Dear Overwhelmed Moms, Self-Care Isn’t Selfish | Liz Carlile | TEDxColoradoSprings

[roxannesmith]

I started crying in the store today because it’s the first time in 3 years I have bought new clothes for myself.

[alyssastarr]

The world needs to normalize that PARENTS DESERVE BREAKS! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
ESPECIALLY mothers because there is IMMENSE pressure on us, single or married.

[jessicasarahliddell]

I became depressed because my partner worked 2 jobs and left me on my own for months when he travelled abroad I couldn’t cope with the children 24/7 around the clock I began forgetting to clean my teeth not having even enough time to shower when I realised the effect of the constant pressures I put my daughter in part time nursery which gave me enough time to have a bath do my makeup paint my nails etc. There was a lot of judgement people said I didn’t care about my daughter because I had put her in nursery for 3 hours a day it wasn’t that I didn’t care it just meant that I had recognised that I was human too.

[Lynwen]

I’m watching this with headphones while my toddler is having a tantrum. All the feels

[NB]

The visualization of having your 5 year old self sit with you was incredible. Thank you!

[FaithMatini]

Love this! I'm a single mom to twins and I have found it so important to make sure that I am making time for me so that I can be the best for my boys!

[keshnisingh]

Ing a mum you put everyone first, being a wife, you take care of your husband but we as woman have not time to even do the small things like straighten our hair, look nice, feel nice, sometimes we take for granted our own need to feel special too feel beautiful

[bethechange]

Yesterday was the first day I had bought myself something that wasn't necessarily "needed" in 5 years. Coming from a mom of 4 with a husband that works all the time, self care is a must that I am starting to realize.

[Jo-khyo]

Self care and looking after yourself makes for a better mum too, I think... More energy and more patience for your kids...

[aprilyount]

My back neck hurt so bad I can barely help him brush his teeth. Haven’t had a massage or spiritual session or live from anyone in so many years. I’m trying. We are all you.

[tararichards]

Its been a Year since I had my daughter and I still feel lost within myself. This made me want to better myself and do more things for me. I have done my hair in a year I have made my self look presentable in a year. It’s time to change and feel good about mw. I grew a child I deserve to feel so amazed by ME. thank you💜

[HappinessForMoms]

I think we underestimate how the simple things can make such a big difference. The aim is quality over quantity. A few mins of self care everyday adds up to a lifetime of happiness for you and your family xx to all the amazing moms out there … you got this 😊

[nathalienewman]

Wow you realised this after 6 weeks after having a baby! It's taken me years! Well done! Good talk

[SYNHolisticSOLUTIONS]

I know what its like to be a mom. Breathing is a great daily tool. Awesome talk.

[TheJM]

The part where we imagined our young selves broke me down. It made me realize I’m not taking care of myself and child me would not be happy. Time to work on making some me time.

[coreyanderson]

I am a single mom, not by choice. But, it's pretty tough. There's no support, and of course, I expect to do the work myself, I am the parent after all. But, the problem is, I am not a machine. I haven't had even one hour to myself in two years. I don't even remember what it's like to relax and watch a movie, or eat hot food. I don't get to take a shower without worrying if my daughter is going to be fine in her crib for 15 minutes, and I wait until she's asleep. So, I shower two times a week. Because some nights I am so exhausted that after I see that my child has gone to sleep, I relax for a minute and I fall asleep right there. I also have to work, like most adults . I have two family members, but no one has ever offered to take her for a couple hours. I don't ask. I did ask once, when I was so tired I did not feel good, but, I was told that I don't need to have any one watch her while I interview on the phone. So, I wait until she is preoccupied before I call a prospective employer back (I was laid off due to budget cuts). Her Father is NOT in the picture, and doesn't help financially after our engagement ended. So, it's a lot of pressure to do it all with no help. I know I need to take care of myself so that I can keep it all together, but it's not possible. I don't want to be a stressed out mommy, so, I always try to be happy for her so that she doesn't see me stressed.

[sallygsan]

This is all true. Until you have a partner who's not supportive. I pray I get out of my misery soon.

[tipsmoms]

The major takeaway: Self-care and self-love is not selfish! Every mom, women need to hear this.

[Shamarie]

I needed this pep talk. Thank you 🙏🏾😊💜☀️

[emilyl]

Self-care isn't selfish, but there was a time and place for it: when you were SINGLE. When you choose to become a parent, you have to accept the fact that your needs are going to have to come after others'. That's what parenthood is. It's no longer about you. It may be years before you get to have a break or to be able to buy things for yourself.