Avoidant Men Over 40 Hide Their Feelings For This Reason

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[Tbnibp]

Ladies …investigate below the water line !!! Totally true Jonathan. Great great advice

[lindym]

The Notebook was a beautiful film! I don't see how it "f..KS up our relationships. All young love starts out as infatuation. We all grow out of it eventually❤

[RaysOfSunshine-uwsc]

I m not anxious for anything! Who the heck wants to get hurt!

[julial]

Lost my husband unexpectedly in January of this year I just found your ty channel ty for doing the video it help my stress he was only 57 anyone who can relate to this please pray for me it really hard to be a widow I really truly hate it and lost 3 pets this year mostly due to old age had a dog name smokey who died the day after my husband died miss my pets and husband

[brenda_rosa]

Yes, anxious also, I was thinking the other day I'm more like that song " Straight On, By Heart" yet have dealt with people that were.. "I want you to want me as I'm undecided about you and willing to throw you under the bus." I was literally telling someone the other day that I cannot imagine what song would be playing in their head? I can't relate to that one iota and can only think men had actually wanted me to feel insecure to prove that I had feelings, Yet I was always really insulted ( because I actually think as much as I feel ) I just wasn't allowed to express myself thanks to unhealthy family dynamics and sometimes when I did express less than happy thoughts it was deserved yet didn't really come out the way I would have liked being so inexperienced at it from having to keep the peace by shutting up all the time. Men don't get today that I had cried so much in my life that I just can't do it anymore, and had to rebuild myself up so many times I'm too tired to pretend like doing it again, Then I had to raise a boy and took on masculine traits stronger than men were for me in my life, So now I'm toughened up and will not be attracting people that think I can be fooled that easily. My pickings are slimmer but that's not a bad thing.

[elipotter]

No, Jonathan. Many women leave for very good reasons.
I left a marriage because the emotional abuse escalated far too far. And what's these days is called coercive control.

In retrospect, it wasn't any fun for me anyway, since he pretended to like my activities only until marriage and then coerced and manipulated me to do what he wanted, even at risk to my health.

But even at the point of leaving, it was because i didn't want my child to grow up and carbon copy this horrible relationship i was in.

That was 27 years ago. I haven't repartnered because I'm not prepared to go through that again or worse, i was busy raising my child and perhaps i simply wasn't paying attention well enough or reaching out or responding enough to some potentially nicer men - I'll never know for sure.

Right now, i simply don't meet anyone potentially suitable very often.

And while men have always found me attractive, I suspect my old age is finally beginning to catch up with me, since I'm now 66 and look 56.

And yes, I take responsibility for my marriage ending. It was 100% my fault - he would have been happy to continue haranguing, manipulating and abusing me till tbe end, & feeling powerful by forcing compliance and upsetting me while i earned most of the money & had babies in command.

And to drive home the point that it was entirely me at fault for ending it, my entire church community including so called friends dumped me too.

[Unning-ws]

Jonathan…lately when someone asks me how my day is, I look and smile, do you really want to know about my day?

[lilliankillian]

Why did he stay for over 3 years and then say he couldent do it any more. We got along so we'll but could not give to much emotion .he deffently was an a avoident .and even after a year I can't forget him .how does this happen.

[lorrainec]

Jonathan- you had me thinking about my work schedule lol I have 2 pt jobs & work holidays & weekends- but yes - Mon Coffee/brunch, Wed dinner, Friday date night & need flexibility Sat/Sun - big date/activities. Maybe pool, park or throw axes lol depends on both my work & children’s sched. & can increase- Hope that makes sense 🙌🏽

[katrinaedwards]

Most women become emotionally invested once sex is involved. Our objectivity becomes clouded...Ladies, take your time....Do you really know this man? Does he really care about you? Actions not words...Have you allowed him the chance to really get to know you for those 100 hours of time together...
Will a man spend the time to really get to know you without sex? See what happens if you keep sex off the table for 6 months...Is this even possible?

[TheWafa]

I think that you were very tuff with Lola. You can get your point through without offending.

[audreymickens]

Jonathon, why do you think an avoidant man hate to be asked questions?

[susanfortier]

I think being unexpectedly widowed at 32 after a happy marriage of 3 years has made me anxious and avoidant. The last relationship I had I could feel the obvious hormonal attachment more strongly than I ever have. Age 68 now, just can’t go thru the heartache anymore.

[verarobinson]

My boyfriend is 63 he is divorced his ex cheated on him now he is very careful he is very reserved sometimes I think it is have to do something with me he is emotionally closed up

[stormiehaworth]

oh how does one get in the hot seat?? sounds fun!!

[ToniFiorenza]

I would love to have a session with you, I am a positive well balanced woman trying to hook an avoidant

[desiemehrabian]

So what are the avoidants afraid to say? Their own feelings? Like women with duck tape? Both need to take the tape off, be adults

[pamelaholland]

😮Ahhh!
Im so listening to you, been dating older man about 4 yrs this week even, complicated but sort of love him, or am 'whooped'😊 one..., lol, we were doing the 4 nights a week sleeping together, he is sexy 70 ish, I'm 57 ish, he was hospitalized recently, brain bleed close call hospitalized, scary, but from listening 2 u before, Im seeing him pull away a little, hanging more with his family, (14 kids, so, I knew that would have to be, but ive always felt like #2, You, Me and She ok J ) ex wifes, etc... if im not imagining it.. hes like my best friend though, sing together, 2-4 nights a week, so, Im not reaching him i feel and maybe times up... I'm feeling sick inside, and anxious, he doesnt text, we arent tech savvy, new phone hasnt even read my recent texts, and last year my mother moved into my apt, stopping my 'love life' with him like 90% Ahhh! I say again....
??
What should I do, give him room or grab him up and say hey.... wtf J

[JonathonAslay]

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