Narcissism 101: Hoovering

Narcissism 101: Hoovering//Have you heard of the term "hoovering" as it pertains to narcissists? It's something that happens often when you enter the "discard" phase of a relationship and you must be super aware of it if you are going to learn to negotiate with that narcissist from a place of power and strength. Once they feel their grip of control slipping, you'll see hoovering rear it's little head. Recorded live, this video will give you the answer to the question "what is hoovering?"
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[tkwxbls]

You are so right!!
Smearing then saying I got your back and always have!!! WRONG! They do not have anyone’s back but their own .

[ancamarr]

They can Hoover to punish or take revenge, it is all about control and power...and, of course supply

[jmrtnz]

I am very appreciative that people such as yourself are taking these steps to shine a light on this disgusting and devastating topic. I am recently out of a 14 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I knew this person since we were 15. Got together at 30, thought I'm so lucky, someone I thought that I could completely love and trust, for the first time in my life, and I did. 10 years in and I had went from successful and confident to depressed and suicidal. Only to have that person that I trusted with everything to not care at all when j came to her for help cause I didn't know what to do. Followed by 4 more yrs of me going to a crazy extent to dk every and anything to make her happy while she cheated or did everything to make it seem that way, just to tell that it's my fault and left. And this is the shortest, nicest possible version of he on earth and the saddest part is I'm a very loyal partner and it's been a year but I still love her to this day. And that's not even mentioning the physical injuries she caused me right before she left which im still dealing with.

[jacquelinejacobson]

Got hovered back after a year after I left him. But it wasn't the same - my "knight in shining armor " image of him was gone. Even he himself said "somethings different". When he dumped me a year later, I was relieved! Been 7 yrs no contact and doing well!!

[willowclay]

It's sad that they have to act like fools!

[deanpratley]

German & Chinese. Both races have beauty and brains. Why am I not surprised. Very pleased to find you. You are doing very very good and kind work for humanity. Thank you Rebecca.

[joycedeslierres]

Hi from Michigsn. You have opened my eyes to the multiple tactics of a narcissistic playback. Thanks..more more more

[triciatrenary]

You are fantastic. Many thanks from Virginia.

[judiungerman]

Thanks for answering. He isn’t aren’t letting me get through to him. He insists on getting married to the narcissist and now blames me for the existing issues... we have lost communication because I am being abused now by my own son via the narcissist. It’s a mess!!!

[jammieeberglund]

I’m being hoovered… so I got new ear pods and started silencing again

[Dansyoung]

Totally unreal. Blow up the relationship, attempt to sell the family home (i bought her out), see evidence of a side relationship (looked on her phone but never told her I knew), 5 months of mediation come to a settlement, devastate the kids. The day I am scheduled to goto the lawyer she is having second thoughts, and she admits actually you were right and I was having mental health issues I refused to resolve or address…. Uhhhh too bad, deals done I’m moving on.

[kerrihughes]

Worst person I have ever met as an adult.

[lajimolala]

My narc coworker got exposed by our boss last week. I used to be her scapegoat. But after the exposed, she turned me into her golden partner. The narc started to ignore her previous golden partner and hoovered me.

[flowerchild]

Why would a narcissist still want control of someone years later after a discard? The narcissist didn't seem happy in the relationship, so what's the deal?

[lynny]

How can a state (AZ) force my daughter to live in a state where she has no help, no support, no job due to the pandemic by giving her narc ex who is a 10 yr heroine addict on same high dose of methadone for 5 yrs the power to say no to taking their child out of the state??? He doesn't work because he is mooching off his parents the same way he mooched off my daughter for 11 yrs of the 13 yrs marriage. He doesn't pay child support and due to the drug abuse he was only given 15 hrs a week parenting time. But we live on the east coast. She has no job no money nothing and the state doesn't care. Her father and I are paying for everything in order for her to stay out there to satisfy his 15 hrs which by the way he cancels on a regular basis because he is tired and didn't sleep....blah blah yet he and his parents pay nothing and see our granddaughter every week. What the hell is going on with these laws and is there anything we can do to change this???

[Imnotyourdoormat]

outstanding video on the dreaded "hoover maneuver" but ive seen ORECK commercials where it would suck up a bowling ball right off the floor. good thing no-contact was implemented cause the hobgoblins i gave the spanish-elbow to were all "Orecks." there's Navy video of a crewman getting sucked in an A-6 Intruders jet intake,

[willowclay]

I knew you had European and Asian. You have the cheekbones and straight hair.

[judiungerman]

What do you do if your son is brainwashed by a narcissist?

[KenIsis]

Hi Rebecca Ohhh Goshhhh I missed you was working good lawd!!!!

[JimAustin-xv]

Just curious. What are you academic credentials? If I’m going to follow, I’d like to have a basis. Thank you.