Don't ARGUE Or FIGHT With A Narcissist… DO THIS INSTEAD | Dr Ramani

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[RobAnthonyDire]

Biggest mistake I ever made was thinking I could call them out, forgive them, show them kindness and then they would change and become a better person. It only escalated the abuse

[Kookacola]

It is so frustrating when the Narc don’t take accountability and will never apologize for what they’ve done.

[toyabdool]

Narcississt is an angel of light in the outside and an angel of darkness in the home .

[CityCinderella]

A narc is never wrong. It's always you. and they love to keep the argument alive.

[jeffbyrnes]

*Never* tell a narcissist your vulnerabilities.

[bobspamail]

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
~ Proverbs 4:23

[djd]

My Mom died in February of this year. She was married to my Father for almost 69 years. She attempted to leave him for YEARS, since we were kids, but always believed the love bombing and empty promises he'd make and he'd soon discard those promises upon her return. Years of narcissistic abuse caused STRESS daily. I believe it absolutely played a huge role in shortening her life. She had stomach issues. I'd say Mom needs to see a gastroenterologist. Why? He'd ask, "She's had stomach problems all our marriage.". Yeah....she died suddenly from ischemic bowels which led to sepsis, adrenal dysfunction, heart attack and death. I miss her. But she's FREE at last.
She used to watch your videos. They helped her. Now I am watching them, gaining more insight on not to allow my Father to use me as his next supply.

[ksdcili]

Healthy relationships are about balance, respect, compassion, and mutual regard.

[dfuk]

1. Ignore their antics 2. Show them that you don't need them by actions 3. Ignore 4. Let others witness 5. They will pay with their own actions and karma 6. Sit back and laugh and watch 7. Don't save them 8. Keep laughing

[lbanks]

My sister is a fierce narcissist. I avoid her as much as I can. I could never imagine being married to a narcissist. I send so much love to everyone living with a narcissist.

[duintje]

My mother made all family members flying monkeys. I had to turn my back to them all.
I gather it's better to be lonely than being made laughing stock, being lied to and being ignored.

[ftgqqmg]

He was diminishing me, gaslighting me, minimizing my feelings, and hating me when I was physically unwell with severe allergies and menstrual monthly pain and nausea. When I was diagnosed with Sensory processing disorder and hyperacusis, which made it difficult to find a regular job, he was still saying that I was exaggerating and pretending. No matter what did, I never was good enough. He destroyed my persona and my self-esteem by constantly belittling and attacking who I was. The biggest shock was when he started to blame me for his own insecurities. This is where I realized he would not stop until he destroyed me completely. You know when I had enough? I realized that he made me feel bad about myself and said to him, end of the story for me, we are getting a divorce. Since that day he has been maliciously mean to me (we lived together for a few months) because I was the one who petitioned, he tried to punish me. It's a nightmare not only to be with a narc., but also to leave a highly unhealthy relationship like that.
I’m happy I divorced from the narcissist ! ! !

[tyardovdabulldht]

The Best way to deal with a Narcissist is to not deal with them at all! Remove them from your life and be on your way!

[lezeldeguzman]

However, it is inevitable really. Due to the fact that narcissistic people push you to your limit, you always end up arguing with them. They have close minds and you'll end exhausted with just even a little talk with them. They'll always find fault in you. Respect yourself and just DONT ENGAGE.

[elizabethwilliams]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[teresapage]

I can't wait until I am strong enough and financially stable enough to leave this relationship - it is so toxic and it's literally draining me

[BGDSP]

I'm the husband of a women who has a narcissistic family that has used her as a punching bag for years. When I came along, they hated me because I spoke plainly and called them out for their abuse. I took my wife away from them and they lost their shit.

We rekindled a relationship with them after they apologized and it took years to build trust again.

They shattered it by attempting to take control of her again. I have made it clear I'm fully willing to be their punching bag if it means protecting my wife from their narcissist, evil, manipulative behavior. I'm ready for war.

[WinteryRay]

1. Don’t call them out. Understand the pattern for informed decision making
2. Grey rocking - disengagement, do not take bait, do not go deep. Do not share achievements or pain
3. Fire walling - do not let important or sensitive information in out
4. Have sounding boards and support
5. Radical acceptance of the limits of this relationship (incl. not calling them out)
6. Distraction

[peterfong]

1.do not call them out.
2.put your energy into understanding what all this is about.take the new found knowledge and use it to your decision making.
3.Grey - rocking . Not sharing your pain, just sticking to superficial topics.
Fire walling is another level. The boundaries that keep your intimate knowledge from them.
4. Turn to a social support group or friend. Vent in a space where you are safe.
5. Radical acceptance. Calling it out is potentially harmful.
6. Distractions- pick up a hobbies. Do something else. Watch a show or movie is helpful.

[maxinedavieds]

Great video! This quote came to me after many years of dealing with a narc sibling-“You can never win with a narcissist. But you can’t lose if you don’t play the game”. Appealing to their sense of fairness, humanity, compassion? Forget it. They live on their own planet. They simply don’t care.