How To Communicate with ANGRY Narcissists :5 steps to dignity & grace

How to communicate with angry narcissists: when you don't want to argue. How to communicate with dignity and grace. Respectful communication techniques. 5 steps. How to negotiate with a narcissist. How to not argue with a toxic person.

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I. Allegro and III. Allegro BWV 1052
Mozart - Overture to The marriage of Figaro, K. 492
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[raccuia]

If you are the unfortunate person who cannot get away from the narc any kind of interaction with the narc is going to be like walking through the gates of hell.

[Spritsailor]

Anger blocks the light of logic. Since narcs operate from a totally different set of rules, one of their best games is to get someone mad enough to say or do something they can repeat to make them look bad.

[kdalessandro]

Thanks for the tips. It's very frustrating when a person talks at you instead of with you. Meaningful conversations with narcs are rare since they listen to respond instead of listening to understand. Add hearing impairment to the mix and it's really bad. 😔

[stepheckstein]

I like that your videos are short and concise. Overall- fantastic information. Thank you :)

[MissClarinda]

Well, the most helpful way to respond to angry narcissists, to me, is: "Interesting. Why are you telling me this?" (when you rather want to say 'yelling' instead of 'telling' haha). Then they look at me like... huh? She's not getting angry? I need to explain myself now?? It's like playing chess. At one point they'll get stuck.

[jeskeepinitreal]

just watching random stuff on the video was zen and had an hypnotic effect for me. Remember these steps without getting out my notes, I must.

[imck]

That was good. Good audio quality! Short n simple w no distractions. Sunk straight into my brain. Couldn't help it. lol. Yes! Take turns listening and reflect back!

[newandoldtech]

Ask them if they want to have the discussion whan they feel better. Works better if other people are around. You can fain care, and the narc is exposed to the people around. An angry narc does not want a discussion. They dont want that no matter what they show on the outside, but as thay have so much anger on the inside, yes you guessed it, never ever want a serious discussion.

[sallyanne]

I recently started working at a restaurant and your videos have really helped me out.

[jedistayhi]

The angry narc is moving out!!! It's affirmed. His family (mom) has already booked her ticket to arrive on Tuesday to help him move!! Earlier, I felt a serenity that I hadn't felt....in I don't know how

[neilshepherd]

Hi. Thank you. It can be a little fun to counter-manipulate sometimes, but also good to try to communicate effectively without going nuts first. Having these steps to follow, or at least refer to, can hopefully slow frustration from building too quickly in the moment. Being interested in photography, and dogs, it's a beautifully artistic and engaging and calming vid. Cheers. :)

[nilgiridreaming]

HI - I won't conduct a conversation with the ex (narc) as he is only interested in one-up-manship. But he has a way of putting bullets into other people's mouths and its they who spit them out at me. So far, my tolerance of the outbursts has resulted in maintaining the status quo. I think I am now truly hated by those I love. He wins - I have to adjust to that and maintain who I am, rather than have a melt down. I have to pinch myself during the encounters and remind myself that I am a decent human being - not the crazy he wants people to believe I am. It's a puzzle, but I guess if he can convince people I am crazy then what I know about him - if I ever disclosed it among the family members - can be dismissed as me being delusional. He desperately keen to have people believe there is something instrinsically 'wrong' with me or about me... I am getting heartily sick of it....

[eccesignumrex]

'oui' statement - As IN: "Yes. I am awesome!"
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[Babu-krcr]

If narcissists are insincere, why would you want to communicate with them? I thought the point was to get rid of them.

[selena]

Sasha, I wrote you a post on community. I can't write you all. This persin won"t leave me alone. This person is very hood with IT, She said: I can't be as sociabile and friendly like you. I am so tired. I see this person every day. Pease help me in a way.

[chrisb]

Seems that I find myself consciously hesitating to relate back to an experience of my own as said in step 3. The more I've immersed myself in all manner of resources to help understand and come to terms with what I've only recently discovered was (suspected) covert narcissistic abuse, I worry that doing so may come across as falling into narc-ish or cluster b-ish sort of behavior. Idk.

[Taifune]

If I just tell a past event, they will just ask when, specific time day and all. That is pointless. There is no way I can possibly keep track of that and record all conversation

[faec.]

My narc has been in a bad streak for the last four days. Yesterday he bellowed at me because I yelled at him to a normal degree. He bellowed so loud you could heae it through the walls. He knows that embarasses me. I was worried we'd get a noise complaint so I panicked and tried to clamp his mouth as he was literally hollering at full volume. He tried to yell out the window that I was so "violent" and it was my fault for snapping at him earlier and treating him so badly.
The so called bad treatment was snapping after being woken up when napping while sleep deprived. I called him out for that and a few things and he went nuts.

Right now we are fighting because we watched a comedy movie and ate a nice meal. I had my guard down and was being honest about some things that had nothing to do with him.
He normally complains that I sugar coat things & am too optimistic. So I've started veing more honest and speaking my mind.
Turns out even that was a trap because now he is painting me as a negative whiner.
I pointed that contradiction out & he said that it was true & he feels I am polarized with black & white thinking.
He may have a point...but the manner that he drew attention to this is not healing at all, invalidating and hurtful.

When I told him he is hurting me and not helping me he said he is challenging me & he doesn't need to validate me.

I don't feel positively challenged or that I learning. I feel belittled and shut down. I do not respond well to these tough live methods, it just brings back bad memories of my Narc mother.
He claims it's not tough love, stormed out saying "never mind"

He didn't bellow down the house this time, but I still feel lonely, unheard and frustrated.

How do they always win???

[aletriestolive]

Hello everyone, why do the sub appear only in korean?

[soniajoy]

Everybody mocks everybody in the family