I Can't Cope | How Finding Coping Strategies For Feeling Overwhelmed Might Help You

I'm the kind of person that gets overwhelmed quite easily. I don't do it deliberately, I just find myself getting stressed and quite often it is the little things. Over the years I have found the things that work brilliantly for me, along with the things that don't so much. I really hope these videos are helping on your journey.

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[davidp]

I finished two years of therapy this past June. I still struggle yet I have good coping mechanisms to work through the rough patches. I like to remind myself "Progress, not perfection."

[TSewell]

My son is due to go to university this next weekend and I feel I can’t cope. We are so incredibly close but it’s good for him to be going. I just want to stay in bed so I can almost forget it’s not going to happen. I will miss him so much.

After watching your video, I’m going to get out of bed and help him sort his clothes out. I’m rubbish at art but I have found painting my numbers and adult colouring is very relaxing and rewarding.

I am a full-time carer for my mum and she’s got lots of complex’s needs so I struggle with that too as duvet days seem impossible.

Anyway, thanks for the advice, you’re like a wise friend who I have never met but it’s good to communicate with you. Tx❤️

[willowwinkle]

💗💗I just love this and feel like it's so important because everyone deals with feelings of being overwhelmed and no coping strategy is perfect. I related to the part where you said "it's the little things" because I always felt like, "I can handle big things" (being a caretaker or dealing with death or big things) because I can be calm and keep it together in moments of crisis, but as I have gotten older I realise that with that I grew up with an enormous pressure on myself to be strong and be on top of things. Little things are always happening and none of us need a crisis to feel overwhelmed. Our brains love to make bigger and bigger yarn balls out of everything: all the little things and threads ... (procrastinations, tasks, random anxieties, worries, things people said, bills, the dishes, etc.) and add that to the yarn threads from traumas or big emotions we're experiencing underneath -- it can easily feel overwhelming at the weirdest times and we can just shut down. One thing that helped me in the past 2 difficult years was finding techniques to keep the yarn ball from forming a giant mega-knot in the first place. Eating healthier food helped. Another thing that helped me was apps where I could list things I had to do or wanted to accomplish. Getting things out of my head instead of feeling like I had to remember and be on top of everything all the time helped me let go of some of that "pressure" (bullet journaling is the same thing - a wonderful tip!) and helped me be organised and see a more realistic picture of what could be done or should be done in a day. Walking and exercising helped so so much. The longer the walk, the more the yarn ball would unwind. I also learned (finally!) that if i do get overwhelmed - it's ok! Sometimes it's ok to "stop" and it's ok not to be strong or on top of everything all the time. Periods of rest, or recovery are part of our human experience .. being still and feeling things is part of life's adventure too. Nobody is perfect and nobody has to handle everything and manage every emotion all the time. I love that you said it's ok to RELAX and hit a pause before your body/brain sends a stronger alarm or shuts you down. If anyone is reading this and feeling a similar way; just know you are ok the way you are... no matter what you feel or no matter how much you are or aren't on top of things. If you get so overwhelmed that it is interfering with functioning, you're not alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Sending everybody big hugs! Becca, It's funny you always think you talk too much or ramble but you always say the most important/salient things in just the right way! 😊💗These are amazing creations that you're making!

[Sarah]

My mom was just diagnosed with terminal cancer and I feel like I’m constantly on the edge of crumbling. This video was perfect timing

[Crimpycurls]

I think we don’t question joy or happiness or having a cold or a tummy ache etc, but when we feel anxious or stressed, we feel like somehow we are failing, but how else can we process those dark thoughts that we all have, that are natural. I think we don’t have to cope every day (as you’ve said). We need to see stress and anxiety as normal. I love how you have learnt to reflect on your own anxiety. I’ve learnt as a much older lady than you that you take things as they come. But you verbalising this, makes me know I’m not alone xx

[The_PaleHorseman]

Hey Becca! Just Josh from the states. I love these videos. I went into the military at age 18 in 2004, I went to Iraq, came home in 2008 to my sister and dad battling cancer, lost my dad but my sister made it. I bottled things up and re enlisted for another 6 years with the army. Deployed to Afghanistan and didn't address my issues, I was in denile. I came home in 2015 for good, I ended up being diagnosed with a heart arrhythmia issue in 2016 and that's how I found you and Peewee, I just bottled up the anger, the sadness, the frustration, and I put on a fake smile to cover up how I really felt. I realized over time that this was causing me anxiety. I had to let things off and write things down. I had to address how I really felt and that it was ok to not be ok at times. I am in a better place now than what I was before but it is a constant partner in life. Age 37 I'm finally feeling like I'm able to live again. I'm on my own, but I'm traveling and seeing the world. I am taking a motorcycle across the country next summer, going to the west, want to see the grand canyon.

[crazydiamond]

Your life advice along with your quirky, funny personality feels so calming. Like we're just sitting together chatting. You are a lovely person Becca.🧡 Love Becca in Virginia USA

[nancypeteja]

Very good Becca....it is soooo important to take care of our mental health and we have to find ways to cope. Making sure that we are putting ourselves first, we can not care for others if we don't. Realizing that we are important and we matter....taking the TIME for ourselves. A warm cup of tea, a good snuggle, listening to Nature, doing something that soothes us such as a craft be it knitting, sewing, reading, art, etc....getting back to a peaceful state to regroup and carry on. May you find your peaceful place and enjoy a cup of tea! 😊❤☕️🫖🎨🖌🐈‍⬛

[BlakeAudenPoetry]

Amazing, as always. Your videos are so vulnerable and honest, I love them 💙

[greghall]

You always help me Becca. You have the calming voice

[Alex-bwd]

I have a friend who can’t cope with traffic his name is Khalid and this video helped him a lot 😊❤

[elizabethperimontclason]

Thank you Becca, for being you, for being willing to open up and being vulnerable and share your journey from now to next. You inspire me. I don't know if this makes sense, but, it seems as though hope may return or be in sight. I appreciate you (and your art does rock!) Thank you for taking care, I'm trying to do the same.

[alwayspeach]

This video really help me a lot. Thank you for being you <3

[debbyb]

Thank you Becca for your sweet words & sharing your thoughts and your support! I really think your videos are helping a lot of people out there, including myself right now! Life can be so painful at times, really overwhelming when too many difficult situations happen one after another! When we try so hard to 'fix' the ones we love, but we're not able to no matter how hard we try! The pain and sadness leaves us numb and feeling like our heart is broken and hurting so badly, that we just can't imagine continuing life without them in it! But we have to tell ourselves that they would not want us to be sad day after day. So as difficult as it is now, we have to think of all the happiness they gave us and remember all the fun memories we shared with them! This is what helps me get through each day right now. Living in the moment, the way she did! Enjoying and appreciating the little things and taking it one day at a time! It's amazing what even a short walk outside can do to help you appreciate how beautiful yet fragile life is! Helping you see things in a more positive frame of mind! It makes me realize that this is why she loved her walks so much!

[martinpickard]

Becca, You are doing so well.
Finding time to give advice and to hold out a helping hand for others show just how we might cope.
Keep up the great work.
And never be afraid to smile, you owe it to yourself and the very special memories you keep 🧡.

[dianerose]

I'm going through that right now. It's like everything is going wrong all at once. I feel like finding a hole and hiding from the world.

[NikomaGrob]

Skateboarding is the thing that helps me cope with pretty much anything.

[MyEnemy]

What on Earth would we do without art?

[hedvika]

😍😍😍😍😍very lovely vido, i like you videos so much😊

[workingmum]

Does Poppy help with your feelings? My animals help me immensely.