things become clear. Thank you Dr.C for helping me achieve that and for providing so much for so many. It always helps to have a “Gus” of your own too. :)

[aerdeics]

I have heard your dog walking before in a video :) ❤️ Dogs are my life. I have 13 now, adopted or foster. All of them are rescued. (I moved to a big farm for them.)

[shadowdancer]

Thank you Dr. Carter my N listened. He heard everything. He acted like he didn’t hear until it came to payback or vengeance. I made the mistake of thinking he wasn’t listening. Oh yes he filed every word away.

[ldoiron]

There's nothing better than the love of a good pet. Gus looks like a great companion. Thank you Dr. Carter for all you do, much appreciated. I need to watch all your videos to remind myself that I'm not the crazy one in this relationship.

[robinmartin]

I have seven cats and two dogs. I don't know how I would have survived the fallout from my relationship with a narcissist without them. They love me, and I love them. You can't get any better than that. <3