Signs Your Husband Doesn't Love You Anymore | Paul Friedman

This serious topic is covered by Paul Friedman with candor and sympathy.
"I learned many secrets. I was able to have peace inside and have hope for our marriage, despite how he treats me. Now, our marriage has changed. He is a totally different man. He is awesome. After 3 decades of suffering, I would never expect this miracle…….and it keeps getting better. How constantly thankful I am for TMF."

Here's the truth of the matter. If you're feeling your husband doesn't love you anymore and there are all kinds of degrees of this. Let's back up a little. Let me tell you right now that this is extremely fixable.

Most people wait too long before they start addressing these kinds of issues but usually not too long so it's still addressable in an easier way and I'm going to give you two ways.

1. If your husband is really insensitive towards you, what you do is you look at yourself. If you love somebody, what are the traits that you manifest? You're very caring so if your husband doesn't care anymore he's become sort of apathetic, not a good sign. If you're looking at other men that's really a bad sign. If he's looking at other women it's also a bad sign. If he's starting to use porn, most women don't do that but if he started to use porn, not a good sign. If he's starting to berate you, put you down, disqualify you, criticize you at the drop of a pin, make fun of you, tease you, hurt your feelings intentionally these are all valid signs.

I may not have hit the sign that is happening in your marriage but trusts your instincts on this because your instincts are probably right on.

What do you do?

Don't freak out. You're married so you have this till death do we part template over your marriage which unfortunately is not highly regarded so much anymore but you're still under one roof. You're still living together so there are major changes that you can make and you can bring that love back out.

Here's the thing and this is a little esoteric granted but it's still the truth. You're a soul, he's a soul. The essence of you is the soul -- that's who you are and a soul is nothing but love so the love doesn't really disappear. What's really happening is it's getting blocked and honestly if your husband is not feeling love towards you anymore or he's discouraged by you and he's seeking love elsewhere there's a lot you can do about that.

It's like if someone comes to you and they want some candy and you don't have any they'll go somewhere else. I'm not saying love is candy but I'm just using this as an analogy so men marry women because women have this hard quality where they can express unconditional love much better than they can, and if that's not happening anymore you just have to turn that switch on and it's the same switch you had on when you were dating. It's the one letting him know that he's the most important person in the world.

Look, if it's got to this degree and I'm giving you this advice and it's very simple. You turn it back on. I'm going to tell you that you might as well go for it. People don't realize, they think marital bliss is some kind of greeting card, imagination thing but it's not, it's real but you need to know how to do that.

Both of my books lay marriage out in a way where you learn what to do and what not to do and the why. You learn about the composite of a man based on his gender, body, mind, and soul and about yourself. You learn how to communicate better. You learn all these things that you really should have learned before you got married and it'll come back together.

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[Blando]

I discovered my wife was having an affair 7 years ago. I was devastated to my core. It ravaged my soul for several years. I was beyond heartbroken. She did not care. She never once ever dhowed any type of sorrow, guilt or regret. In a blink, all trust gone, 16 years shattered, It literally brought me to my knees. I’ve forgiven her for her infidelity, but the feelings I once had for are gone. I don’t love her in a way a husband should love his wife, its more of a basic, have to type love because we have a daughter together. I stayed for our daughter. Our daughter is almost 18 now and told me I should’ve left her back then. Shes right, I should’ve

[azaleasmart]

Your voice is the most relaxing voice I have ever heard .

[Indiasplace]

Your wife is super blessed to have you as a husband

[itsqueencleopatra]

1. Insensitive towards you
2. Looking at other women/porn
3. Berate you, put you down, hurt your feelings.
4. Trust your instincts

[LB-kury]

Lol “don’t go to marriage counseling…none of those things work.” Haha that’s for sure! This guy is brilliant!

[EZervudakis]

My husband said he loves me but is not in love with me. He ignores me when I get him. Hi e said he doesn’t want to talk. He spends most time with helping friends. I’ve tried to be loving and understanding, and he refuses to be around me. He passed me and goes to our kids room to talk with them.

[frigityfresh]

You can be selfish, irresponsible and say you love your husband, then you don’t love him. You just don’t think he will leave.

[reneemoore]

Sounds good. I have nothing to lose by trying. It looks hopeless, but this one video talk give me a tiny bit of hope.

[BJJ_Richie]

your so compassionate Paul, you just seem to come off vert sincere ❤

[TheMarriageFoundation]

1. Learn about and master the mind so you can be happy.
2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways
3. Make unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions.

[berichinlovegrattitude]

Thank you. I needed this. I look forward to reading your books.

[zakiyaboujdi]

I am back to say that this one was a very strong one. My simple mind was able this time to catch quickly on the meaning of you saying that we are souls, and soul is love, so love between couples still there but something is blocking it.
I jumped and went see my husband and I opened up to him while believing YES IT COULD BE FIXED, and it worked 😊
So thank you for your generosity. 💕

[myaamrath]

How!?? Where do I start!?? He wants out.. he doesn’t even want to touch me.. he have no love for me.. 😭

[wmd]

I wish i could meet a man IRL that just spoke to me the way you speak. Not even for romance or anything like that. Because so many men are so aggressive, even with normal speech. The way you speak is so different to most men

[nicoledemerville]

What if my husband says he loves me but never gives me any sexual attention like flirting, play touch while I'm cooking, or give me any sex when I ask or initiate? He only wants sex when he wants it, and he feels like holding hands while watching TV is good enough? He can never tell me what he likes about my body. I tell him exactly what I want and need. My love language is words of affirmation, and physical touch. He is very narcissistic. He also get extremely jealous when he sees a man look at me, or if he thinks I'm saying hi to our neighbors. What the hell is going on? He also says I don't deserve attention. I've changed my whole life for him. Got rid of all of my friends, cook, clean, work full time, raise our son. It's like he wants full control, but won't "reward" me with attention that I need. Seriously what is going on here?

[dynatsarms]

Thank you. I need to hear something like this 😔

[jwoodard]

Hi there this is happening to me right now thanks for video

[shansamra]

And if, my husband always ignore to talk to me, don't want to spend time with me ...

[valeriewhiteneck]

Some of what you are saying is on point, I am very skeptical about your book though, probably won’t be buying it.

[darmakiel]

Dear Paul, apologies if I'm wrong but you seem to always advise to look inwards at our own faults first. I understand this to some extend, but what if one already has a stong tendency to take the blame for everything which has a very negative effect on one's already low self-worth? I would love your thoughts on this – thank you.