9 Signs You're Dating a Man, Not a Boy

I was once a boy, now I’m a man. It took me twenty-nine years to get there, but I’ve arrived. It’s more than most men can say.

And that’s because age has nothing to do with being a man. Age is merely a number—actions define who he really is. But here’s the problem—most women spend their time trying to change boys into men.

Well that ends today. If you’re dating a boy right now, it’s up to you to be a woman and move on with your life.

#1 Boys avoid uncomfortable conversations – men know how to communicate their needs
Even the best relationships have friction. You’re going to do or say something he doesn’t like—it’s inevitable. Boys are passive aggressive, whereas a real man will have a productive conversation with you…even if it’s a little awkward.

#2 Boys only want to hook up – men invest their time and energy in the right woman
There’s a moment in every man’s life when he realizes that being in a relationship makes him significantly happier than chasing “tail” every night. If you’re only hearing from him at 1 a.m. on a Saturday night, he’s not ready to give up his toys. Move on and find yourself a grown man.

#3 Boys will compliment you to get in your pants – men pay compliments because they want you to feel great about yourself
There’s a huge difference between delivering a compliment to get something and delivering a compliment to give something. Real men are givers because they know a real woman will reciprocate.

#4 Boys live day by day – men work hard to build a future for themselves and their woman
When you’re only focused on making yourself happy, you can party every night and be lazy every day. Once you realize that other people are relying on you, you’re willing to make the sacrifices you need to support your family.

#5 Boys are intimidated by smart women – men are stimulated by them
If he’s insecure about his own intellect, he won’t risk it with a smart girl. The boy will stay in his comfort zone, whereas a real man wants the challenge of a smart woman.

#6 Boys make promises they can’t keep – men say it and mean it
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was telling a woman I loved her when I didn’t mean it. I was a scared little boy trying to make a girl happy. A real man will tell a woman how he feels when he feels it. And if it’s not there, he won’t make it up.

#7 Boys avoid any chance of rejection – men face their fears and go for it
Here’s the thing, both men and boys hate getting rejected—no matter who you are, rejection sucks. The only difference is that a real man will push through his fears and go for it anyway because you’re worth it.

#8 Boys don’t set priorities – a man realizes what’s most important and makes you a priority
A real man wants to spend his time with the people he cares about. And if he’s dating you, he cares about you. He will want to be with you and only you.

#9 Boys put you down – men encourage and support you
Scared little boys will try to drag a woman down with them as a defense mechanism. A real man understands that he will grow as a man if his woman is growing as a woman.

[DeSeannMaye]

"Boys will be intimidated by a smart woman, a man will be stimulatef by a smart woman"...you just earned yourself a subscriber.

[andremcleod]

A man creates and a man gives. A man works hard everyday of his life in order to achieve not only his mission but the mission of those around him. A man gives everything of himself to fulfill a higher duty.

[FuneralRoses]

WOW! I was happy how you said that a real man is willing to sacrifice and uplift for the person he loves, that's how my Dad raised me and my brother. He always challenged me as a little girl to be fierce in my convictions and self-confidence. I still remember the day he cried because he was "proud of the woman you (I) have become" after we had a conversation about why I don't date anyone at the age of 27. His respect for me as a female and as a human being has always inspired me to try for the impossible even if I don't succeed, and to respect people even when they don't respect me.
Thank you Dad!!! <3

[oneandonlynitarosedale]

So true I feel so much better watching this now, cause I'm young and I had to learn things the hard way. I never grew up with my father to know what's the difference between a man and boy. Going through my experience was very tough, but I always tell myself "if something doesn't feel right then back away from it". I know now what I should be looking for now, hopefully I will find it.

[Skorpia]

btw Ive met 21 year old men who are gentlemanand 40 something yr old boys who are abusive;)

[Skorpia]

love love love this vid! men make it happen, boys find excuses.

[luluzyz]

the bring me down part is so true, i want to help him to grow too, but he seems like not ready to open up yet

[madeleinleroux]

I've found that it doesn't matter what age a man is they all mature at different ages for instance my bf is 22 and he acts more like an adult than some of his older friends aged 25-28 like he knows what he wants in life and he has his priorities in order and it seems like I have always been more mature than most girls my age which is why we seem to be growing and maturing together no complaints little friction but that's normal

[theprolificnetwork]

I Agree with Every Point just want to add, There's a time and place for awkward confrontations and a man knows when's the appropriate time for effective communication.

[HavingAGreenDay]

Men take so long to mature. I wasn't able to find emotional maturity in a man, until I accepted a man 8 years my senior, in his mid 30s. All I encountered before that was spending their paycheck on video games, cheating, and self-sabotage. I now have a relationship with an emotionally mature man, who sees the big picture, thinks long-term, and doesn't sabotage his relationship, success, and reputation for the instant gratification of an affair or a video game. The worst is when a guy presents himself as a man and then you find out he's still a boy. Be careful.

[wobina]

You say that men like to be challenged by a smart woman, but how do we know where to draw the line between being submissive and feminine, but not having to pretend we're stupid? I don't want to make him feel stupid by something I said and turn him off etc...

[irenecarina]

I seriously like videos that get straight to the point without all of the silliness

[Don-uwrh]

I agree and disagree....I agree, it is better when there is friction and people aren't afraid to work it out, because that's the true sign of a solid relationship; relationships aren't always about good times but the bad times you work out. I disagree that men realize they don't want to hookup because a relationship will make them happy. When people say "I want a relationship, " what they're really saying is "I want to be happy." But why are so many people miserable in relationships? Why do most marriages end up in divorce?

It's because people are using things to make themselves happy. If you're hooking up to be happy, then you'll fall. If you're searching for love to be happy, then you'll fall too. True happiness is within you. I've been in relationships that are worse than being single: manipulation, horrible family members, toxic emotions, etc.

I also disagree that "real men will make you his priority and only want to be with you." A real man may be secure with himself and the relationship. He may love himself and his time just as much as he loves you. Insecure people will take a man's independent personality as a threat to the relationship. If you aren't looking for happiness through someone else, you won't be insecure. YOU make you happy. If your man is the sole source of your happiness, then he might as well get a robot: something he can program just as easily without having to kiss your god awful mother.

[Strawberrysunset]

Thank you for this vid. Hell yeah he dragged me down! Before my relationship I felt happier. And I felt this relationship screwed me up because it brought out the worst in me. I was more about being positive and he would be doubtful often and over time, I started thinking like him too. And we'd always argue and he left me. And now he's with a girl that is known to steal other people's boyfriends. He's with the bitch he deserves. Now I gotta build myself back up all on my own.

[hoasam]

I don't want boy's at all their my pet peeves actually 100%, i only want a mature man.🤘👏👏👊✊😀😄😊😁

[monkeytrollhunter]

I'm glad that I am a man, not a boy as far as this video goes. However, fighting an uphill battle in my life for so long, trying to better my education and career while I grew up in a financially disadvantaged household, I was too busy to date. :((

Edit: What I realized is that I don't need to be bummed out because some women just make poor choices and do this to themselves because they are immature themselves.

[mahbodtarazmehr]

I can't believe how much i loved this video. Liked And Subscribed

[jenwendy]

One of your best videos for me. Even when they are near 40 - it's unbelievable. Thank you - I am keeping these in my back pocket.

[zahraliang]

boys with low ego....my ex would make me feel guilty when i have done something great or even send a pic to him, he d tell me i look so cute, yet he looks like shit. thank god it was over

[KINGTHEYORKIE]

I totally agree!! I was dating a boy, and he always made me feel bad about me and my business ideas and my thoughts.