Self-Sabotage: Recognize And Eliminate It With Shadow Work

[rozminhall]

Aye it looks like her arms are sideways because of her sofa!

[movewithmike]

"Self sabotage is self love emanating upwards from the subconscious mind... In a way that I don't understand." You're brilliant, Heidi!

[wesleyhall]

*grabs my shadow*

Get in here buddy, new Heidi vid just dropped.

[hannahr]

Your videos have introduced me to concepts that feel so basic, but are actively changing my life. The idea that my body might be reacting to change, and that the anxiety and frustration will ease as I settle in, is something that has never occurred to me.

[juan_castellanos]

This whole video really resonates. I spent the longest time hating parts of myself because I thought they were either bad or actively resisting me out of spite, and my (unsuccessful) attempts to change were mostly driven by willpower and strong arm tactics. Once I started getting to approach those parts from a stance of curiosity and compassion, I realized that those parts had very good intentions, and in many cases were protecting me from pain and/or getting my needs met in ways that I didn’t even realize. I’m starting to now view those parts as borderline heroic, both because they did their job as well as the did (even if it wasn’t perfect) and because they were able to do so in the environment of my internal system that has been so hostile towards them for so long.

[jontnoneya]

EVERY TIME I listen to one of your videos, you seem to hit so many ideas directly on point. It's almost as if you're giving us the keys to unlocking the hidden secrets of our own lives, no matter how baffling our behaviors are. You make such complex and difficult issues understandable and you always provide practical tips for helping us unravel the mysteries ourselves. I simply LOVE THIS! I've been in a lot of therapy over the years and I've worked with some great therapists and some that seemed inept. You are providing insights that I don't remember hearing anywhere else. I guess it's true, when the student is ready the teacher arrives. Thank you for all you do to help people on this site and in real life. I can't express enough how much I appreciate your efforts.

[loosilu]

Holy moly, the timing. Wednesday last week I was fired from my job because I was caught watching videos instead of working. And of course I knew better. I was "sabotaging" myself. For several years now I've hard a hard time doing work and doing art. I need to figure out what the night shift wants. I cannot thank you enough for this.

[joshliam]

These videos have revolutionized the way I feel about my tendency to "self sabotage, " thank you.

[_itchweed]

at a big low point in my life (or high based on perspective i suppose), your videos have been really helpful for just making me feel seen in a lot of ways i used to think i was crazy or irreparably damaged for in my younger self. healing and growing is a gift, but it is also so excruciating some days (like today). thank you for making it a little more tolerable with your work

[howtosober]

The hard part about this is that when you've been living in survival your entire life, you're constantly having to go against what you really want just to keep a roof over your head. So as true as this whole video sounds, it's frustrating to listen to in how it assumes that we all just have this awesome range of alternative choices available to us that are more aligned with who we are.

[sebastiendeloumeaux]

This night shift analogy is awesome. Understanding that conscious and unconscious parts of myself are working for my good but with different priorities is life changing. I have always thought that teamwork is important and it is exciting to realize I can build teamwork within myself. Oh and the realization that everything has trade offs. I am pretty delusional when I get excited so I now understand why I am awlays so resistant to changes when I start a new project. I feel so protected by my shadow now. 😍 Thanks so much Heidi for this enlightening explanation ❤ I can feel my mindset changing after every of your video.

[EightyFourThousandss]

That "imagine your day-to-day" advice was really helpful. Thanks so much Heidi!

[JeanneBowman]

I"m going through a bit of a crisis right now and your videos are extremely helpful for understanding WHY I am struggling so much. Thank you so much for making these videos- this one especially, it speaks to something that happened to me that I've really been struggling with.

[beanl]

I'm honestly doing so much self-work through your videos....

[ollend]

This is the most helpful and lucid way I’ve ever heard the role of the inner child interpreted. Really grateful for you to have made this, Heidi. Thank you.

[amydringering]

Literally got me crying in the shower. 😅 This is exactly what I have been needing to hear. Thank you, Heidi. ❤

[GrymorioDiBarter]

What you are doing here on YouTube with your videos is just incredible.

[bakytasykbayeva]

I like this topic, because it was very helpful to know that I shouldn’t fight myself, but instead listen to my subconscious mind. Thank you, Heidi! You’re doing a great job.

[dseer]

In my case, my sabotage was stemming from the belief that my flaws made me unlovable. At least if I was flawed more than other people then I was undeserving of love from them.

So trying and failing was a major flaw, so I wouldn't even try. I would zone out hard, waste time, procrastinate and ultimately fail and hate myself even more. But at least I wasn't vulnerable to trying and failing in the face of other people who did pass.

[katie.freitas]

I don't know anybody on Youtube that explains all this better than you. Thank you for sharing this info with that much details and clarity for all of us! Thank you. God bless you