How to stop controlling your partner in your relationship

#relationshipanxiety #rocd #relationships #breakups #ocd #anxiety

[abbyfloresita]

“If I’m not nitpicking, what do I do with this energy, this fear that I’m feeling inside?”

— “Grief and anger from all the acceptance, love and care you didn’t get” are what usually come up if you sit with it long enough

(Notes for myself, already tearing up a bit as I typed it out)

[luz]

I love this because I use to be like this and I’m really trying not to. I felt so bad my boyfriend would bring up the fact that I only picked on the bad and that’s when I realized I never probably went out of my way to show I was thankful for all he did but when it came to the “bad” I was so quick to pick at it

[babyxox]

You’re spirit and voice is so internally calming, thank you

[consciouschirag]

ONE WORD: BRILLIANT.

How about instead of invading & controlling others, you just sit with that feeling to do so for a while??
What is so uncomfortable about your life that you have the need to go & invade or control others??

[Neonb]

Try to accept, be grateful for, and appreciate the things we have! Really great advice

And for me I really have to not pretend everything is perfect all the time as a way of coping with that

[kaybase]

All the years of looking for answers and solutions just summed up in a short video ❤.

[Oshunpitcher]

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Every External Problem which is Happening to a Relationship is a Reflection r Indication of a Problem with the Relationship

[ixvamp]

Damn… I wanna send this to my girlfriend, not in a petty way, but to help her. We have gotten into fights and I have done my fair share of wrong, but she can become pretty controlling too, and its 100% subconscious, I know she can’t help it

[RBV]

I need help in getting my jealousy and insecurities in my relationships. My current one l see it going towards matrimony. I need to control this problem before l destroy it😢.

[Psychiatricnerd]

Nailed it. I do have grief and anger from my father peacing out at 3. Now my marriage is in shambles because I’m so insecure and controlling. I’m seeking a therapist but don’t wait too long like me.

[Godlovesu]

I did not know that being nit picky was a sign that you’re controlling. I knew it was bad, but not that it was just you trying to control them

[josette]

This is me, it’s driving me crazy. I’m pregnant and it’s mentally hurting me. I want to be mad at my partner and it’s terrible, hit me hard when you said i want to control because i feel out of control inside. 😢

[Godlovesu]

I’m still a little confused on how to fix this in myself. I don’t understand what to exactly start with. I don’t know how to make the connection between the love I got as a child to being controlling.

[thesacredbombshell]

Wow that last part brought me to tears.

[mrguy]

I kinda just found out I was a control freak and am now realizing how controlling I am

[maxismax]

Good content. I had trouble hearing some of it so captions helped.

[Faithandseekerofchrist]

If I don't like how they are then I just dumped them because you can't change people and control people because that is not love. Love is accepting people for who they are and I don't want to try and make a project out someone and instead give them up so this way they can find someone else that will love them the way they are.

[ARMYGIRL-xwby]

Idk but he get angry so much also if i did same thing he will never come back ...im already treating him good but when he get angry he hurt and say bad words 💔

[Eric-nhyb]

How do your services work? My wife is extremely controlling and would lohe for her to try and get help in this regard.

[DavidFernandez-ol]

Asking for a friend and advice I think I’ve been negative, jealous, controlling, selfish, that my partner doesn’t texts me as much or call me as much and I feel distant coming from her. Even thought she assures me she loves me and that I’m overthinking. When I notice the body language and attitude towards me. What can I do to make things better ?