Top 10 Behaviors and Traits of the FEMALE NARCISSIST

In today's video Jill explains the most common personality traits and behaviors of the female narcissist.

Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.

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[edrow]

In my experience they are not toxic to everyone. They are toxic to those who are close to them. Everyone else might think they're a harmless and good natured person. It's important part of narcissistic abuse as it means it can be hidden. But abuse is still abuse.

[Cassandra]

They NEVER EVER apologize or admit they are wrong; Even when they are called out or you have proof....then will do anything to never take accountability for their actions!

[TheCorvairGuy]

The best way to deal with a narcissist is to not deal with them at all. Get as far away as you can.

[slothnugget]

My ex-girlfriend was mad because I wouldn’t introduce her to my family only after 2 weeks of dating. And she flat out told me to my face that she thinks boundaries are pointless and stupid.
And after watching this video, she literally show cased all these traits, within 2 months of dating.. I ran for the hills! I’m lucky. I dodged a bullet.

[Axess-svnq]

There is one thing that people REALLY need to accept about them. They DON'T change - ever. They're very comfortable in who they are - no matter what they project outwardly. The female covert likes to pretend she's the victim of everything - even herself. She'll over-emphasize her struggles with depression, etc., for sympathy and attention. She doesn't deal with life. She just suckers other people into doing that FOR HER.

[russellhawkins]

The 10 points of the female narcissist are:

1. Extremely competitive (I’ve noticed this is common in male narcs too.)
2. Overly concerned about her appearance. Superficial.
3. Extremely jealous. (All narcs are.)
4. Overly sensitive to criticism.
5. Uses her sexuality to advantage.
6. She will manipulate you with punishments. (An expert at the silent treatment.)
7. A shameless disregard for boundaries.
8. She is materialistic. (Likes to provoke others to be envious of her.)
9. She is a drama queen and loves Dramas.
10. She will pit people against each other.
Excellent summary and points.

To which we could add:
11. Highly dismissive of the achievements of others. (Dismissiveness of others achievements is one of the principal aspects of the narcissist. A stock in trade as it were.)

[seventhson]

Narcissism is a "personality disorder." Personality disorders are the most difficult to change because the really BELIEVE that there is nothing wrong with THEM.

I was brought up to be a "nice guy" and a "gentleman, " and a "giving" person. This caused me to be a MAGNET for narcissists. It took me a LONG time to realize that it wasn't something wrong with me other than I was tolerating it.

[valentinli]

Glad to see this video. Our society seems to spot a male narcissist or psychopath readily, but we seem to have a blind spot for the female version.

[sarahmurphy]

My mother was a narcissist. So cruel and wicked. She would beat me nightly to the point i would wet the bed till i was 16 with fear. I left and moved as far away as possible but she still managed to carry on the smear campaign against me. When i married and had my first child she told everyone she wasn't my first child. My heart just broke knowing she would carry the abuse toward my daughter. She died alone with none of her 4 children having any contact. I didn't shed at tear as horrible as is sounds i was relieved.

[jellybean]

"Shameless disregard" for your boundaries is an understatement.

[larryemenestrina]

I’m sure I was married to a female narcissist for 11 years leading me to bankruptcy. It took intervention by friends and family to take me out of that relationship.

Now after 10 years of separation, divorce and bankruptcy she is reaching out to me through texts, being super nice, loving, friendly and totally complimentary. She knows my buttons!

I feel like she is spinning her web entrapping me in her her attractive web! It’s still difficult to resist!

[eddiehenrik]

I've looked into Narcissism a fair bit when I suspected a female 'friend' of mine of being narcissistic. Unfortunately, I was her supply. Your video just summed everything up perfectly. I am happy to say that I am no longer the supply she craved.

[piousone]

Society's focus is CONSTANTLY on narcissistic men, but the fact is that narcissistic women are rampant!

[scottdunn]

After 2 restraining orders, 4 months in jail, 6 months house arrest... I am convinced she was sent from the fiery pits of hell. So glad to have her out of my life.

[Cassandra]

They don't care about your feelings when you tell them how you feel! If they don't like what you are saying they will ghost you....then randomly reach out as if nothing even happened!

[cathtf]

This explains why my achievements were completely disregarded. I couldn't understand why I never got even one word of praise or encouragement. Complex.

[Mog]

My ex wife was jealous of the attention I was getting from friends, when I was diagnosed having a tumour in my neck . It was actually strangling my spinal chord . I will never forget her comment after I had my diagnosis after an MRI scan . In tears she said what shall me and Beth do if you die . ( Beth was our dog ) anyway I survived and had custody of the dog .

[M.C.Blackwell]

My mom and I are both redheads and she told me when I was a baby, people would stop and say how beautiful my hair was and she said every time it happened she'd be thinking "what about MY hair?" I couldn't believe a mother could be jealous of a baby; I'm so proud of my dog when she gets complements so how much more proud would I be of my child.

[chadkent]

Lived with this for 4 years and it destroyed me...5 years later I'm strong as ever and so glad I won't make the same mistake

[maxstone]

You just described most of the toxic women I've known and avoided in my life except my mother. That's why I had a happy, healthy and prosperous life as a single 65 year old man. 😃👍